| 4/4/2008 10:06:18 PM | Does the age of their children matter to you? | |
luvzhugz12
Richardson, TX
age: 42
| Is there anyone else who feels this way? My children are now grown so when I am looking for potential partners and see that they have young children I tend to shy away from them. Even those that don't have full time custody still need their children in their life but I feel as if I have completed that part of life and don't really want to do the whole thing over again. Teenagers don't bother me and possibly late pre-teens too, but the little ones as sweet as they may be, that's a lot of years of having children in your life again.
What say you? Is this a consideration for you also, or am I just selfish for wanting to move into the next phase of life? All respectful answers welcome
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| 4/5/2008 12:33:22 PM | Does the age of their children matter to you? | |
luvzhugz12
Richardson, TX
age: 42
| Has no one considered this?
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| 4/5/2008 1:09:39 PM | Does the age of their children matter to you? | |
ssweet22
Fremont, CA
age: 35
| i would think it didn't matter. for me, it's the other way round. a guy of 42 wanted to be with me before. he has a grown up son, 18. mine is just 5 and 2. he didn't seem to mind at all. what is more important it's your relationship with him, he's the person you feel you want to be with him and everything else will just go with the flow...
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| 4/5/2008 1:13:04 PM | Does the age of their children matter to you? | |
carolinaguy71
Boca Raton, FL
age: 36
| No, that means I get to play with all the cool toys that come out!
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| 4/5/2008 1:25:53 PM | Does the age of their children matter to you? | |
magtag
East York, ON
age: 41 online now!
| I think you should be comfortable with whatever stage of life you are in.
I would consider it selfish if you went ahead with a relationship with a man with small children and demanded all of his time and shunned his children rather than stating up front that is not what you're looking for. You are choosing not to take the selfish route in my opinion. You are choosing to seek what works for you. Looking for the type of man that is at a similar stage in life, that will make you feel happy and comfortable and will fit well with you is what you should be doing. I don't see a thing wrong with it.
I personally wouldn't mind small children. I always wanted more children (I only have one) and have been prepared (up to this year) to have more if there was a possibility. It appears my time may have run out..lol! So, I would be more than happy to do the "wee one" stage again. My boy is 12 now. Either older or younger children would be fine with me, but that's a personal choice for everyone.
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| 4/5/2008 1:35:26 PM | Does the age of their children matter to you? | |
unc005
Seagrove, NC
age: 25 online now!
| No, I don't believe the age of my SO's children matter/are a concern. Up until him, I had never dated a single dad/a man with children.
I had had the opportunity to, but...for whatever f'in DUMBASS reason(s) UNBEKNOWNST to ME...it didn't happen...
One guy had a 8-9y/o son, and another had a son who was 6..so... .
My SO's children are 14 and 12, they know about me, and "as long as daddy's happy, we're happy..".
So...
BTW: I have no children of my own. Two nephews and a niece (all <10y/o) are enough for me right now (in re: to having my own). When the time is right, well...I'd love to have a child, or two. LOL.
HE wants more children, and well...if we're meant to be, then...ANYTHING's a possibility (LOL)... .
unc
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| 4/5/2008 2:18:23 PM | Does the age of their children matter to you? | |
maniacmassager
Lawrence, MA
age: 42
| i think so. i wouldnt be crazy about a woman with really young kids. takes away from your time.
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| 4/5/2008 5:30:10 PM | Does the age of their children matter to you? | |
singleagain50
Greenville, SC
age: 50
| No. The age of the kids doesn't matter. It's the age of the Mother that makes a difference !
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| 4/5/2008 5:43:51 PM | Does the age of their children matter to you? | |
bryneyes174
Loves Park, IL
age: 34
| For me, its the opposite. I prefer to date someone with younger children to teenagers because mine are younger. I feel that they would understand the time restrictions that young children require.
I don't think that it is selfish at your stage with children to want someone who has grown children also. If thats what you want, then you should go for it.
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| 4/5/2008 5:46:40 PM | Does the age of their children matter to you? | |
ptriley
Staten Island, NY
age: 47
| Depends on where you are in life . ihappen to love kids and have a 12 yr myself.I't depends on the situation
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| 4/5/2008 6:24:13 PM | Does the age of their children matter to you? | |
chrissyann83
Redding, CA
age: 25
| I think it's whatever YOU want, is what matters.
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| 4/5/2008 6:41:58 PM | Does the age of their children matter to you? | |
st3v3
Mahanoy City, PA
age: 31
| Not the ages... it's if you act your age. Remember kids come first.. I know if someone doesn't like my little ones.. step off. I don't need someone feeling like they are burdened by my kids. Nothing against people that don't want to deal with it.. but I wouldn't waste my time talking with them then.
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| 4/5/2008 6:46:27 PM | Does the age of their children matter to you? | |
southbuster
Haughton, LA
age: 31
| Doesnt matter to me as long as I'm not whipin thier ass
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| 4/5/2008 8:18:03 PM | Does the age of their children matter to you? | |
eyeswideopened
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 43
| Oh luvz, this thread is perfect!
I too did not want to date a man with younger children. I have 19 year old. I am done with those stages and have no intention of doing it again.
Then.....I opened my heart to Oldeschool whom is a father of two young children (7 and 14). Granted, they are not local but I know his time will be pulled away for visits. I am not a selfish person and I respect his needs and responsibilities.
So, my answer is not to dismiss the situation until you have given it a try. Every man is not like the past. Every child deserves a friend.
I hope this helps.
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| 4/5/2008 8:20:43 PM | Does the age of their children matter to you? | |
magtag
East York, ON
age: 41 online now!
| VERY well said eyes!! 
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