Have you ever....

10/17/2006 1:51:06 PM	Have you ever....
nicole1357 Sacramento, CA age: 21	Had a stalker? Or someone harrassing you all the time? Cause I do, and I'm not sure what to do about it. Any suggestions?
10/17/2006 6:49:29 PM	Have you ever....
krazz Whittier, CA age: 55	Nancy seems to have some information on this (according) to her past posts. She seems to have dealt with this kind of situation.... I hate to say that she is an expert, but she does have the experience. Krazz
10/17/2006 7:50:53 PM	Have you ever....
january1 Monroe, NY age: 57	Nicole, first off the more people you tell about what is happening the better. B [Edited 10/17/2006 8:26:21 PM]
10/17/2006 7:54:09 PM	Have you ever....
kiddwest Garden City, KS age: 46	Report him to the local police. Get a restraining order put on him.
10/17/2006 8:10:13 PM	Have you ever....
january1 Monroe, NY age: 57	Kidd is sooo right for starters. B [Edited 10/17/2006 8:24:56 PM]
10/17/2006 9:43:37 PM	Have you ever....
emtnancy50 New London, WI age: 54	Report stalkers right away..stalking is now a felony
10/17/2006 10:21:23 PM	Have you ever....
krazz Whittier, CA age: 55	Hay stalking? Get it?
10/19/2006 3:40:58 PM	Have you ever....
tami5507 Summersville, WV age: 44	Hey Nicole, this can be scary, this is where you do need to call the police. I was stocked by someone for a while, my heart beat so fast at times just thinking I was being followed or watched. My friends helped me alot they rallied around me, keep me safe, but this happened along time ago to me and I still get scared when the phone rings late at night or someone beats on my door late at night, it the worse feeling in the world and it can happen to anyone. Be safe.
10/19/2006 5:31:06 PM	Have you ever....
unslightlynorml Seaside, OR age: 43	Nicole, Those types love to hide in the shadows....out him immediately. Shine a spot light on (his?) deviant a** and tell anyone who will listen exactly what is happening and how it is making you feel. Above all, please do not decide to handle it all by yourself. Email me if you ever just want to vent or whatever. Also: Be aware of what is going on around you at all times, get an air horn, pepper spray, or anything else that will help empower you or enable you to avoid being an assault victim....but do not rely solely upon these devices...dang, I sound like I am lecturing. Sorry, but this stuff really gets me angry. [Edited 10/19/2006 5:31:51 PM]
10/19/2006 5:33:29 PM	Have you ever....
nicole1357 Sacramento, CA age: 21	good news...i took care of my stalker, and i think he knows i'm serious about leaving me alone. so far its been a few days without phone calls, but i guess i dont wanna speak too soon.
10/20/2006 8:50:20 AM	Have you ever....
strongslowhand Washington, DC age: 47	Regarding pepper spray. Make sure you take a class. Believe me, nothing is worse than spraying it into the wind and getting it yourself, or wildly, and missing his eyes. And some guys, just get plain ornery when sprayed and become even more dangerous. Very few men go immediately down when sprayed. Get a taser for that, check local laws, and learn how to use it. Make sure your cell is programmed to one button dial to the cops. Learn how to kick someone, for real, and practice it often, so that it interferes with them giving chase. Scream or whistles or horns to draw attention to yourself, are all fine. When out, constantly keep in mind safe spots that you've chosed already, so if necessary, and maybe after kicking, you can run to (a house, even someone you don't know) restaurant, anything populated by at least someone, , , or, , , if on the road, you know how to drive to, police station, fire station, hospital. Warning the cops is always a good idea, not that they will or can do anything proactive. Consult an attorney about a TRO (restraining order), and make sure he explains the odds of it just angering the perp more, or actually controlling the perp. Do not engage the perp otherwise to "reason" things out in the street.
10/20/2006 10:04:06 AM	Have you ever....
unslightlynorml Seaside, OR age: 43	Now, I never thought I'd say this but....good avice. Thanks. Nicole, glad your situation is seemingly over AND glad you are watching for signs that it might not be. Listen to that voice inside and pay attention to your feelings in certain situations..........we women tend to ignore the voice and the feelings, thinking we are just imagining things and we can (and do) get hurt when that happens.
11/15/2006 5:41:53 AM	Have you ever....
charlesnungest Maineville, OH age: 42	I have a female friend, Actually two who met as being this guys EX's and he stalks them regularly I tell him it would never be wise to show your face around me. Sick, just sick what he's done to them. Chuck, who cherrishes their friendships and worry about them a lot, Lucky last known the guy was in Korea, Probably avoiding cops or something. I hope he stays.