| 4/5/2008 11:24:20 AM | Getting over an ex | |
jlf294u
Peoria, IL
age: 29
| my ex wife is remarried but i still love her is it wrong for me to continue to confess my love for her?
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| 4/5/2008 11:26:34 AM | Getting over an ex | |
magtag
East York, ON
age: 41
| Yes. If she is remarried, it's long overdue that you accept that this is over. It surely will not be pleasant, but if you ever expect to find happiness, it begins with acceptance...of yourself, your life and your future choices. Do what it takes to make peace with this. Hang in there!
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| 4/5/2008 12:04:37 PM | Getting over an ex | |
jeffest1478
Saint Augustine, FL
age: 30
| man it is time to move on, you have to forget about her and let yourself heal. If you hold on you will only destroy the person you became to be.....seen it done....not a pretty site. Best advise is to find yourself with someone who will be there for you...good luck
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| 4/5/2008 12:16:07 PM | Getting over an ex | |
love_music
Randleman, NC
age: 34
| All be it not fun getting over a hurt...You have to make the choice of either it being a second chance in life and starting a new wonderful journey or stay where you are at and never experience what wonderful things life has in store for you.
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| 4/5/2008 12:18:42 PM | Getting over an ex | |
barbara1
Reston, VA
age: 51
| yes it is wrong, get over it
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| 4/5/2008 12:25:38 PM | Getting over an ex | |
maggie1947
Calgary, AB
age: 61
| Yep, it's time to put on your "big boy Joe Boxers" and suck it up. Pining away for a lost love kinda went out in the 1700s, did it not? We all experience a sense of loss when a relationship of any kind is over. You have not moved beyond the grief. I would venture to say that this is what you are feeling, not love.
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| 4/5/2008 2:26:55 PM | Getting over an ex | |
krupa1
Abilene, TX
age: 40
| Look dude......just do your 8 years of solitary celibacy like I did then move on.
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| 4/5/2008 4:13:38 PM | Getting over an ex | |
sinomangirl
Baltimore, MD
age: 30
| i still miss my ex.....but boy is that target practice improvng my aim.  seriousely people.....if someone don't want you, why you loosen sleep over them? quit being so emo and find a good and loving person that makes you feel good about you, not all greek tradgety.
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| 4/5/2008 4:29:45 PM | Getting over an ex | |
st3v3
Mahanoy City, PA
age: 31
| I agree you need to move on.. but you'll be ok man. I don't think it is wrong to love her but sometimes you have to love them enough to let them go and be happy. Easier said than done I know but hang in there.
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| 4/5/2008 10:00:37 PM | Getting over an ex | |
moonlighter1
Bellevue, NE
age: 40
| how do you get over an ex that really isnt an ex, he still loves me and i still love him, but it's his oldest son that ruined out marriage. we have been apart for 4 years, and live in different states, but i put his son in jail for very good reason and he moved out. the only way i thought to get over him is to finally file for divorce, which i just did this month. but i just cant seem to move on and i dont know what to do.
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| 4/5/2008 10:01:44 PM | Getting over an ex | |
puddinpop3
Piedmont, SC
age: 65
| Children's dad. I had to do alot of writing. I burned some of my diaries after writing them. The point is I needed to write so I could move on. After writing my thoughts, facts and feelings down I went back in a few days or weeks to see if I had grown any. Man, was I surprised.
I found that some of what I had written did not make any sense and I realized respect and love had died along time ago for both of us. Still had feelings for him but not the same as love.
I found someone to share all with and now she is my best friend. We are like sisters.
She has become my mentor and my accountibility partner. She sure as an extra star in her crown dealing with me.
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| 4/5/2008 10:12:03 PM | Getting over an ex | |
puddinpop3
Piedmont, SC
age: 65
| Moonlighter sounds as if love is one sided. All on your side.
No one can have someone put in jail. The court does that on the
facts. The fact is your husband should have stood by you.
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| 4/5/2008 10:30:47 PM | Getting over an ex | |
aboomer
Hot Springs National Park, AR
age: 50
| You can`t get over your EX!! Well then why is she your ex? If the legal papers say it`s over and she`s now spooning someone else, you need to get a grip. Find yourself someone new for however long it lasts. The only thing is you really just have to learn to be yourself and not try to be what you think someone else thinks you are. Just a thought. Do you still spend time moaning over your first girlfriend, you know, the one from elementary school. If you have forgotten about her, you`ll forget about your ex at some point and then you`ll be ready to move on. Go do something you like to do and enjoy the distraction. Learn to be comfortable being alone and soon you have a problem, the problem of not being alone.
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| 4/6/2008 5:24:33 AM | Getting over an ex | |
headstart68
Evansville, IN
age: 40
| This is gonna sound terrible (sorry to my spiritual mentor ge0ge0), but it might help if you could put the good memories aside long enough to focus on the bad ones.
(By setting the good memories aside, they stay beautiful for when you're ready to take them with you and move forward.)
She had to let you down somehow, or make you feel like shit, or get on your nerves. If you met a new lady today who was acting just like your ex did at those bad times, would you sign up for that???
Hang in there!
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| 4/6/2008 6:55:40 AM | Getting over an ex | |
winesong
Bend, OR
age: 88
| You ask, *is it wrong to continue to confess your love for her*...
You did not say to whom you are expressing your feelings of love...
privately to yourself...or to your friends and family, *or to her*.
Be careful of keeping a shield in front of you..
You cannot wear the previous love like a badge...
you have to heal and move on, or surrender to loneliness, denial,
perhaps alcohol, (used as an anesthetic)
or other form of destroying yourself.
It is painful to be alone. It is difficult to attract another person
into your life, when you are grieving. There are 7 stages of grieving.
Have you identified which stage you are in this week? It is a process...
it does take time.
I posted a several threads about Tools for healing, in the last week.
Good luck, and Be Well,
Wine
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