| 4/6/2008 11:18:27 AM | first date... meeting someone new..what do you expect on a first date? | |
cajokie
Metairie, LA
age: 49
| I'm going on my first date from-DH and I'm looking forward to it. She seems like a good enough woman from our talks on line. I'm trying to be open and casual about it .tell me how you guys and gals feel about your first dates with someone new.
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| 4/6/2008 11:21:04 AM | first date... meeting someone new..what do you expect on a first date? | |
ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41 online now!
| I could never understand why members insist on sabotaging their first dates by posting in the forums that they have no clue what to expect? Does she not read the forums also? I feel any advice you get here is going to doink up any possibility of getting a second date by default if you choose to take said advice. Just my observation.
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| 4/6/2008 11:30:53 AM | first date... meeting someone new..what do you expect on a first date? | |
cajokie
Metairie, LA
age: 49
| thanks geOgeO. But not really looking for advice just oppinions
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| 4/6/2008 11:33:32 AM | first date... meeting someone new..what do you expect on a first date? | |
ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41 online now!
| Good point. Carry on soldier.
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| 4/6/2008 11:46:54 AM | first date... meeting someone new..what do you expect on a first date? | |
knittinkitten
Lady Lake, FL
age: 72
| OP, You say "first date".....does that mean that you two have not met for a "Meet and Greet"? There is a big difference between "Meet and Greet" and "First Date", IMO.....
I ALWAYS go on "Meet and Greets" first.....then, I pretty much know what to expect on a "First Date".....and, even look forward to it!
You asked for opinions.....in MY opinion, I would prefer to "Meet and Greet" somewhere, face to face.....informal....a cup of coffee and lots of conversation, a wonderful way of finding out if you're both just as comfortable within a foot of each other as on the phone.....If words, laughs and conversation comes easy, then I'm all set for a "First Date". With comfort, I can enjoy lunch, dinner, dancing, walking, whatever. It's his company to which I'm looking forward, not just where we're going.
If you make elaborate plans for the first time you are to actually meet, there can be an uneasiness if the chemistry doesn't kick in and you've made plans to spend hours and hours together. From my point of view, I've had many hours of good conversation with someone, but, when we actually meet and there is no chemistry, I have not been successful in retaining the "friendship" we had previously discussed.....this can happen when EITHER party doesn't feel the chemistry.
Hope my opinions have been helpful.
Sincerely,
KK
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| 4/6/2008 11:50:46 AM | first date... meeting someone new..what do you expect on a first date? | |
smilin_bob
Broadway, VA
age: 47
| My philosophy on first dates:
I expect the worst. I hope for the best. Anything that happens in between will not be a surprise.
I have been on first dates that one person or the other was on totally different wave lengths.. The date did not go well.
I have also been on first dates where 'everything was perfect.'
If both people have been open and honest up front, then the date should be an enjoyable time!
I wish you the best of luck!
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| 4/6/2008 11:52:26 AM | first date... meeting someone new..what do you expect on a first date? | |
cajokie
Metairie, LA
age: 49
| thanks kitten...Im thinking more of a day at the park some where to talk. I guess it could be called a greet and meet. thanks for your opp.
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| 4/6/2008 12:21:57 PM | first date... meeting someone new..what do you expect on a first date? | |
knittinkitten
Lady Lake, FL
age: 72
| OP, That's what "Meet and Greet" is all about....I always pretty much clear my calendar so that, if all is going well, it can include extensions.....lunch....more time spent together...or on into dinner and the evening. I think that's the wisest thing to do, rather than formally tie yourself up for hours and hours and then find you have nothing to talk about....
Trust me, if you enjoy being together, the extension comes very naturally.....that's what communication is all about.....Sometimes I LOVE being a writer/communicator.....obviously, I do not have a problem with it.
Sincerely,
KK
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| 4/6/2008 12:46:52 PM | first date... meeting someone new..what do you expect on a first date? | |
angelips
Villas, NJ
age: 32
| make sure u meet first at a public place and then maybe a stroll in the park because im sure she is hesitant about the whole r u a crazy freak thing so go to dinner or lunch first and then if the convo goes well then a park or something to just ease her mind jmo good luck 
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