| 4/9/2008 7:39:19 AM | Should you.....? | |
angelspunk
Fort Worth, TX
age: 24
| If you don't click on the first date, not even on a friend level. Should you be obligated to be all sweet and be friends with the person anyway? This just happened to me and the guy didn't take it well. 
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| 4/9/2008 7:43:34 AM | Should you.....? | |
imd1
Sachse, TX
age: 33
| I say no, be honest! Your only obligation is to yourself, why waste your time or his!
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| 4/9/2008 7:44:54 AM | Should you.....? | |
ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41 online now!
| It's a blow to ones ego to be rejected in any shape or form. Especially if they really like you or you led them to believe that you're as into them as they are you. It would depend on their maturity level as to how they react.
Always try to take the high road and be cordial to the other person no matter which end of the stick you are holding...
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| 4/9/2008 7:49:34 AM | Should you.....? | |
joker4u
Windber, PA
age: 54
| The simple response would be to treat other people the way that you would want to be treated. If for example we were to meet, and I felt the same way that you did with that guy, would you feel better, if I said to you, "Not only no, but hell no...no way", and just walked away? Or would you feel better, if he sat down, had a cup of coffee together, and I said something along the lines of, "I was looking for that instant chemistry, and unfortuneatly, did have that would you. My goal is to find that person and all of my spare time is devoted to that goal. Hope that you find what your looking for". Then we departed. Ask yourself, which would you prefer?
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| 4/9/2008 7:58:11 AM | Should you.....? | |
angelspunk
Fort Worth, TX
age: 24
| I was nice about it and told him that I didn't seem like we clicked, but thanks anyway. He had that "I really married vibe" about him. I've rejected guys in the past and some took it well and others not matter how nice you are took it bad. 
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| 4/10/2008 12:26:52 PM | Should you.....? | |
sundog74
Burleson, TX
age: 34
| no. you should be straight forward with that person about it and it doesn't really matter how they take it. it's their problem not yours.
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| 4/10/2008 12:30:06 PM | Should you.....? | |
57rickie
Sioux Falls, SD
age: 57
| I have to go with joker4u on this one. Its all in how you say it, being honest is alot better then being rude. 
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| 4/10/2008 12:58:33 PM | Should you.....? | |
sitkarains
Sitka, AK
age: 48
| I personally have been out on some really bad dates that there was no connection there for what ever reason. I am not going into.
I also believe that each person should be left with their pride and dignity intact if at all possible. I think if we put ourselves in the others position when we have to reject someone. Then we have a better idea on what to say.. I believe if you have to reject someone, then do it with dignity, style, class and grace.
I also believe it you take the Low road you are only degrading yourself no one else
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| 4/10/2008 12:59:06 PM | Should you.....? | |
dragonheartpm
Galveston, TX
age: 56
| to the curb
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| 4/10/2008 1:17:11 PM | Should you.....? | |
scottoliver
Hermann, MO
age: 47
| I would say follow the rule of how you would want to be treated if you were the one being rejected...
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| 4/10/2008 1:23:13 PM | Should you.....? | |
rlynn_1
Hedgesville, WV
age: 39
| i smell shit!
this is not aimed at angel.
[Edited 4/10/2008 1:23:51 PM]
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| 4/10/2008 2:20:47 PM | Should you.....? | |
lipsticklilac
Turlock, CA
age: 57
| Just be careful..I have had a few that i met ..Then they are angry at me because i don't want to see them again. If he happened to buy me a lunch .He figures i owed him a sex date . Not all men are the same of course. It hurts their pride a bit when we don't want to follow up on seeing them.But if he gets angry after you politely tell him not interested ! Block him ..Thats one reason it is good if he does not meet you in your area. Don't want him finding you .
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| 4/10/2008 2:27:06 PM | Should you.....? | |
daddyduck
Splendora, TX
age: 54
| No I think you did the right thing people don't all click no matter how bad you might want to, even as friends, I know a lot of people who are acquaintances but not friends and if he didn't take ti well then obviously there isn't much room for friendship either
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| 4/10/2008 2:49:11 PM | Should you.....? | |
ilovcole
Port Richey, FL
age: 27
| Honesty is everything why lead him on. You did the right thing and its not your fault he's a loser. lol
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| 4/10/2008 6:05:31 PM | Should you.....? | |
katrina_sq
Mena, AR
age: 39
| I have liked the guys I went out with enough to be friends, but not more. I just kind of left the ball in their court as far as calling, following up, etc. The one that went back with his wife asked me to stay away, and I respected that. I just don't have an unkind bone in my body and would never be disrespectful either by not being honest and leading them on or by being rude. I just don't see any reason to be mean.
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