| 4/9/2008 3:44:06 PM | Your Paternity | |
slady52
Lake Oswego, OR
age: 55
| If at the age of say 38 you were told the man you thought was your father was not your biological father
(That it was all a lie )Would you try to find your bio father and
would it change how you felt about yourself and who you are?
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| 4/9/2008 4:27:44 PM | Your Paternity | |
garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48
| Funny you should ask this question... I do question that fact simply because of blood types, a photo and the knowledge that my parents were separated at that time. Does it bother me...no. I am still the same person no matter my parentage. I have a love/hate feeling for my dad...still any man can father a child...takes a different kind of man to be a dad. So regardless, he is my dad. My parents are both gone so I will never know.
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| 4/9/2008 4:54:15 PM | Your Paternity | |
slady52
Lake Oswego, OR
age: 55
| It happen to me. First off I went from thinking I was English and Irish to being English and Spanish.
Your right about who is a father, but it does change your genetic background and your childrens.
IE inherited illnesses.
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| 4/9/2008 5:24:46 PM | Your Paternity | |
garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48
| Well now that is very true...never thought of that. The man in question would be probably 80 plus years of age if living. Is good to know one is not alone. So you are ok with your knowledge?
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| 4/9/2008 6:00:41 PM | Your Paternity | |
slady52
Lake Oswego, OR
age: 55
| well it has been a few years now, so yes, but it was hard. It changes a lot of things for me. I found 6 siblings I did not know I had. That was a shock. Found my bio dad, he was not what I imagined.
It pretty much was the last straw with my mom though.
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| 4/9/2008 6:38:55 PM | Your Paternity | |
1pinkstar
Omaha, NE
age: 54
| It would make me angry with my mother, not myself. Of course I would want to find my biological father.
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| 4/9/2008 6:49:18 PM | Your Paternity | |
slady52
Lake Oswego, OR
age: 55
| Funny what you imagine in your mind when it comes to finding them. It is not always like on the Maury show all sweet and great.
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| 4/10/2008 3:32:56 AM | Your Paternity | |
wildgypsy
Bellevue, WA
age: 88
| Found out in my 40s that my mother was adopted. I was just relieved that I wasn't related to certain people.
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| 4/10/2008 4:10:36 AM | Your Paternity | |
garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48
|  @ gypsy...isn't that the truth!
I thought about my earlier post and feel I need to clarify something. I'm not saying mom did step out, fact is I don't know and they were separated. I do have questions that will never be answered. My mother is who I set my own morals and standards by, she was a very loyal, faithful and trustworthy woman. So in one way is hard to believe. At the time in question however, my parents had just lost a child to death. He was born with heart defects and became ill...no one knew until his passing. Dad never spoke of it but mom did and she was devastated. So the frame of mind was quite different and people do react to loss differently.
If I were to judge by my parents and who they are as people, my dad is the dad I knew. Because of bloodtypes and the fact I look dead on like the man in the photo...is quite errie actually...then there is question. Some question are meant to never be answered.
[Edited 4/10/2008 2:27:49 PM]
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| 4/10/2008 4:17:46 AM | Your Paternity | |
justmemaree
Queensland
Australia
age: 45
| Cant honestly say what i would do................ but I would definitely be askin alot of questions............my cousin was adopted at birth............. and from the age that he could understand he was told that he was adopted, he was loved and nurtured, but at 28 he wanted to find his biological mother..............he did..............and dislikes her.............not for giving him up............... but he just didnt like the person she was, he also met his siblings who he still has contact with................ but my aunty.....his adoptive mum....... is the one he classes as his mother........ and he loves her dearly and adores the ground she walks on! so for some its just the need to find ya roots..........
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| 4/10/2008 5:19:13 AM | Your Paternity | |
slady52
Lake Oswego, OR
age: 55
| My mom had a affair with her best friends husband. The only reason she kept it from me was because she feared my dad (not bio dad) finding out. After they divorced she liked the child support. It was easier for her to lie then.
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| 4/10/2008 10:01:47 AM | Your Paternity | |
wildgypsy
Bellevue, WA
age: 88
| Sorry, but that kind of lie, for cash = very dim view.
And, there was an time when I had a sit down talk regarding fathers with a kid. Explained that there are biological fathers, step fathers, God fathers, adoptive fathers...but the only ones that are real fathers are the ones that love and care for you.
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| 4/10/2008 10:29:22 AM | Your Paternity | |
dragonheartpm
Galveston, TX
age: 56
| If it was important for you to really know who your dad was then go for it.As far as a father. It is the man that was there for you growing up....
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