| 4/9/2008 5:32:45 PM | Can the magic in a relationship really last? | |
stark123
Draper, UT
age: 52
|  Is it really possible to keep a little of the magic-magnetism in a relationship with all of the stresses and strains that society bombards us with on a daily basis? Whats the secret?--Enlighten me here.
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| 4/9/2008 5:34:10 PM | Can the magic in a relationship really last? | |
mag11
New Port Richey, FL
age: 39
| Only if love is there..........sure. Mikey
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| 4/9/2008 5:35:41 PM | Can the magic in a relationship really last? | |
drumrman
Belmont, MA
age: 43
| only if both sides r willing to put in the effort. otherwise, like a beautiful flower, it will die.
JMO
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| 4/9/2008 5:37:19 PM | Can the magic in a relationship really last? | |
metu
Mansfield, TX
age: 46
| Takes two to pull that rabbit out of the hat..........
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| 4/9/2008 5:38:04 PM | Can the magic in a relationship really last? | |
collegekidunot
Winnsboro, LA
age: 48
| is Marlin the magician in the house? other words no! jmo and i'm going through hell as we speak/type!   
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| 4/9/2008 5:38:28 PM | Can the magic in a relationship really last? | |
annie80918
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 49
|  drumr
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| 4/9/2008 5:44:36 PM | Can the magic in a relationship really last? | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| sure anything is possible
and if you click your heels you'll wake up in Kansas too....
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| 4/9/2008 5:49:11 PM | Can the magic in a relationship really last? | |
maniacmassager
Lawrence, MA
age: 42
| very rare
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| 4/9/2008 5:51:01 PM | Can the magic in a relationship really last? | |
evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
| 
HOCUS POCUS PENIS ERECTUS!
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| 4/9/2008 5:54:05 PM | Can the magic in a relationship really last? | |
justlooking630
West New York, NJ
age: 48
| I think you can if you can learn to laugh at yourself , I ask my Aunt who was happily married for over 40 years ...Her golden rule was never to go to bed angry at each other and communication ...
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| 4/9/2008 5:54:32 PM | Can the magic in a relationship really last? | |
collegekidunot
Winnsboro, LA
age: 48
| LMFAO EVILEDDY!   
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| 4/9/2008 8:52:22 PM | Can the magic in a relationship really last? | |
sunnymtnlady
Rocky Mount, NC
age: 48
| Stark -- I most certainly do. It is about how you approach your partner and one can make a huge difference although it does take two; but one can move mountains if they focus on the love and the relationship and put that as the priority. How do I communicate this? Usually, when one person in a relationship is not feeling they are getting what they want they are not focused on the relationship through a lens of love - they are looking through a lens of "I want this" or "I want that" and then are disappointed because their partner does not deliver what they want. If they look at their partner through the lens of "I love this person and want to spend the rest of my life loving them" and recognize that they had an unmet expectation I think the love can be kept alive. I think a lot of folks confuse having expectations not met with feeling unloved. e.g. "If she loved me she would meet my expectations". The two are not required to go hand in hand. There is a book I like that is helpful. It is called "If it Hurts it isn't Love". The concepts in this book, organized with 365 concepts that you can randomly look at, have helped me look at love in a more mature way.
Good luck to you.
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| 4/9/2008 8:53:51 PM | Can the magic in a relationship really last? | |
sunnymtnlady
Rocky Mount, NC
age: 48
| Metu -- wish I could be as succinct as you at times.
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| 4/9/2008 9:08:36 PM | Can the magic in a relationship really last? | |
stark123
Draper, UT
age: 52
| sunnymtnlady--Greatly appreciated the comments and the book reference. I plan to check into that soon. Life can turn you inside out at times, and leave you wondering which ways up or maybe out. All of the great advice adds a new perspective. Thanks
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| 4/9/2008 9:20:43 PM | Can the magic in a relationship really last? | |
stark123
Draper, UT
age: 52
| collegekidunot---I feel for ya! Hang in there, it's you and your self esteem at risk. Play it safe and do whats right for your well-being and welfare.
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