| 4/11/2008 10:04:08 PM | Men looking for a female friend is that it? | |
raven74
Kalamazoo, MI
age: 52
| What do you guys think? I have read profiles that say man looking for friend when there is the options of long term relationship,dating,or other relationship... are they really just looking for just a female friend or more?
What do you all think? Let's hear it!
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| 4/11/2008 10:05:54 PM | Men looking for a female friend is that it? | |
dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 45
| Friends are the first stepping stone to a good relationship.
Edit:
Sorry, long day, can't even spell friends 
[Edited 4/11/2008 10:08:09 PM]
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| 4/11/2008 10:07:07 PM | Men looking for a female friend is that it? | |
_jenna_
Pontotoc, MS
age: 26
| I have came across some of those as well..But who really knows now days...LOL
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| 4/11/2008 10:08:48 PM | Men looking for a female friend is that it? | |
epiphany4me
Bullhead City, AZ
age: 47
| Hey raven, you can check my silly profile
and tell me what you think this nut is looking for.
I think I laid it out pretty straight.
But we are men, so ya never can tell, I guess.
Good luck.
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| 4/11/2008 10:15:16 PM | Men looking for a female friend is that it? | |
raven74
Kalamazoo, MI
age: 52
| Epip, hahahahaha That was one caaaaa rayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyzee profile! And then I got to the heart of it and yes... I liked it... You are set to go! I liked the music too! Nice job! 
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| 4/11/2008 10:19:48 PM | Men looking for a female friend is that it? | |
raven74
Kalamazoo, MI
age: 52
| dutchboy... sometimes... and I hate to admit this but I have very little patience these days waiting for a friendship to turn into more... I was with my last relationship for 8.5 years! Damn that's a long time... that's an eight year old child... eight years
If they don't mind me dating while they decide... its then cool with me!
[Edited 4/11/2008 10:20:48 PM]
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| 4/11/2008 10:49:58 PM | Men looking for a female friend is that it? | |
daddyduck
Splendora, TX
age: 54
| it can mean friends is where relationship should start but that they arent' out to see how many they can date. Quality over quanity, hopeing the right one comes along, not interested in just dating miss right now, But doesn't have so many friends they can't sweeze another one in or they are waiting on something in their life to run it's coarse before actively entering the dating game. At least thats what I had in mind
[Edited 4/11/2008 10:50:51 PM]
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| 4/11/2008 11:05:25 PM | Men looking for a female friend is that it? | |
raven74
Kalamazoo, MI
age: 52
| Daddyduck, So are you saying that a woman should wait for him to want to be with her again even if it takes months? That's what it would be for me if I waited for this guy that I haven't seen since November. He wants to wait till the weather gets better... Come really? This isn't the 1940. Waiting for your response.
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| 4/11/2008 11:14:34 PM | Men looking for a female friend is that it? | |
roket
Casa Grande, AZ
age: 51
| Some dating sites will let you pick more than one. This dating site makes you wrap what could be complicated desires into one word. But hey, it's free and actually a decent site with some decent people.
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| 4/11/2008 11:36:12 PM | Men looking for a female friend is that it? | |
epiphany4me
Bullhead City, AZ
age: 47
| Thanks raven! I may act a little goofy most
of the time, but there is a deep sensitive side to me also.
Some here know that side, most don't. But you know that
as long as the human male has a brain, he will be different
from all of the other human males. I know this is the
same with our counter parts as well. What I am trying to
say is that as difficult as it may be, our search has
just got to be that, a search. And if we find that person
that makes our heart go pittity pat and our stomach
fluttery, be it a friend or a romantic interest, all is good.
We should just flow with the river and see where it goes.
This doesn't make much sense at all! LOL
I think I should go to bed now!
Anywho, thanks for the compliment about the profile.
And I wish you all the best!!
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| 4/11/2008 11:41:19 PM | Men looking for a female friend is that it? | |
daddyduck
Splendora, TX
age: 54
| Thats not what I am saying at all, I'm simply saying it doesn't hurt to have friends and if it is supposed to it will, but if your simply wanting to date to see how many you can pick from, some aren't interested in the games. If you've every read my post you would know I like everyone else here is looking for the right person, not just someone to be with right now. And I have made some friends without the pressure of lets meet lets date, if it don't work on the first date lest never speak to each other again. To be honest I din't plan to date until I could find out about personal problem with someone in my family being on a death bed and I may have to be gone for a period of time. They are recoving and it may not all be necessary, and to be honest I'm having to rethink the situation. Just didn't want to say hay pick me when I can't devote the attention a new relationship should get.Youre right it's not 1940, sure would be nice you didn't have to read between the lines near as much back theNI wouldn't ask anyone to wait, if its meant to be it will be, so until someone expresses a interest more than just friends I won't have to make that decision and meanwhile I have met some really nice people, and othersJMO
[Edited 4/11/2008 11:47:33 PM]
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| 4/12/2008 12:18:39 AM | Men looking for a female friend is that it? | |
raven74
Kalamazoo, MI
age: 52
| Ok Daddy duck, I have to admit... I might have to read this one over again and no... I have not read your blogs... I am new here. But what I am referring to is if you want to be friends that is cool... but how can you be friends if you don't talk? I have a male college friend. We have known each other since we were 19... When I feel a need to talk with him I call or email... nothing more is expected... but this guy I am referring to tells me that he loves me but we have had only two dates and I am suppose to wait for good weather. Yes I would love to have other male friends... I love that. This long time friend and I have never had sex together... I am probably the only one that he knew from college that he didn't have sex with and is still his friend.
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| 4/12/2008 3:51:30 AM | Men looking for a female friend is that it? | |
daddyduck
Splendora, TX
age: 54
| oK i SEE OUR DIVISION IN THOUGHT HERE, WE'RE TALKING IDIVIDUAL SITUTATIONS RATHER THAN GENERALIZATION. nO I feel no one should ever say we'll lets see if I can do better if not we might have something. But I think many people start out at friends and find there is actully something more there they were unaware of. I think it's all as clear as mud now. 
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| 4/12/2008 4:26:19 AM | Men looking for a female friend is that it? | |
raven74
Kalamazoo, MI
age: 52
| hahahahahha... you got that right... clear as mud for sure. I don't think that I can explain it any better. I thought that it was an interesting question though.
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| 4/12/2008 5:28:22 AM | Men looking for a female friend is that it? | |
karma_kisses
Milford, IN
age: 35
| Ok, it's been awhile, just perusing the threads, but this one is a good enough question, that I had to get in on the action....
Raven...I finally, myself, decided that I needed to be true to what I need.....and that is to quit thinking about everyone else first...that includes men that I have not even met yet..
I am not looking for a husband, a soulmate, a livin partner or even "the one"....if He comes along, that is fine, I will react accordingly. I am happy and satisfied with my life as is..(except for one or two pesky details)....
My plan is to make freinds, lots of freinds, that doesn't mean freinds with benefits..that means freinds, to have coffee with, freinds to have dinner with, go see a movie, DO things with...if the freinds that I meet have a problem with me having other freinds, then they are not really freinds to begin with are they?
I believe that if my true love actually exists, he will be my best freind....and if I meet him, I will forsake all others to be with him..but that means, forsake persuing a romantic relationship, not isolating myself from the incredible people that I have met.
I am very upfront about the fact that I talk to, and spend time with other people, I have had my share of relationships, where I had to abandon all other contacts in order to satisfy someone's insecurities.....
this is called dating....and it is perfectly legal and ok to date more than one person, if you have not agreed to be exclusive.....and as long as the other person understands that. I am not into games, either, I am at a point in my life that I just value what I need as much and more in this case then a relative stranger.
How crazy is it Raven, for us to put our needs, our gut feel, or wants even behind some person that we have not met yet?
I will not ever let myself be bullied or guilted into picking only one person, right off of the bat, because that man doesn't feel like he should have to "compete". It is not a competition, but it is my perogative to be the one to choose who I spend my time with....not interested in being in an exclusive relationship again, UNLESS and UNTIL I find someone that can prove themselves to be worthy of what I have to give in that kind of relationship.... and fellows, it is a beautiful bounty indeed, very prescious and rare....
So, Raven, you go girl....don't limit or comit yourself unless YOU want to. I think that the problem that you are facing is a double standard, don't you?..
This man wants you to commit yourself to him, sacrifice for him.....but wait, he wants to wait to meet you until it's warmer...where is his sacrifice and commitment to you?
Hopefully the muddy water has been filtered enough to see a glimmer of truth.
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