| 4/12/2008 9:56:03 AM | if you was try to date someone like yourself | |
tazzper23
Texarkana, TX
age: 45
| last night i was talking in a chatroom where if you was interested in someone you can im them and no one get piss off .
anyway the question came up and it was put to me like this .
what if i tryed to talk to someone with the same mindset as i have ... and i met this person for the first time .... now the question was ask .. would i find it really hard to talk to me ?
now lots of you know with all your likes and dislikes that you make it hard for that mr or mis right to find you . but what if you was meeting youself for the first time ?
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| 4/12/2008 10:03:22 AM | if you was try to date someone like yourself | |
muffycakes
Chanhassen, MN
age: 26
| I talk to myself everyday and i have no complaints about it....J/K
okay the real answer,
opposites attract but you do need to be with someone who has interests in common with yours
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| 4/12/2008 10:28:43 AM | if you was try to date someone like yourself | |
tazzper23
Texarkana, TX
age: 45
| i guess iam not typeing it right cause its not about interest its about attitude
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| 4/12/2008 10:34:18 AM | if you was try to date someone like yourself | |
wandering_soul
Kelowna, BC
age: 53
| I get what you are saying...
I think I would have no problem talking to someone like myself -- mostly because I am very OPEN and receptive to try to listen and understand. I don't come into a conversation with a particular mindset.
Some people do, they are limited and closed to people who are different than they are. I have no particular view (or judgment) on anything. Just know what I have learned.
ev
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| 4/12/2008 10:48:02 AM | if you was try to date someone like yourself | |
kateylady
North Liberty, IA
age: 27
| I like myself as myself not a person I'm meeting! That breaks the definition of individual. Besides, I am so much fun that I only deserve to meet me!  On one hand it would be cool because you get to see how others see you. On the other hand it would be bad because you'd see how other people see you! But that is why we are who we are, to bring something to the table that no one else can.
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| 4/12/2008 10:48:04 AM | if you was try to date someone like yourself | |
tazzper23
Texarkana, TX
age: 45
| yes wandering_soul that is what i was trying to get at thank you
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| 4/12/2008 10:50:09 AM | if you was try to date someone like yourself | |
epiphany4me
Bullhead City, AZ
age: 47
| I would have to be patient!
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| 4/12/2008 11:14:33 AM | if you was try to date someone like yourself | |
wandering_soul
Kelowna, BC
age: 53
| tazzper23 - I always figured that is what I am here to do -- find myself in male form. It's all how we view life that makes us truly compatible. Judgment is what sets us apart.
I am generally an open person, so I can be open to the possibilities in others. And so if I was dating ME, they could live a completely different lifestyle than me, but if they were also open -- it would work. Mainly because two "open" people could "live and let live".
I could be a spiritual person but not religious -- but be in a relationship with someone who was very religious. If we were both open to the possibility that neither view was right or wrong -- it would work.
If I was someone of limited beliefs or judgment, then in the same scenario above, I would be saying "it's my way or the Highway". The door would be shut to the possibility of that relationship working.
All that being said, Gary Zukav said "Tennis Players don't attract Golf Players." We tend to attract people like ourselves in the end.
ev
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| 4/12/2008 11:19:19 AM | if you was try to date someone like yourself | |
ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41 online now!
| If I found someone just like me and then tried to date them there would be a catastrophic tear in the space/time continuum and would cause all parallel worlds to collide in a cacophony of jeers from the Gods and Goddesses of ages gone by. In other words it'd be a bad thing. 
[Edited 4/12/2008 11:19:41 AM]
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| 4/12/2008 12:02:16 PM | if you was try to date someone like yourself | |
wandering_soul
Kelowna, BC
age: 53
| Ge0ge0... 
I was married to Me before, and it worked (at least for a while). It stopped working when he started veering off the path of not being Me anymore! He changed (or I did). His perceptions started to falter (he was forgetting who I was), he became fearful about his life direction (which is not me) and as a result, we didn't "connect" anymore.
Being in a relationship with someone "who is Me" doesn't mean we LIKE doing all the same things, or are both night/morning people, or our career paths are the same (ours werent't). We were opposite that way actually.
It was more of our acceptance of each other, our desire to be kind and help others, our intention to always speak kind, respectful words to each other that made us alike. It was our Spirits or natures that made us the same. Like Clan. Family. From the same Planet.
I find that the law of attraction generally attracts your own energy to you (ie, YOU). My understanding is that the whole purpose of a relationship is so that they can "mirror" your own reflection back to you. That is why your buttons get pushed by your partners. We don't like what we see sometimes in the other person because its something in us that needs changing.
Just my thoughts... I always respect yours.
Ev
[Edited 4/12/2008 12:04:09 PM]
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| 4/12/2008 12:58:08 PM | if you was try to date someone like yourself | |
tazzper23
Texarkana, TX
age: 45
| right some people can only see what other say and do to them but if we all only knew what we say and do to ourself are see how we act through other eyes i kinda wonder would we love ourself as much ?...but i was wondering do people that come on datesite. see how hard they make it for other to approach them...
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| 4/12/2008 1:14:17 PM | if you was try to date someone like yourself | |
greeneyedlady49
Everett, WA
age: 50
| Are ya kidding I talk to me all the time!!!!!!!!!   
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| 4/12/2008 1:32:29 PM | if you was try to date someone like yourself | |
sitkarains
Sitka, AK
age: 48
| Great Answer Wandering... Great question also.
I personally am very open to communciations, drawing people out. I have such a wide diverse personality. I am blessed also with the gift of gab. Heck I can usually find something to talk about to just about anyone.
Now to actually want someone like me as a partner No I want someone that is totally unique and different. I do not want a carbon copy of myself. I want the person to be as diverse in who they are as I am .
I want someone to grow and adapt. I know to date me is going to be a heck of a ride till my life smoothes out in Sept. they are going to have to have some skills of patience and persistence. Since I am gearing up to be a whirlwind this is the beginning of the season.
I am also unpredictable so they would have to adapt. Would I date someone just like me. NO, Would I date me if I was someone else Absolutely, Since I am attracted to people that refuse to live inside the Box.
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| 4/12/2008 3:38:37 PM | if you was try to date someone like yourself | |
usakindatheart
Overton, TX
age: 47 online now!
| i talk to my self all the time
me too. what??
no you dont
yes i do
your fat
no i am not
work out more
fine i will
i need to go to the potty
well i dont
yes you do
..........ect
sybil, sybil, sybil,......
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| 4/12/2008 5:56:01 PM | if you was try to date someone like yourself | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| Well if I dated someone who was like myself, I'd know that I could trust him 100%, he'd be blunt ... maybe too blunt, sex would be great cuz we'd be doing it all the time . He'd be stubborn tho which sometimes is a good thing and sometimes not so good. He'd be very dependable when things needed to be done. But if he drove like I do then I know for sure I'm not going to be the b*tch on the back 
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