| 4/16/2008 5:26:01 AM | Just a little cofused......... | |
eroticartist
White Plains, NY
age: 49
| does god really care if one woman falls in love with another woman? What difference does it make? no one's being hurt and everyone's looking for love in their lives
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| 4/16/2008 8:33:25 AM | Just a little cofused......... | |
indiegal1
Indianola, IA
age: 47
| Evidentely eroticartist You have never read the Bible.
Sex outside of Marriage is Adultry. Let alone with three-
somes and such. Not Quoting the Bible either but To each
his own. I'm not perfect either because if I ever Find a
Date on here I'm sure I will be commiting adultry
And.......OUCH !! On the cutting. I like my hair pulled but
Cutting???
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| 4/16/2008 10:58:27 AM | Just a little cofused......... | |
eightinchbend
Gadsden, AL
age: 43
| LADIES AND GENTLEMEN OF THE JURY,
The original poster is not confused, but the replies to this thread are mis-guided.
UNDERSTAND: The first line in the site terms says, “Welcome to DateHookup.com, the service for adults to meet each other online.” The main header says, “Datehookup; 100% Free Personals”. Read Dustin’s terms and his preface in “About Us”. He carefully neutralises himself by offering no suggestions as to why people subscribe to his site. He does not state what personal habits are, or are not acceptable, and he does not lead anyone into a particular path of interaction.
This is a free Website and it is a privilege, not a right to have a subscription to it. No single person’s reason for being here is no more or less welcome than the next subscriber’s. There are no restrictions imposed based on a lifestyle choice; this is not a relationship-specific service. Many of you infer that the word “relationship” associated with “dating” has a singular, or limited definition. The name of the site infers no such rigidity; DateHookup, broken down, is a combination of two words where each has multiple meanings. You can “Date” and/or “Hookup”. This covers all types of relationships from “friends” to “friends with benefits”, and from “dating” to “death do us part”. You can “hookup” for friends, chat, forums, get-togethers, casual relationships, or for what-ever reason the word means to the individual. To say that DateHookup is a site designed for single people only is presumptive, possibly exclusionary, and a broad-brushed assessment. Within the extensive terms of DHU is nothing that describes, or limits the scope of a relationship; friends only, couples only, straight only, gay only – no such language exists. Nor is there any language that restricts forum interaction; to suggest, infer, or state that the original poster’s topic cannot be included in Dating General Discussion is also inaccurate, presumptive, possibly exclusionary, and a broad-brushed assessment. My position is supported by the terms of DHU; no language is present that pre-qualifies, limits, or prevents forum participation based on a subscriber’s profile.
People subscribing to this site are here for any reason, or any number of reasons. It cannot be taken for granted that everyone is generally here for the same thing; Gonesailingbabe cannot be turned from her position that the original poster has “come to the wrong site” because she is firm in the belief that DHU is a site created for singles. That is only her opinion, not a doctrine incorporated into the site terms. Carolinaguy71 seems to speak on behalf of the masses here on DHU and suggests that the original poster is not welcome to this site because she seeks to invite a third person into her pre-existing relationship with a man. While he has the right to express his opinion, he cannot possibly know specifically why people congregate in Cyberspace, and both his and Gonesailingbabe’s views are of an absolute tone. This is not a discredit of any nature to either Caolinaguy71 or Gonesailingbabe. I am only weighing their views of singularity within a Website that promotes multiplicative convergence that is ever-apparent in today’s multi-cultured and globally diverse society. It would be an exercise in futility to limit perspective within a site that promotes culmination. The nature of the sponsor sites advertised on DHU magnify and broaden the inclusive notion that “there is something for everyone” to be found. Each of us may have as many differing uses for DHU as we have differing opinions.
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| 4/16/2008 11:02:38 AM | Just a little cofused......... | |
nealdude
Champaign, IL
age: 50
| hell dude writs a book! lol
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| 4/16/2008 11:05:00 AM | Just a little cofused......... | |
worhtlesswisdom
Dade City, FL
age: 41
| Hey to each their own.
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| 4/16/2008 11:36:01 AM | Just a little cofused......... | |
noredneckhere
Sevierville, TN
age: 47
| OK Garnetlady, though I'm not sure about the "lady" part. Your Fat. Happy?
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| 4/16/2008 1:42:18 PM | Just a little cofused......... | |
kelanie4202369
Cleveland, OH
age: 24
| Yes lady I have read the Bible. I live by it. Yes sex outside the marriage is wrong but theres acouple things wrong with your comment. 1 I am not married yet, besides it is never outside the relationship. Hes always there. Even if its just watching. I ALWAYS have his consent. 2 In the Bible the men have numerous wives. Do you honestly believe the women never touched eachother. Come on man. Women are beautiful. I believe that the ppl that wrote the Bible censored it so all can read it. By all I mean kids to adults.
To the guy that wrote the long ass note. THANK YOU!! I enjoyed it very much. I'm not confused about being on here I know I am allowed. I did read the terms and conditions of this sight b/4 I joined. I'm just confused why ppl can't xcept me for what I believe in. I guess cyber bulliing isn't just restricted to TEENAGERS. You all should love and care for all humans , no matter what they believe in.
I honestly can't believe some of the stupid lowlife comments on here. I thought that as you get older you're supposed to be more xcepting and less jugemental about everything. Remember only God can judge me.
On the cutting thing. I have NOT done it for a YEARS. Its like being and addict of anything. Once and addict ALWAYS an addict. So judge me if you will but remember that to is a sin. The truth is I am the most loving and carring person you will ever meet. In the same breath If you're mean to me ......Oh man you just don't know.
Thank you to all the kind people on here. I love you all. *MUAH*
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| 4/16/2008 5:17:02 PM | Just a little cofused......... | |
indiegal1
Indianola, IA
age: 47
| To: eightinchbend
If you type in Free Dating Sites on your search tab
you will see the Advertisement for Datehookup.com
It says: Meet Singles In Your Area Today..........
"SINGLES" So I suggest if it is a site for any one
and everyone then Dustin Needs to Change the Advertisement.
No matter what all the stuff you said (plain English please)
The Advertisement for this site needs to be changed then.
I would consider it false advertising then as when you get
here, you see a totally different view of things and the Rules
and such. I percieve it as Said. "Date as in Find a Date" and
Hookup as in hookup with people for Dating" AND......SINGLES."
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| 4/16/2008 5:37:03 PM | Just a little cofused......... | |
bestdadintexas
Marshall, TX
age: 42
| I bet you will decide on your own what you are going to do.It is fun seeing how this has been debated through the thread. I agree with one and only one but I guess I will keep that to myself. Maybe I won't "confuse" you.
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| 4/16/2008 6:02:09 PM | Just a little cofused......... | |
garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48
| So I had a bad day...
A lady...yes
Fat... yes
Happy... Yes!
I didn't start this thread...but I certainly seem to be the interest. I'd say a bit off topic don't you think?
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| 4/16/2008 8:15:30 PM | Just a little cofused......... | |
kelanie4202369
Cleveland, OH
age: 24
| Oh please. The advertisement said you can meet singles. Not you have to be single. I am looking for a single woman that wants to be in a serious relationship with US. No secrets in my life. Just love. Xcept here.*stupid mean ppl* And there are other couples on here that want the samething. We are welcome by many ppl on here. Times have changed and it is ok for you to show your true self. Sure I have to deal with bashing but that makes me want to try harder. Tell me I can't do something and I WILL succed!
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| 4/16/2008 8:40:34 PM | Just a little cofused......... | |
hugsnlaughter
McKeesport, PA
age: 48
| Call me old fashioned or just call me old, LOL makes no matter but this type of relationship I consider to be morally wrong but each to their own. I do have a question though, not much is said about your bf; you seem more desperate to find this third person, wouldn't you bf maybe feel a bit that he is not quite enough as you seem to really need this other person. What are his feelings and is he into this as much as you? Also what would happen if two of the trio fell in love, where would that leave the third? Just curious....
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| 4/16/2008 9:26:46 PM | Just a little cofused......... | |
eightinchbend
Gadsden, AL
age: 43
| To indigal1: You brought it up, so I'm replying in as much "plain English" as possible (lol). I'm not trying to stomp you into the ground with my reply, so please don't take what I am saying as an attack against you.
You said something about having a point of view changed once you get to the site. How is that Dustin's fault? Your use of the site might be different from someone else's use of it. You say he should change the description somehow "if it is a site for anyone and everyone", BUT nothing states that IT IS NOT for "anyone and everyone." In this regard, your general arguement has no ground.
It cannot be proven that Dustin has committed false advertising/promotion of his site. You must prove intent, and you have nothing that says you can. If this were a court case, you'll never be in the witness stand long enough to warm up the chair. The easiest defense strategy would be to argue the case as a matter of interpretation as to what the site services are meant to provide.
There is no false advertisement of this site. The search words are "catch-all" phrases that put the site on radar. "Meet Singles In Your Area" is not a false representation, because single people do meet other single people on this site...BUT, that does not automatically mean there is any intention for them to date. Single people on this site can also meet people already in a relationship; it happens all the time. Meeting Singles is only ONE activity of this site; you can engage in the forums, use the photo gallery and swap pictures, you can IM people, you can use other links on the site, you can get involved with groups...whatever your mouse can click on DHU, you can get into anything and everything that can be both related and unrelated to dating regardless of status (single, married, whatever). Also, the word single is both descriptive and interpretive; what is the definition of a single person? It points to someone who is not married....end of story. How do you interpret a "single" status? You can be in a non-married relationship with someone, but you are still legally single.
Your secondary point about dating as related to the original poster: Dating means different things to different people. Here, you lose even more ground because you admit what "dating" and "hookup" specifically mean to you. The words have an alternate meaning for the original poster. She is in a relationship with someone and she is looking for a person to incorporate into that relationship; who is to say that this is not considered a form of dating? Consider married people who have extra-marital affairs...an affair can legally be argued as dating. Nothing says that either case can't take place on DHU.
If any concern is to be placed regarding fale representations about this site, then the subscribers is the best place to start; how many claim to be single, but are actually married? How many post a picture with blonde hair and blue eyes, but are actually redheaded with green eyes? All a matter of perspective.
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| 4/19/2008 11:07:39 PM | Just a little cofused......... | |
kelanie4202369
Cleveland, OH
age: 24
| To:Hugsnkisses---> My b/f does not mind at all. After all he is a man and well most of them would love to have a threesome. We have been in a serious relationship with a girl b/4 and we got our hearts broke. Yes I said WE! She said she wished she could marry both of us and she wants us to be together 4/ever bla bla bla. Then she left without a goodbye Whatever its old news. I WILL NEVER LEAVE MY MAN FOR NOONE!!! I want to find a girl that would at least STAY in my life. I dont really even want the girl to do things to be I want to do the pleasing!
Thanks again for the support. I am looking for a single girl and thats what the site says you can find.
 me
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| 4/20/2008 7:44:54 AM | Just a little cofused......... | |
snowonevergreen
Monroe, MI
age: 39
| Nobody should be put down for just being who they are.
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