Just need to Rant!! ... does anyone agree?

4/13/2008 3:40:22 PM	Just need to Rant!! ... does anyone agree?
jvgirl Houston, TX age: 24	What is up with people saying "I like you - let's meet." and then it takes forever to set something up? I don't think it should take 20 text messages or 5 phone calls. Just say "meet me at _____ at ______ o'clock." Some place casual that you'll both enjoy and can leave if you feel uncomfortable. Why is there so much pressure on that first meeting?!?! You should go into with the expectation that it will be a little awkward and go from there. BOth people are nervous/excited/hopeful. Just relax, you're not making a lifelong commitment if someone asks you to meet them for coffee. GEEZ!! I wish people (guys and girls) would be honest. If you're not interested don't say you are, please. Guys, from this girl's perspective it's a BIG turn-OFF when you are indecisive and wishy-washy ... And I'm the kind of person that says let's make a plan and go for it. Then I follow through. I show up at the time and place we talk about, ready to be myself and meet a new friend. and if it doesn't work out, at least I tried, and I can have a story to tell and learn from it.
4/13/2008 3:50:41 PM	Just need to Rant!! ... does anyone agree?
lars38 Silvis, IL age: 39	I know what you mean been there done that .Its really not that hard
4/13/2008 3:51:54 PM	Just need to Rant!! ... does anyone agree?
lars38 Silvis, IL age: 39	I know what you mean .Its really not that hard
4/13/2008 3:56:28 PM	Just need to Rant!! ... does anyone agree?
jvgirl Houston, TX age: 24	thanks lars. good to know i'm not alone in my thinking.
4/13/2008 3:57:07 PM	Just need to Rant!! ... does anyone agree?
ilovedoggies Sarasota, FL age: 49 online now!	I feel the same way.... and I am much older so I thought men would not play those games but I still find it difficult
4/13/2008 4:05:52 PM	Just need to Rant!! ... does anyone agree?
thebestman Alpharetta, GA age: 34	jvgirl, finally someone has posted what i've been saying for a couple of months lol lol i totally agree with you. it doesn't take extensive chats or emails just to set a time and meet and or talk over the phone to get some instantaneous conversation... you know what's up [Edited 4/13/2008 4:06:54 PM]
4/13/2008 4:12:09 PM	Just need to Rant!! ... does anyone agree?
zeanah Clarion, PA age: 49 online now!	I know myself, I hate long drawn out emails and chat sessions. Meeting in real life is the finality of whether there is a chance in hell you are a connection. Emails and chat online is only a slight test of their character, mannerisms and what they look like for real. I give a man 2 weeks and if he doesn't make a move, I just forget about him.I may even suggest it and wait to see when he will just say "okay, let's meet". I don't have time to waste time is how I see it. You could talk to someone for months and when you meet, there is nothing there. Then you have wasted many weeks of your time. I am not on here to make friends, but I want to date and find someone that is compatible. Making friends is just a perk of the venue and process. It is not my main goal. As soon as I find a dating partner, I am off the dating sites. I want to be busy being with someone in real life. You snooze, you lose!
4/13/2008 4:26:26 PM	Just need to Rant!! ... does anyone agree?
jvgirl Houston, TX age: 24	thanks for the response each of you. I am here to make friends as well as potential dates. bestman thanks for the compliment - It's nice to know you don't think I'm too intense or straightforward (as I've been told by some) I just know my own thoughts and feelings and are not afraid to express them. Zeanah, the way I see it is if the guy doesn't make the move initially he's probably not going to, know matter how many "lines" you toss. It's just my opinion but if you want something you should say so. I know some people are shy, but if they are truly interested in you, they'll work up the courage to say so, despite being introverted. Both genders need to realize that we have to speak our minds/(hearts) Neither sex is a mind reader. How can someone know something that you don't tell them? And I'm probably old fashioned, but MEN are supposed to make the first move. Some parts of feminism screwed over the men, because men now expect women to act like men, but some women still want the guy to make that first move, have some balls, make decisions, and lead (but still listen and be respectful of the lady you're with). The ladies on this site are women, not little girls, so guys - if you want to meet one of these awesome women - you'll have to act like a Man. (not a little boy)
4/13/2008 4:41:17 PM	Just need to Rant!! ... does anyone agree?
lazarous67 San Jacinto, CA age: 41	Unfortunately some have a lot of other thinking that it is safer to talk on their puter for months and months before a meeting should take place. If in the event that a meeting does take place the swat teams should be in place, and the person you are to be meeting is wired for sound. Iwould just hate it if i went through months and months of chattin online, and finnaly got to meet the person and they were not what they said they were. Or worse yet, if they are as beautiful as i had hoped, but because it took soooooo lloooonnngggg i up and die from a heart attack.
4/13/2008 7:35:16 PM	Just need to Rant!! ... does anyone agree?
coppermare Grady, AL age: 48	I disagree. I want to talk a while and get to know WHO you are personality wise. Sorry but I don't care what you look like if we can't talk about something, have decent conversations without physical lust being involved then I'm not driving somewhere and wasting my time to meet you. In the same token though if we meet and don't have any sort of attraction or chemistry then I'm not interested.
4/13/2008 7:52:04 PM	Just need to Rant!! ... does anyone agree?
dej88 Harrisburg, PA age: 59	I can see both sides to this one. I know people who have been really burned and they are afraid to meet people too quickly, so I guess it is up to the two involved. I would probably give up if the meeting was delayed a few times.
4/13/2008 11:50:10 PM	Just need to Rant!! ... does anyone agree?
jvgirl Houston, TX age: 24	while chatting and emailing are good ways to learn about a person, and even talking on the phone, I think it is too easy to censor yourself while talking. when you are physically with someone there is no buffer - "actions speak louder than words" and if you're with the person there are lots of actions for you to see that you never would via cyberspace. For example, they may seem polite online, but how do they treat the serving staff at a restaurant? or perhaps they seem like a gentleman online, but when you meet them they're very touchy very fast?? (just a few that have happened to me) Thanks for sharing your opinions! It helps me think. G'day all. [Edited 4/13/2008 11:59:06 PM]