| 4/15/2008 5:20:17 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
nicksterdemus
Little Rock, AR
age: 50
| "What's" the "dealio" w/quotation "marks"? " "
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| 4/15/2008 5:23:27 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
terminalchaos
Tampa, FL
age: 48
| I was emailed on this matter.
Is that a Nubian Goat on your profile???
Precious pets!!!!
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| 4/15/2008 5:36:58 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
shenandoahgirl
South Burlington, VT
age: 52
| I was in a relationship with the best person I had ever met and he loved the good, bad and ugly in me.We were together for 10 years (living together for eight.)We were engaged and I just couldn't go through with it.He was everything I thought I wanted.Some hippie blood,great communication skills (he was a counsellor),and the most honest person I knew and he was great fun.Something was missing and I tried my hardest and it broke my heart to break his heart.He ended up with dementia and is in a nursing home.Sometimes the guilt still tares me apart as I know he would have been there for me.No matter how much I tried or wanted it to work I just couldn't do it and I just couldn't settle.Every time I hear Bonnie Raitts's song I can't make you love me I lose it. Blessings to all sg
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| 4/15/2008 5:37:00 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
nicksterdemus
Little Rock, AR
age: 50
| You were e-mailed on what matter?
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| 4/15/2008 5:42:13 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
terminalchaos
Tampa, FL
age: 48
| the matter on this thread, Nick.
Is this a sore subject for moi?
and IS IT a Nubian goat???
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| 4/15/2008 5:44:31 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
grobs
New Braunfels, TX
age: 38
| If you are not in love with this preson and see no future then break it off
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| 4/15/2008 5:44:37 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
hdcoach
Pawtucket, RI
age: 48
| I would say yes i would have a hard time being affectionated with someone who i didn't love
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| 4/15/2008 5:45:54 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
ericr64
Mount Pleasant, MI
age: 43
| I'de end it. I'll never settle again. Much rather be alone than pretend to be in love.
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| 4/15/2008 5:53:48 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
kristiel28
Nicholasville, KY
age: 28
| My last relationship that lasted almost 5 years, I ended this past august, one of the reasons was because I wasn't in love with him anymore.... I would rather be alone, then pretend to be happy in a relationship where I am miserable.
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| 4/15/2008 6:12:07 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| At this time for me the relevence of seeking a long term partnership is for the essential elements I have been missing they include but are not limited to: sex, companionship in all things that I enjoy and he enjoys.
I've done marriage - don't care to repeat it.
I've "fallen in love" with my soulmate - don't care to repeat that one either.
In truth I'd be content with a pizza and some beer on a blanket near the lake and somebody other than myself perched upon it.
Contentment and companionship goes a hell of a lot further in my opinion than wild hot monkey sex with an eternal love and the pain in the gut you get for five years following the breakup not to mention the notion of being flat busted and breaking up at age 60-something...ug!
Now can I have contentment, companionship, AND wild hot monkey sex, please?
OK that'd be sweet!
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| 4/15/2008 6:17:25 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
nicksterdemus
Little Rock, AR
age: 50
| It's not a sore point at all for moi, I know not for toi.
I only wish not to misunderstand your words.
You've yet to answer my question on the quotation marks.
As well, is there some formula that adds emphases to multiple, consecutive punctuation marks?
Does three exclamation points score higher than one?
Are caps interchangeable w/quotation marks when denoting emphases to word(s)?
Whatever happened to italics?
Yes, some Nubian but not a purebred.
Possibly ill-bred.
Heaven forbid!
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| 4/15/2008 7:41:22 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
lindawn
Murrieta, CA
age: 53
| Yes. I'll try everything to salvage the relationship with help from "trained experts" first to validate what I am really feeling. Honesty, honesty....
If and if, I "fell out" of love, then I will be honest to that person and tell him the truth.
If it is true love, you are always be "in love" with that person supposedly, right?
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| 4/15/2008 7:56:19 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
lyngrl79
Columbia, PA
age: 28
| talk to him/her about it and see if maybe there is somthing more they could be doing, if not then yes it is best to break it off you should never stay together and pretend it's ok. you could be denying your soulmate from their partner. JMO
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| 4/15/2008 8:14:01 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
ladyinparis
Paris, TX
age: 41
| Okay..quick change of subject...Is it me or does Grobs look like Ty Pennington?
All done...back on topic now. I think you can love someone but not have the "in love" feelings. I think it can be brought back though, if both parties want it and try.
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| 4/16/2008 4:57:58 AM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
gstgo
Hollywood, FL
age: 37
| Curiously enough, I found myself in that exact situation a few years back.
I had developed a relationship with someone who was a really good friend. I thought to myself "what better choice than that". This guy was really great. He was intelligent, fun, kind and gentle. I loved him very much and we were together for 2 years when I found myself unhappy. I was real good to him and he to me, but there seemed to be something missing. I started to think about the future and I realized that my love for him was more like the kind you feel for family or a dear friend, not the kind you feel for a mate or a husband. I realized that i was not "in love" with him although I loved him dearly. Then I started to think "was I really being fair to him?". He deserved the world, he deserved a woman who would look at him with that sparkle in her eye, that skipped beat in her heart, and that flutter in her stomach... you know all of the things that come along with being "in love".
How miserable would I make him 5-10 years down the line when I was unhappy because I myself would be longing for those feelings? I decided that the best gift I could give him (not that it would seem that way at the time) was to let him go. I could have been selfish and stayed with him, taken advantage at the fact that "he" was in love with me. I could have enjoyed it fully and let him live a disatisfied half life half because I wouldn't be giving him what he was giving me. I broke off the relationship and told him how sorry I was that I had not found the same kind of love he had found in me. I told him that I understood if he never spoke to me again, but that once his heart healed from this heartbreak, that he should not judge other by what happened to us. I reminded him that I had been honest, truly faithful, giving, caring, encouraging and good to him throughtout our relationship. That I simply wasn't made for him.
3 years later I bumped into him while at a hospital (both of us visiting sick relatives). He thanked me for being the best friend he had ever had. He said he was greatful that I didn't string him along and then leave when I was bitter and could do real and permanent damage to his heart. He said that I tought him to know the difference in loving someone and being "in love" with someone. He told me that he had found a really nice girl, and that they would be married within 6 months. I was really happy for him.
Remember, you have to crawl before you can walk. By this I means that there are stages in every relationship. You first like the person you are with, then you fall in love with that person, then (as years go by) you grow to love the person. Any step that is skipped simply dooms the relationship. Remember that there are 2 in a relationship and usually, when it ends, it is because both persons didn't feel the same way about each other at the same time, progressively and above all SLOWLY. You can't rush these things.
Hope my experience helps.
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