| 4/14/2008 8:37:12 AM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
sapphire_eyes
Tulsa, OK
age: 48
| Interesting question here...Let's say you do "love" this person that you've been seeing for a few years, but for some reason you have not fallin "in-love" with them...do you let the person know, which could potentially end the relationship...or do you just keep it to yourself and continue in the relationship as if everything was just fine?
Now, keep in mind, this person is a good person, but because of certain things that have gone on within the relationship in the past, you find that something is missing. What do you do?
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| 4/14/2008 8:42:43 AM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
teddybearforu
Oshkosh, WI
age: 36
| kinda depends on what "certain things" that went on before were. but if you're not "in" love then it sounds like it's not going anywhere (stale).can't really change how you feel about a person. if it's resentment it's probably a dealbreaker.
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| 4/14/2008 8:44:58 AM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
| Depends on the "relationship". At the moment I would like to meet someone that knows how to have fun and relax and I don't expect any promises. Later on I may look at something serious again, so I guess it has to do with the situation.
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| 4/14/2008 8:52:25 AM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
knittinkitten
Lady Lake, FL
age: 72
| Yes, Sapphire, it IS an interesting question. My first thought is that, I probably would find it difficult to have remained with one man for a few years if I was NOT in love with him. I can only guess because I have not lived this scenario.
If the "caring" was deep...on both sides, and, there was an equal agreement (assuming that sex WAS involved, and equally enjoyed, and it was monogamous), I MIGHT continue the relationship.....Unless, of course, he OR I truly wanted more and had the feeling that something was missing and needed to be found.
And, don't forget, that at my age, I'm apt to be realistic enough to enjoy not having to be "starry eyed", much as I was in my youth????? But, I do know when I'm happy....
Does this explanation make any sense to you? It is a VERY good question!!!!
Fondly,
Knittinkitten
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| 4/14/2008 8:55:21 AM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
sapphire_eyes
Tulsa, OK
age: 48
| Flower, it's a "committed" relationship, and he's talking to you about the future - you're in his future. Do you go along because you do love him, or do you tell him the truth that you are not "in-love" with him? Is it fair to either of you if he's looking at this as "the rest of his life?"
I had this situation...I told him the truth. It hurt me to hurt him, and I do still love him, and I probably always will. I do wish him the best, but I didn't think it fair for him to be with someone who wasn't in-love with him.
I know of many women who stay with men because of the security of having one in their lives, whether they are in love with them or not. I think that is wrong only because if you are not "in-love" with the person that you are in a relationship with, you are not having the best relationship that you can have. Why do people settle for less than they want, need, or deserve? It baffles me.
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| 4/14/2008 1:12:13 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
cajunmister
Kinder, LA
age: 57
| Actually had a couple of long term relationships that didn't revolve around love. We liked and in some way loved?? each other but the reationship never matured beyond close friendship. Eventually we split( one due to death) but we had long since stopped dating. Still have some friendship with almost everyone that I dated an kept contact with. Wouldn't stay if the other developed a love and I didn't feel the same.
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| 4/14/2008 1:51:13 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
kateylady
North Liberty, IA
age: 27
| Yes, end it. It may be hard and unpleasant, but if they were not in love with you anymore would you want them to string you along? It has taken a long time to figure out that you can love someone but outgrown them and need to do what is best for you.
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| 4/14/2008 1:55:50 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
57rickie
Sioux Falls, SD
age: 57
| Whats that song, You Can't Make A Heart Love Somebody, story of my Life.
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| 4/14/2008 1:57:22 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
meh777
Midland, TX
age: 30
| yes I would because I would hate it if someone stayed with me that wasn't in love with me
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| 4/14/2008 3:06:00 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
tazzper23
Texarkana, TX
age: 45
| yes i would
once the love is gone i would set her down and tell her .
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| 4/14/2008 3:10:05 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
stilllookn
Austin, TX
age: 30
| Yep there is no reason to be with someone if your not in love
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| 4/14/2008 3:12:38 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 46
| I would rather be with someone I loved, and who loved me, than be in that altered "in love" state.
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| 4/14/2008 3:16:11 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
the1stlady
Greensboro, GA
age: 24
| Im going through the same thing. I dont know what to do either. Ive been trying to break things off but each time i do he talks me into staying. it makes me feel bad. but i dont want to be with him any more because im not in love. i feel like there is something better out there. and if not at least i didnt waste both of our lives. i just need help breaking it off. 
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| 4/14/2008 3:25:45 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
simplman4right1
Sarasota, FL
age: 51
| 1stlady..... you just said it all!!
"i feel like there is something better out there"
I wouldn't say you should "settle" but I'm wondering if you were still looking at the moment the relationship moved from just friends to being in a relationship.
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| 4/14/2008 3:44:30 PM | Would you end a relationship because you were not "In-Love" with them? | |
kittyriffic
Georgetown, FL
age: 52
| You would have to end it. Stringing someone along only hurts them more. Once you know, you should tell them....otherwise they are getting more attached to you, while you are thinking of a way to end it. Very hurtful.
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