| 4/14/2008 3:42:05 PM | Dont take offense girls/guys-I have a question(sensitive subject)? | |
kila14
Buford, GA
age: 29
| Is it wrong to have preferences. I do and people always jump at me for being so picky. Whats wrong with wanting what you want. Here it is.
It is FOR NOW anyway my choice not to date men who have children. I am tring to be more open minded as I know I could be missing out on a great man. Why is that so wrong? Here is my thought process behind it.
I do infact want a family of my own one day and it is my belief that if you already have a child it is also POSSIBLE (key word) that you dont want more. If you do then that is great. I just dont want to get involved in all the drama.
I had a girl jump on me once at work as she was a single mother and said"what I don't deserve to have a man cause I am a single mother" I simply stated again it is a mans preference to date a women with children. RIGHT?
I just want to experience that wonderful thing for the first time along with a partner.
Please guys & girls friends. I believe you all have your preferences and that ok. We are all looking for something different so please dont take offense to this post.
Kila
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| 4/14/2008 3:48:04 PM | Dont take offense girls/guys-I have a question(sensitive subject)? | |
ka9999
Alpharetta, GA
age: 30
| kila
I will pray to get you what u want... I have quite bit diffrent interest... ONLY SEX with some cute Lady who realy know the Value of it. No Long term relationship.. But Hr's relationship should be neat and clean
Cheers
[Edited 4/14/2008 3:49:00 PM]
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| 4/14/2008 3:53:26 PM | Dont take offense girls/guys-I have a question(sensitive subject)? | |
fpjones
Waycross, GA
age: 39
| First of all Kila...it is not wrong to have preferrences. You are entitled to your own. If you want a man with no kids that is your choice. I prefer a woman with no children, but at this age, they are few and far between. As I have none of my own,I am picky about who I want to be involved with myself. I see nothing wrong with the choice you have made.
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| 4/14/2008 3:53:32 PM | Dont take offense girls/guys-I have a question(sensitive subject)? | |
seebo
Troy, NY
age: 48
| Everyone has preferences and standards. You and only you can decide what they are, and you have to live with them. Not everyone is going to meet your preferences or standards, and you won't meet someone else's standards and some will think you are out of your mind to have such preferences or standards, it doesn't matter what the office people or the folks at the grocery store think, they are your standards.
I have standards, the way I choose to employ them is my business. If someone doesn't meet your preferences or standards doesn't make them a bad person. I do not meet your standards for dating, doesn't mean you can't talk to me. Don't worry about what anyone says, you are in control of your life.
Preferences and standards are a good thing.
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| 4/14/2008 3:54:11 PM | Dont take offense girls/guys-I have a question(sensitive subject)? | |
brendaj
Savannah, GA
age: 45
| I think you should definitely go for what you want, you only have one life, make it a happy one. If you had no preferences, it would look like you weren't putting any thought into it & obviously you have, SO GO GIRL!! Don't let people influence your way of thinking, do what you feel is right & the heck with the nay sayers. 
Thing is if a decent man comes along with a child, you can always change your mind.
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| 4/14/2008 3:57:24 PM | Dont take offense girls/guys-I have a question(sensitive subject)? | |
natanthecar
Atlanta, GA
age: 18
| i am not picky, but i see what ur saying. the guy isn't the only part, u have to think abt his kids too. otherwise u will come off as selfish to them, even if u don't mean it. i know because i grew up in a divorced home, and my dad got remarried when i was 5. i think it was the worst decision he ever made.
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| 4/14/2008 4:27:26 PM | Dont take offense girls/guys-I have a question(sensitive subject)? | |
funnyprincess
Loganville, GA
age: 44
| I use to say I wouldn't want to date someone with children alot younger than my own. My son is 18 so I think it's time for mama now LOL But who's to say I won't fall in love with a guy who has a young child. 
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| 4/14/2008 6:01:31 PM | Dont take offense girls/guys-I have a question(sensitive subject)? | |
gapeach7777
Ball Ground, GA
age: 36
| Of course not Kila. We all have our likes and dislikes. I have mine and I am labeled a racist. Go figure!
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| 4/14/2008 6:34:49 PM | Dont take offense girls/guys-I have a question(sensitive subject)? | |
kathy5311
Jackson, GA
age: 40
| Kila,
Don't let people like that woman at work bring you down. As everyone else on here said, we all have our preferences. Others don't have to like your preferences.... they are YOUR preferences so you are the only one who has to be okay with them.
I personally would prefer to date either a man who's children are grown or a man who does not have children. I don't like it when a man with children puts his children before mine. I've been blasted for that because, his children are, after all, his children... so he should put them first. And that makes sense, but where does that leave my children, who have no father??? For me, it's a tough situation.
Anyway, you have to do what is right for you and yours. Doesn't mean that what you do is right for everyone else... just means it's the right thing for you.
Now... word of advise... stick to your guns! Find what you're looking for and don't settle for anything less... trust me, if I'd done that I wouldn't currently be a single mother of five children working herself off the welfare system. (Not that I'd trade my children for anything in the world... but I wish I'd have been smarter about my decision as to who would be their father!)
Just my 2 cents.
Kathy
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| 4/14/2008 8:18:24 PM | Dont take offense girls/guys-I have a question(sensitive subject)? | |
lost_in_albany
Albany, GA
age: 34 online now!
| As you get older, you'll find that field of men without kids will narrow. Best fo find one who doesn't have ten kids and consider yourself lucky! LOL! Not to be rude or insensitive but, neither of us are 18 any more.
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| 4/15/2008 2:33:36 PM | Dont take offense girls/guys-I have a question(sensitive subject)? | |
kathy5311
Jackson, GA
age: 40
| How about a woman w/ 5 kids... is that a lucky find??? 
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| 4/19/2008 2:36:36 PM | Dont take offense girls/guys-I have a question(sensitive subject)? | |
cickle83
Columbus, GA
age: 25
| Kila... i know how u feel. i've only dated one man that had kids and all it did was put drama in my life.  Baby-Mama Drama...she was a total b*tch towards me and he wasnt even allowed to see his kids if i was around. like u said its a personal preference and i agree 100%. i love kids and maybe one day i will decide to acually have kids. then maybe my views will change, but as of today. i would not date a man with kids. thats just how i feel.
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| 6/12/2008 8:19:09 PM | Dont take offense girls/guys-I have a question(sensitive subject)? | |
32761mickey
Austell, GA
age: 47
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| 6/14/2008 6:53:59 AM | Dont take offense girls/guys-I have a question(sensitive subject)? | |
clewless
Locust Grove, GA
age: 49
| It's ok it's your preference and you are free to do as you choose there should be no guilt feelings. You may change your mind as you get older you are still young with a lot of living to do. Enjoy live your life for none of us know how much time we have. God gives us this moment make the best of it!!!!!
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| 6/14/2008 7:03:30 PM | Dont take offense girls/guys-I have a question(sensitive subject)? | |
kila14
Buford, GA
age: 29
| I might one day change my mind but for now that is the way I want to keep it. Im not that young you all know. I would perfer not to have kids in my 40's but hell why am I thinking kids I cant even snag a man.
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