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4/16/2008 9:16:49 AM	Why????????????????
soldier1986 Detroit, MI age: 22	Why is it that women say that they want a GOOD MAN but when one comes their way(ME), they act as if they couldnt be more not interested..They all give the same excuse "I've been hurt so much taht I don't want to get hurt again", I have no problem with that but,when I have shown on countless occassions that I am a GOOD MAN why can't they atleast show me that they care?..I am begining to belive all women don't really want a GOOD MAN but instead a DOGG!!
4/16/2008 9:27:17 AM	Why????????????????
r3jektus Kearney, NE age: 24	I've got the same problem. In my case, I think it's because I haven't gotten my career started yet,(still in school) and because I will never be rich. It seems we can give them everything they claim to want out of a relationship, but if you can't get 'er a Mercedes, then you're useless. I don't even wonder why I'm not "good" enough anymore... it's a question with no answer.
4/16/2008 1:31:12 PM	Why????????????????
soldier1986 Detroit, MI age: 22	Yeah. I suppose your right cause GOOD just isn't GOOD ENOUGH!
4/16/2008 5:01:49 PM	Why????????????????
raven74 Kalamazoo, MI age: 52	Come on don't give up on women... besides... what else is there? And we women feel the same way. I met this guy and on the first date he says... " the only way that you will get rid of me is if you leave me". That was the first date. We didn't really know each other ... I soon found out within a week or so that he was a liar,and inconsiderate to name a few... he gave massages for work and I had a headache and he couldn't give me a massage but he wanted me to pleasure him. I said wouldn't you want me to enjoy it too... and he says sheepishly... yeah but it would feel good. And then I flashed back to my husband now ex at the time wanting to be pleased even though I wasn't feeling well and one of my nostrils was plugged... I got pissed... but I didn't act it out. Now mind you I did give him a massage and previous that night he apologized for being sweaty! Gag! So we have crap like that to deal with too. I had to let him go... and then he trashed me and called me every name in the book and accused me and my girlfriend whom I found out he had dated months ago and had stood up of being lesbians because he popped in on her IM and he tried talking to her and she let him know what she knew... He is a member on this site. [Edited 4/16/2008 5:04:15 PM]
4/16/2008 5:21:11 PM	Why????????????????
fryyyy North Kingstown, RI age: 49	Every woman is a unique individual. Where ever you are, just be yourself, try to have fun and try to be happy. If you see someone you like say hi. If they don't respond who cares, they weren't your type or very friendly anyway. Even if your not getting anywhere with women you should still be happy and having fun. Someday someone just might say hi back. One other thing to consider, friends don't hurt friends. So i can't see why one would worry about you hurting them if all your going for is a friendship. If you have been looking for something more than friendship i doubt that's gonna happen without a friendship first. Even if you can skip the friendship part.. i'm not sure either of you would come out a winner. I think you should surround yourself with friends. Have no expectations. Smile and give reasons for the people around you smile. In time something good will probably wander into your life.
4/16/2008 5:42:08 PM	Why????????????????
towtrk1 Groton, CT age: 36	You may have nailed it, Soldier. "Good" isnt "good enough" It's quite common actually. People hope for something good to come along. They normally are looking to pull themselves out of a "dating rut" and perhaps they're "standards" have relaxed a bit. Then a good guy comes along and she is thrilled with the excitement of meeting someone new. Then, shortly thereafter, the thrill wains, and she starts to feel her old confidence coming back, and starts to wonder, 'can she do better?' It's happened to me plenty. Only they use the excuse 'you're still technically married' along with 'I dont wanna get hurt'. As if I tried to hide it... it's the second paragraph in my profile!! Perhaps they can do better!! There is always something better, right??
4/16/2008 7:13:15 PM	Why????????????????
thebestman Alpharetta, GA age: 34	Good question, but unfortunately, you are asking a question that cannot be answered. This question only leads to contradictions sorta speak [Edited 4/16/2008 7:14:01 PM]
4/16/2008 7:38:01 PM	Why????????????????
ghostman69 Hanoverton, OH age: 38	I feel your pain soldier, Sometimes I feel I'm not good enough, Every girlfriend I had, After a few months, Acted like they were, all of a sudden, Big headed and thought they could do better. Ask me where they are now????
4/16/2008 7:55:40 PM	Why????????????????
striv4thebest Verona, PA age: 32	Come on fellows, you are all whining. Most times you have to dig through a big pile of rocks before reaching the diamond. The bigger question is....will you know what to do with it once you find it? Most men give up on women way to easy. When I date now, I expect to be pursued and treated like the woman that I am. Not talking about money, gifts, etc..I am talking being caring and respectful, and of course, honest. If more guys would use there imagination and creativity more often, most of ya would get to first base and even home alot faster! And if it is a real woman, most times it doesn't take money. It's the little things that count (hint, hint). So if you all get women who just want money or material things, then they weren't for you anyway and keep digging through that pile of rocks. Eventually, you will get the diamond. Just know what the hell to do with it. It helps to have a plan. Just thought I would give my opinion
4/16/2008 8:11:12 PM	Why????????????????
dej88 Harrisburg, PA age: 59	My question to the guys is "What do you consider a good man? What kind of things do you think and do that you believe make you a good man?"
4/16/2008 8:19:04 PM	Why????????????????
lildevil19 Dothan, AL age: 19	Well my issue is i can fall hard and fast sometimes, and once i find what i think is the right guy i do something to screw it up and i am also afraid of commitment even though that is what i want but i also just dont know how to react when i find love oh i dont want a man to buy me expensive cars or expensive things if i want them i will buy them for myself oneday because i do not need a man for that and i can do it all by myself [Edited 4/16/2008 8:33:28 PM]
4/16/2008 8:27:04 PM	Why????????????????
bry11ca Buellton, CA age: 43	Actions speak louder than words. Show you are a good man, don't say it. Some girls your age are not ready for a good man and are sowing their wild oats with bad boys. Are you surrounding yourself with good women? Do you approach them? When I was your I age I didn't count the No's to my expression of interest and was vigilent until I found a decent woman. Sgt. Bry says March On and stop cryin. Bry
4/16/2008 8:34:01 PM	Why????????????????
dej88 Harrisburg, PA age: 59	There are two threads for this? Which one do you want people to post the answers to?
4/16/2008 8:35:43 PM	Why????????????????
harley9482 Fort Wayne, IN age: 25	I feel similar dude. I hear all too often that line, but i get the "you're sweet, but...." brush off.