| 4/16/2008 2:17:30 PM | I afrolicious have a dilema. | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| Put it in reverse ... would you want him on a dating site talking to strangers??? Trust me, there are those who do not read profiles so the winks will keep on coming. How would you feel if he was getting winks from women who were interested in him and never read his profile??? It might be a strain in your relationship but the choice is yours but if you do that then he must as well. What is good for the goose is also good for the gander.
To me, once in a committed relationship then there will be no need to be on a dating site. I have other means for friends to stay in contact with me.
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| 4/16/2008 2:19:13 PM | I afrolicious have a dilema. | |
afrolicious
El Paso, TX
age: 28
| Ha Ha metu
Actually muffy if he got on and saw all the crap I post he will not be very happy. Suprisingly enough he doesn't know I like to talking dirty. 
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| 4/16/2008 2:22:53 PM | I afrolicious have a dilema. | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 47 online now!
| Afrolicious: "I don't want to get off."
I never thought I'd see afro write this! LOL
Seriously, though, you should not do anything you don't want to do. Explain yourself, and suggest that he get an account and participate!
Eyes told me she was bored with this site, but I rather like the fora. We agreed that we'd make our profiles invisible to all but friends. I make it clear that I am dating someone. After a while, if we really get serious, I will likely disappear.
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| 4/16/2008 2:23:22 PM | I afrolicious have a dilema. | |
latino2007
Los Angeles, CA
age: 24
| 1 thing
he does not trust you for wahtever reason.It's a bad start.let him go.
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| 4/16/2008 2:35:18 PM | I afrolicious have a dilema. | |
gr8stwoman
Dingla
Nepal
age: 89
| Afro, if he doesn't know you like talking dirty, does he know you well enough to be in a relationship with you? (Its just a question--- no judgment attached).
I love DH. Having said that, I would get off this site for the right person. He would have to know me and understand how taboo I can be before I'd consider leaving.  JMO
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| 4/16/2008 2:43:04 PM | I afrolicious have a dilema. | |
doublesaint
Altoona, PA
age: 62
| Afro...you are getting really great info from people who are a bit older and have been through some real wars at times. Two things are at issue...your indepence as a person and his controlling insecure view of the world...you are big girl...stay here...  
You = 
Him = 
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| 4/16/2008 2:49:20 PM | I afrolicious have a dilema. | |
afrolicious
El Paso, TX
age: 28
| gr8 he doensn't know that side of me yet because I don't want it to be the only reason on why he asked me to be his girl is because he knows I love sex and only sees me as a sex object. (There is another side to me people hard to believe I know.) I want him to be intrigued by my personality, intelligence, genuinity. Then when and if we get deeper into the relationship he will most definately know the sexual side of me. I'm not keeping it a secret I am just waiting.
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| 4/16/2008 2:50:40 PM | I afrolicious have a dilema. | |
kissssska
Berlin, CT
age: 43
| Hey, Afro, I've been dating Rod for over 3 months now, he showed me hookup right away, I didn't pay attention first, then it started getting on my nerves as not only was he having fun here, he was also flirting and it bothered me. In about 2 months into relationship I suddenly joined DH and now he is having "supervised fun" here and if he occasionally flirts without me knowing, I kick his ass, strangle him, pinch him, rape him , twist his arms, pull his hair... till he is swollen and purple, and then I give him lecture... He is a much more understanding now   He is almost like an now
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| 4/16/2008 2:52:13 PM | I afrolicious have a dilema. | |
monkeylover
Ogden, UT
age: 28
| good for you afrolicious I hope it works out great for you! much happiness!
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| 4/16/2008 2:54:44 PM | I afrolicious have a dilema. | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 47 online now!
| gr8 he doensn't know that side of me yet because I don't want it to be the only reason on why he asked me to be his girl is because he knows I love sex and only sees me as a sex object.
Ah, but that's the perfect test, isn't it? If you let him know you have a wild side, reserved for the right person, will he try to push the envelope, or will he be happy to wait?
What if you don't tell him, and one of his friends mentions that you're on this site, and points out some of your posts? He might think, "WTF? She puts out for everyone but me!"
Also, you really don't want to date someone who turns out to be dull in that department, either, do you? Better to find out sooner, than later, no?
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| 4/16/2008 3:04:55 PM | I afrolicious have a dilema. | |
afrolicious
El Paso, TX
age: 28
| Well charm he barley asked me out 2 days ago why the f**k would I give it up so quick I'm not waiting for a year but I know I am not putting out so quick either. I doubt that sex is the only way to have fun and I am faaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrr from being dull. I love making people laugh and having a good time
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| 4/16/2008 3:05:43 PM | I afrolicious have a dilema. | |
rolando98
Laredo, TX
age: 58
| AFRO just Accept what he ask!!!!!!!!!!!
When he get to Know U and GOT EXHAUSTED Reallyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy EXHAUSTED, hes going to SHOUT plssssssssssss plssssssssssss Time Out "GO TO DH"
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| 4/16/2008 3:11:44 PM | I afrolicious have a dilema. | |
kissssska
Berlin, CT
age: 43
| Right, see if he is worth it first, and maybe he will join u later as I did, or u will be too busy with him that will make u abandon DH
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| 4/16/2008 3:16:14 PM | I afrolicious have a dilema. | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 47 online now!
| Well charm he barley asked me out 2 days ago why the f**k would I give it up so quick I'm not waiting for a year but I know I am not putting out so quick either.
I think you misunderstood me.
I am not suggesting you give it up so quick... you should know me better than that, from my posts here.
I am suggesting that you let him know verbally that you have a wild side, reserved for the right guy, right time, and right place.
As for "dull", I don't think anyone would find you dull, but maybe he is. You'd want to find out sooner rather than later, if that were the case, no?
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| 4/16/2008 3:17:27 PM | I afrolicious have a dilema. | |
switchhitter
Steubenville, OH
age: 18
| afro sweetie the choice is up to u but if u leave I will miss you dearly we have to much fun together and yeah is the first ime i ever heard them words out of your mouth to I Dont want to get off  I guess ill have to calm down with you  i cant never mind
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