| 4/17/2008 6:36:35 PM | Why are you here? really? | |
cinnamongirl65
St Catharines, ON
age: 43
| i can honestly say i am here to meet someone,i think i am realistic and truthful but yet selective in some areas ...we all kno what floats our boat...
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| 4/17/2008 6:48:47 PM | Why are you here? really? | |
uhadme
South El Monte, CA
age: 45
| I concur with the OP also.
He doesn't say it's just one gender.
He doesn't belittle your genetics just pointing out facts either way.
A beautiful woman is not likely to go with pot belly bald guy etc.
I also notice the ages changing on some profiles (like 5yrs or more).
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| 4/17/2008 6:48:54 PM | Why are you here? really? | |
me4aminute_1
Rutland, IA
age: 35
| Well, this is my take on this..........I have not stated in my profile that I want the perfect man.........however, I do want the perfect man for me. I have that right and I have the right to use "BOB" until I find him. I paid for bob and I pay my own bills which in my mind gives me the right to be with or with out a man.
I can't speak for other women, but I find your whole post a very nasty dig about women. You say that you are a nice guy, but a nice guy would not post this kind of negativity towards women........especially starting a whole thread about us. I use the word us.........because I try not to lump all men in a group. If one offends me........I take it up with him and not bash on the whole gender. You said some look older than dirt.......are ugly on the inside and out..........now. Aren't you just a charmer. I can see why every women would want you over "BOB".
For those of you that say he has to have abs and this and that..........why should we settle for someone we are not attracted to. Do you men that are complaining settle for someone you are not attracted to. I mean if you prefer a slim blond would you be with a heavy brunette or would you keep looking for your preference. I will not apologize for wanting what I want.
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| 4/17/2008 6:58:50 PM | Why are you here? really? | |
beadz
Waterbury, CT
age: 31
| I understand where this comes from, but I also noted he said "not all women" but there is an undesirable niche everywhere...
But, since we're ranting...This includes select men on the site (which seems to be about 99% of the kind interested in me...) who have emailed me things as uncouth as:
"Do you like to f---?"
and
"I'd like to wake up with you in the morning"
-though completely mild compared to the first this kind of thing really pisses me off. Go downtown to any street corner and find that crap because you're not getting it here - if I was giving THAT away I wouldn't need to be here. Grrr!  
There is no perfect but I will not settle for less than what I want and for the record I don't have a bob either. 
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| 4/17/2008 7:14:34 PM | Why are you here? really? | |
lazarous67
San Jacinto, CA
age: 41
| Ok let me set something streight. First it was not my intention to BASH anyone.
I possed a serious question to something that i find offensive and absurd.
I used age as an example. However at no time did i mention genetics, as far as wieght, eye color, hair color, or things like that.
It is a fact of life that some of us are gifted in the looks department, i know that i am not the best looking guy. Hell if i was do you think i would even be here?
In the same respect, not all of the ladies who are looking for mr. perfect are beautiful.
I do realize that there is a difference between preferance, and absurdity.
As one poster put it. An obese person should not expect to find someone athletic or slim, although these things do happen.
To all those who have beaten the odds, and or overcome radical differences in size, and found love. I salute you.
However; there are some people who are (for the lack of a nicer word) fooling themselves, and even setting themselves up for dissapointment. At the same time they are bashing the opposite sex for all that has happened to them.
In my opinion if you are not ready for a relationship, then you should`nt be trying to find a date. If you can`t be honest with yourself, in regurds to the type of person you will most likely find, then you should`nt be here.
I know a couple of ladies here that i find extremely attractive, and very intelligent, yet i know by reading their profiles that they most likely would not be interested in me. I could mention names, but i refuse to do so to protect the innocent. lol.
This whole thread was intended for people to get a grip on reality, and stop lying to yourselves. you know who you are. If you don`t well thats a real shame.
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| 4/17/2008 7:24:02 PM | Why are you here? really? | |
belladreams
Binghamton, NY
age: 38
| I went to a catholic school for 13 years. So that is Kindergarten to 12th grade. Then i furthered my education by going to a Business and Technical Institute and completed the Medical Administrative Assistant Program which was a 14 month program. I decided I wanted to be a Medical Transcriptionist, and that is exactly what I am. I am not worried about the way I punctuate in here. I was reading your thread. What I learned at the Institute, and what I learned in high school is this.......If you cannot get past the persons first sentence that has too many spelling errors. STOPPPPPPP....don't go any further, because there will be more errors to follow. I was kind enough to go further struggling my way through... Grammar is important. It is the most important subject today. If you don't have proper grammar/spelling, you can kiss your job goodbye. Now you will hear from me in an email as to your thread. I just wanted to point this out to you. As a medical transcriptionist, you CANNOT make one single mistake, or you are doomed. They will come back and haunt you till the day you dieeeeeeeeeeeeee.....
[Edited 4/17/2008 7:24:46 PM]
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| 4/17/2008 7:31:45 PM | Why are you here? really? | |
mindyb
Park Rapids, MN
age: 44
| CRAZZZZZZZY.....Toy's in the Attic, they are CRaaaaaaaaazzzy, truly gone fishing!
Tear down the wall!
Personal The guys have been great to me. Most of the women are awesome too...Gone rocks Bella....bella Luna shining like the moon! most of the women I treasure here are worth treasuring but some ohhhh Boy!! Then again some of the guys...oh boy!!..Personally I find that the guys that are kind of wacked, its usually damage control from a previous female...I still vote ol school keep it real, be sweet , be thoughtful and be genuine...encourage one another love peace and a few good slaps on the a** will draw attention, then run like hell before the tag back comes 3fold
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| 4/17/2008 7:35:22 PM | Why are you here? really? | |
lazarous67
San Jacinto, CA
age: 41
| I guess im gonna have to start a thread about spelling errors, and proper grammer. lol.
Why are you people so anal about spelling? If i could figure out how to use the stupid spell check i would use it. However i`m just learning how to type, and i`m not that familiar with computers. if you don`t like the way i spell do not respond to my threads.
If you understand what i`m saying, and what i mean is it really that f**king important how i spell, or that my grammer is perfect? This is one of the things i should have mentioned in the original post. You want perfection, i understand.
My question to you is; what makes you think you deserve perfection?
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| 4/17/2008 7:35:43 PM | Why are you here? really? | |
usakindatheart
Overton, TX
age: 48
| belladreams that was funny....
hey laz,, besides my reasons for not posting a pic. tell me what i am asking that is so wrong on my profile???
oh email it , i m not here for total public bashing.......
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| 4/17/2008 7:39:58 PM | Why are you here? really? | |
me4aminute_1
Rutland, IA
age: 35
| Laz........I understand your point, but this is not just a woman thing. Do you think men don't have too high of expectations? Everyone aims high. Why aim low? Aiming low in my opinion shows lack of self confidence. I have seen several male profiles searching for a fit girl, when he himself has a few extra pounds on his profile and the pics look like there are more than just a few. We all write in our profiles what we would like..........doesn't mean we won't find a great friend and maybe love with someone who doesn't match them. 
My question to you is; what makes you think you deserve perfection?
Simple.........because I think I do? If I don't think I will who else will.
[Edited 4/17/2008 7:42:00 PM]
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| 4/17/2008 7:40:37 PM | Why are you here? really? | |
vitruviangal
Madison, WI
age: 47
| Laz, while you may have had some good points in there, they were lost on me cause it was just plain mean.
Ugly to you may be somebodies dream and good chance we can even be somebodies mother and we are certainly somebodies daughter........so, while the other posters may be correct, you may at other threads be funny and charming......I don't get it with the name calling...it was just mean.
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| 4/17/2008 7:50:28 PM | Why are you here? really? | |
belladreams
Binghamton, NY
age: 38
| Laz,
For a beginner typer, i would say that you are excellent! I have seen worse, trust me. And for starters, I must say you spelled the FFFF word correctly. Alot of people get that word wrong yanno? Gearly and me are on grammar patrol....she started this grammar thing, you might want to hit her mailbox on this one....i never have to use spellcheck because i'm PERFECT...... Did bella say perfect? Go read your email Laz as i emailed you....I wrote you an email...and hopefully you will respond. I do type 90-110 WPM yanno...and yes, once again, that is PERFECT... Everyone have a wonderful evening.......
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| 4/17/2008 7:57:10 PM | Why are you here? really? | |
2smart
Houston, TX
age: 32
| Well well well...do I find this posting crude, insultingly abusive, harass, or factual? I let us look at this from a different point of few and be real about it. A lot of wonderful women are out there without a man as it is with great and intelligent men with out a woman.
But, women are in the act of saying that they are looking for a good man but they do not really mean it for one second. Thus both sexes have to come to the point to realize that we are all human beings with feelings just like next person and that we are not perfect people.
We all do make mistakes, therefore I will love to joint LAz in suggesting that every one take a good look at yourself in the mirror, and then ask yourself, why are you here, DH? Do you really want a man/woman to be with? Can you even be happy with anyone? Can you put aside past relationships,and move on with what you have in front of you?
Like it is said, if you can not be with the one you love, love the one you with. Are you willing to compromise? Can you even let yourself trust a man? Can you trust yourself with a man? can a man trust you?
If you can be honest with yourself and answer these questions truefully than you are ready to move to the next level of getting to know someone special. 
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| 4/17/2008 8:02:27 PM | Why are you here? really? | |
terminalchaos
Tampa, FL
age: 48
| Ladies...Gentlemen
Please do not loose site of the OP's question.
I see this so much here... fighting and egos galore.
And it turns into discombobulated gibberish...
The Question..
Why are you here?
BTW 2Smart....you are pretty smart. You think before you type.
[Edited 4/17/2008 8:09:39 PM]
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| 4/17/2008 8:10:09 PM | Why are you here? really? | |
vitruviangal
Madison, WI
age: 47
| sorry all I heard was name calling.........lost me.......
my sons 7th grade football coach called the kids a$$holes while coaching them to do better. when I asked him why..... he said.....did you see what they did? And my response was even if you told them 10 great things to do to turn the game around once you called them a$$holes, they never heard the rest.
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