| 4/17/2008 5:39:13 PM | Why are you here? really? | | 
lazarous67
San Jacinto, CA
age: 41
| MY MY MY I have been reading profiles, and some posts, and i must ask you ladies why you are even here? Most of the woman i have seen on this site are out of their f#$%ing minds!
I understand a lot of you have been hurt, and more then a few have done the hurting, but day after day i see the same b.s.
Most of you woman, i won`t name names, but most say things like(I`m looking for the perfect man, and if i can`t find him i`ll stick with bob (the dildo for you men who don`t know bob), becuase i`m not willing to settle for less).
Well guess what ladies? The chances of you finding mr. perfect are slim to none.
If you were lucky enogh to find your ideal man, who has all of his teeth, every hair in place, a six pack, muscles, handsome, charming, and all the other stuff that you desire, he probably would`nt want to be with you anyway. Most of you are way to critical, and way too demanding as far as your so called standards.
Let`s be realistic for a moment ok? Some of you ladies look older then dirt, and you wan`t a perfect guy. lol. Please! Some of you ladies are just plain ugly! Not only in looks, but in what you say, and how you say it. A lot of you talk about us men like we`re ALL peices of shit.
We are human beings just like you, we do have feelings just like you, we are not perfect, just like YOU!
I suggest that some of you should take a good look at yourselves in the mirror, and then ask yourselves, why are you here? Do you really want a man? Can you even be happy? Can you put aside past relationships,and move on? Are you willing to compromise? Can you even let yourself trust a man? Can you trust yourself with a man? can a man trust you?
If you answered no to any of these questions, then maybe you should stick with bob.
There are some really nice guys here. Men who are respectful, kind and curteous.
A lot of these men are funny as hell, and a lot of us have learned vuluable lessons that we will use in our next relationships. If and when we get the chance.
There are some really wonderfull woman here and this thread is not meant for you.
I just get so agravated when some woman act like all of us men are crap!
| | 4/17/2008 5:47:11 PM | Why are you here? really? | | 
catchureye
Flat Rock, NC
age: 33
| I can't answer for anyone else, but as a newbie to DH I can tell you why I am here.
I am not here to find Mr Perfect or the one who is greater than God. I am here because it seemed like a good starting point to meet someone. As a realist I know that people come in different shapes, sizes and colors and whats on the outside doesnt always reflect the inside.
What a better way to get to know someone than to message, chat and find out about their likes and dislikes, personality, etc, before having to meet them and go on date after date with many "wrong" ones.
| | 4/17/2008 5:52:03 PM | Why are you here? really? | | 
wolfcreekgal
Sheridan, WY
age: 45
| As for me, I'm just looking for a genuinely good man. My only requirements are that he is as intelligent as I am so, we can stimulate that ol' brain matter efficiently and that he is as creative romantically as I am.
However, I don't see the problem with being sort of picky. My belief is that you can only ask for what you yourself have. For instance, if you are very attractive, then certainly it's ok to want someone who matches you in that department.
On that same note, if you are obese then it probably isn't realistic to look for someone who is athletic.
JMO
| | 4/17/2008 5:53:08 PM | Why are you here? really? | | 
spanky100
Cairo, GA
age: 39
| lazarous you are so rite, that hit the nail on the head.
If you dont that six pack abs most women wont give you the time of day.
There are so really sweet women on here.Well maybe men and women should take the chance to get to know someone before they judge them.
| | 4/17/2008 5:55:00 PM | Why are you here? really? | | 
evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
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| | 4/17/2008 5:58:10 PM | Why are you here? really? | |
spanky100
Cairo, GA
age: 39
| Sorry if it dont sound rite haven a problem with my lap top i'm working on gettin it fix.
It's not typing all the words out fro some reason please bare with me if i post.
Thanks for understanding.
| | 4/17/2008 6:00:02 PM | Why are you here? really? | | belladreams
Binghamton, NY
age: 38
| Well Laz, this is a perfect thread, and i agree with you 100 percent, and by any means, no man or woman is perfect. I dont expect anybody to be. I got past my anger issues with my sons father seven years ago, and i have moved on. I have been single for almost ten years? I dont know if that is an exact number. Not single by choice, single because i have not found the one...and i will explain. I am a single mother of a 15 year old boy and i have never been married. The man i choose has to be the right man. Not perfect. I cannot have no head games, no lies, no cheating, no alcoholics, no drug users like my sons father. That will only come back to haunt me...I do want more children some day. If i cannot, so be it. If he does not, so be it. I am open. I at least want a man who is going to treat me with respect. I will treat him the same. As far as my profile goes, everything is the truth. It is not bold, it is honest and straight to the point. Go ahead, read it. Would you rather me lie to you? Or would you rather know the truth? I have been on several dating sites, and nothing....either men i have talked to have disappeared into thin air because they themselves dont know what they want, or because they choose to play games. I am NOT into games. Games are for children. This thread does not pertain to me....But im sure it does pertain to alot of women...
I browse the personal ads. I do not look at the mens looks. I take a look at the wants and needs of the man. I look at their personality type. I look at their religion. Religion is important. They must believe that there is one god, and one god only. It is tough. Most have non religious on their profile. I dont even want to ask what that means. I probably will stay single forever if i dont ask. I got yelled at big time saying you have no right to tell me what god to believe in....you stick with your god, i will stick with mine, and he was right....so chances are, i may never find that man due to religion. But i am here to find a good man, not a perfect man...
| | 4/17/2008 6:00:20 PM | Why are you here? really? | | gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| Laz, if you have seen any of my recent postings, then you know I agree with your disgruntlement and disgust for the "new" group of females that are arriving en masse on DHU to bash men as a gender.
I hope that some of them get a "clue" and if they don't, I hope they return to POF or AOL or where ever they all crawled out of...
Note - they must not be getting much attention to be leaping from site to site - without any success?
To all on DH forgive me if I begin to get very "pissy" with these women - they're making all women look bad.
And guys - it might be equally nice if when we're taking one of them to task for their attitudes and bad examples if you didn't shout "CAT FIGHT!" and instead weighed the merits of what we're trying to do to stop the "ladies" from bashing good men...
Believe it or not - we are trying?!
| | 4/17/2008 6:06:33 PM | Why are you here? really? | | belladreams
Binghamton, NY
age: 38
| Now im from AOL, and i came here....I was from POF and i came here. I deleted my POF account. AOL is just full of chatrooms and private chats. Its okay. I like the rooms because we could all chat at once. But just because we are from there does not mean we are bad women. I am a good woman, and i deserve a good man, not a perfect man. If i cannot find this man on a dating site, or at work, or at a bar, or through friends, then you tell me where do i find a good man? I cant stay single forever. So how do i communicate? Do i go to every males mailbox and say, hey, how about giving it a shot when i dont even know them? What do do you want me to do? Better yet a ? for the gentleman, what do you think i should do? Should i make the first attempt by coming into your mailbox? Or just sit here and hope that someone just drops on by?
| | 4/17/2008 6:09:20 PM | Why are you here? really? | | gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| bella - I wasn't referring to you or to Rains or to any other of the well-intended individuals from POF or AOL...only those who are posting as Laz indicated...
| | 4/17/2008 6:10:12 PM | Why are you here? really? | | fishingmtgirl
Great Falls, MT
age: 39
| All I have to say is WAY TO GO LAZ.........couldn't have said it better. Say it the way it is. 
| | 4/17/2008 6:13:42 PM | Why are you here? really? | | belladreams
Binghamton, NY
age: 38
| I know you werent sailing....i was just saying i am an AOL member and i was a POF member until i deleted my account from them yesterday. It seems like any dating site you sign onto, you never seem to have any luck...i dont know what it is....is it a guys shyness? I dont know what they are thinking. I think they tend to open up more to their friends than anyone else, and leave us out of everything. If they are really looking for true love, and they want to find a woman, they know what to do. They are not stupid. If they just want to be friends, or if they just want chat/email, they should indicate it on their profile and save us the trouble. And what about the men who give us winks and emails and say i would like to get to know you better LAZ and then you never hear from them again after sending them several emails back? You are sending mixed signals....And yes my dear friend, some of them are veterans who served in this fine country of ours. That is something to think about....
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| | 4/17/2008 6:22:41 PM | Why are you here? really? | | 
wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 37
| well said laz and it is both genders as well.it's all too easy online when you have a plethera of possibilities.
gsb.... nice. thanks
| | 4/17/2008 6:24:41 PM | Why are you here? really? | | usakindatheart
Overton, TX
age: 48 online now!
| quoted "Let`s be realistic for a moment ok? Some of you ladies look older then dirt, and you wan`t a perfect guy. lol. Please! Some of you ladies are just plain ugly! Not only in looks, but in what you say, and how you say it."
laz, i know i dont know you , but i have read alot of your post, some are more serious, some are funny, or even sweet.
this one was not.
you are perpetuating the same attitude that you are accusing women are doing here.
unlike the other ladies, who i know for sure one has some serious issues of her own before criticizing anyone new who has come here lately on dh
i am not going to bravado you on this one.
perhaps you could rewrite it, in which our age and our genetics are not a misnomer for your criticisms
| | 4/17/2008 6:26:21 PM | Why are you here? really? | | terminalchaos
Tampa, FL
age: 48
| I am trying to find that proverbial needle in the haystack.
Aren't we all???
Can't date clients..not a person to be found in a bar knocking back shots.
No doubt the Irish blood and too many family stories that causes me to refrain.
The only thing that bothers me and I won't speak for others, just myself,
I feel I am allowed my preference.
Call it shallow, but don't ALL men and women have a preference here?
I have kindly answered emails here to men that didn't read my profile
but only looked at my picture, my physical stats and plunged forward
in sending "private" pics of themselves. I will NEVER open another again..geez.
Guess what was returned in response?
Words I have read here but refuse to repeat.
Both women and men have a preference in who they want in their lives,
be this character, looks, money on and on. You know the drill.
This place can get very nasty, very quickly.
None of my words above are to initiate negative retaliation ....
it probably will, but it was not the intent.
We ( both genders ) have a right to preference in our circle of life.
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