| 4/18/2008 1:18:32 PM | Why do couple stop being good to each other after dating? | |
puppyeyez
Temecula, CA
age: 48
| I have noticed this most of my life . I have witnessed only very few couples remain friendly and kind and all that good stuff. I think this really needs to continued in the entire relationship..I mean for real ! How many men start farting and burbing and not keeping good gromming..We women love that clean shaven touch and the sweet gestures you gave in the beginning ..Please keep that stuff going ..I know we women fall short and tend to change too ,but we both would be much happier and enjoy each other so much more! What do you think? 
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| 4/18/2008 1:50:08 PM | Why do couple stop being good to each other after dating? | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 46
| People get lazy, or take each other for granted.
Sometimes, a gentle reminder of how nice "it used to be" is all it takes.
As for belching, or flatulence, the longer you know someone, the more time you spend with them, and such things just happen. I wouldn't want to have to worry about being on my "best behavior" as I'm drifting off to sleep, and I wouldn't expect it 24x7 from my partner, either.
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| 4/18/2008 2:07:26 PM | Why do couple stop being good to each other after dating? | |
eightinchbend
Gadsden, AL
age: 43 online now!
| We don't embrace the fear of losing someone special.
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| 4/18/2008 2:32:20 PM | Why do couple stop being good to each other after dating? | |
viking10214
Raleigh, NC
age: 23
| I have to agree with Oldschool...a lot of what you described was just what happens when you spend so much time with someone. Also, the cleanshaven bit--don't forget that some women like a well kept beard. But to answer your question, they take each other for granted mostly.
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| 4/18/2008 2:43:36 PM | Why do couple stop being good to each other after dating? | |
noredneckhere
Sevierville, TN
age: 47
| Another stupid topic from someone who thinks their gender is never wrong and the other is never right. And if you're referrng to one of your recent failures, just remember, YOU picked him. What does that say about you?
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| 4/18/2008 3:12:26 PM | Why do couple stop being good to each other after dating? | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 60
| Ouchies, noredneck....did you find yourelf in the original post? Anyone who has had a long term relationship knows that certain things go by the wayside, such as compliments and reassurances. I try my hardest to keep the compliments and reassurances going because positive action creates positive reaction. I made a point of telling both husbands I loved them, even if I was merely going to the store, because Lord knows when your number is up and you want the person you love to know you loved them to the end of life's journey.
Some people are good at the dating game and do not show their real selves until they say "I do." That's when their partner is taken aback by the "new" love. I have had both sides of the story. My first marriage was terrific, second was a disaster.
Bottom line, as my first husband said two weeks before he died, "just be kind to one another." I try to live that, too. If you show your true self to your partner all the time, they either accept you or they don't accept you. If you put on a false front in order to impress the person you are dating, you are, in essence, lying ~ not only to your date, but also to yourself.
Everyone has good and bad sides. Would be nice if we always showed our good side, right?
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| 4/18/2008 3:17:36 PM | Why do couple stop being good to each other after dating? | |
sea_dragon
Crystal River, FL
age: 31
| Story: I was at a comedy club at Virginia Beach, VA. The comedian on stage brought up a good subject of how do you know if he is in love and comfortable with you. If he tells you to roll the window down, there is your answer.
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| 4/18/2008 3:17:42 PM | Why do couple stop being good to each other after dating? | |
serenity11
Salmon Arm, BC
age: 50
| gee nordneck,  who crapped in your cornflakes this morning. As she said, if you read properly...she has noticed a lot of couples doing this!! ie: an observation.Lighten up.
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| 4/18/2008 3:21:55 PM | Why do couple stop being good to each other after dating? | |
puppyeyez
Temecula, CA
age: 48
| I think it was a good topic..Yes we all have our faults and all ,but if you read the post I mentioned both genders..like DUH! lol..Actually my husband passed away and I did notice he forgot the little things I enjoyed hearing and I did tell him in a loving way how I missed that ..I think most are right about taking one another for granted..
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| 4/18/2008 3:26:34 PM | Why do couple stop being good to each other after dating? | |
puppyeyez
Temecula, CA
age: 48
| That was funny serenity..Thanks for your comment.. 
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| 4/18/2008 3:28:29 PM | Why do couple stop being good to each other after dating? | |
gruntster1949
Mountain View, AR
age: 58
| Good topic, familiarity breeds contempt?We quit trying to impress.I think successful couples have time set aside for each other
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| 4/18/2008 3:29:01 PM | Why do couple stop being good to each other after dating? | |
festusrjh
Farmington, NY
age: 52
| I think that any relationship take constant upkeep on both sides. If we would treat our partner the same as our life long best friend the love and respect should grow. best behavior can turn into a comfortable lax, but usually best behavior is not really who we want to be. Belching and such is just bad manners where ever you are.
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| 4/18/2008 3:33:10 PM | Why do couple stop being good to each other after dating? | |
collegekidunot
Winnsboro, LA
age: 48
| guess some people weren't taught about respect when they were growing up! stuff like opening the door, sending flowers, just because. being all around gentleman. sometimes when marriage rolls around, some keep up that tradition, some don't! i think most of it drowned in the gene pool!
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| 4/18/2008 7:49:45 PM | Why do couple stop being good to each other after dating? | |
usakindatheart
Overton, TX
age: 48 online now!
| a lot of spouses, get hung up in "just making it", work, bills, children, sometimes disaster such as health issues or tragedy.
the successful ones that i know of are the 40 and 50 generations, they are in there late 60'70'80' now, and they will tell you it was because divorce was not an option , and so they had to work it out, and forgive, and most did....
unlike to day, the baby boomer's are divorcing by huge numbers.
and the younger generations, most do not even want to get married, or they think it is for suckers... it is all so sad really...
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| 4/18/2008 8:43:56 PM | Why do couple stop being good to each other after dating? | |
coppermare
Grady, AL
age: 48
| I think they just get into a comfort zone. Not that it's totally right, it's work and both sides have to work at keeping the fire going.
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