| 4/20/2008 7:27:28 PM | WHY ARE THESE IDIOTS ONHERE??!!??!! I feel my time is being wasted. | |
sinomangirl
Baltimore, MD
age: 30
| bellasda....you are the FIRST man I have met on here that is NORMAL!!! kudos
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| 4/20/2008 7:27:34 PM | WHY ARE THESE IDIOTS ONHERE??!!??!! I feel my time is being wasted. | |
uprooted
Fairport, NY
age: 43
| if I were in Baltimore I'd take you to dinner,
truth for most people is you gotta be friends first...
ever try to date your enemies?
search profiles, see what interest you, touch base via email, take it from there
South buster, it is soooo true, 20 digits and only 4 true friends.
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| 4/20/2008 7:29:00 PM | WHY ARE THESE IDIOTS ONHERE??!!??!! I feel my time is being wasted. | |
sinomangirl
Baltimore, MD
age: 30
| *sigh* once again missing the point..... I am saying people who do NOT want to date..... not the people who want to be friends first.... THAT is normal. IS NO ONE listening? OMG
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| 4/20/2008 7:30:44 PM | WHY ARE THESE IDIOTS ONHERE??!!??!! I feel my time is being wasted. | |
sinomangirl
Baltimore, MD
age: 30
| EVERY one is turning this into a battle ground instead of a SAIN conversation to answer my questions as to why certain people are on here. it is immature, and high school BS, I am closeing this thred, find somewhere else for the dramma people.
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| 4/20/2008 7:32:57 PM | WHY ARE THESE IDIOTS ONHERE??!!??!! I feel my time is being wasted. | |
nicksterdemus
Little Rock, AR
age: 51
| How are you gonna close the thread?
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| 4/20/2008 7:36:13 PM | WHY ARE THESE IDIOTS ONHERE??!!??!! I feel my time is being wasted. | |
kitkat1204
Crawfordsville, IN
age: 49
| guess i should clairify myself better ..............
was on here to find someone for dating, relationship, longterm, stated that in my profile
NOW, profile reads-just looking for friends.  found what i was looking for, but meet alot of great people on here SO GUESS WHAT?  I AM STAYING to keep in contact with my
FRIENDS!!!!
[Edited 4/20/2008 7:37:20 PM]
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| 4/20/2008 7:36:42 PM | WHY ARE THESE IDIOTS ONHERE??!!??!! I feel my time is being wasted. | |
gambit28043
Forest City, NC
age: 40
| Sino, to a degree I am going to agree with you and I am basing that on your intro to this thread and not on any of the drama between my reply and your question.
There are alot of nice people here but there seem to be an over abundance in cliques, trolls and even attached people (some even married) that spend time in the forums. In my one and a half months here I have either seen a sharp rise in drama and people bashing or I was naive and it was there since day one. I have to say that my time here has dropped dramatically because of this.
I have been on the sidelines and through some reading I found a few people talk about a site called plenty of fish dot com and I have found that it is more suitable for me (and I bet you'd agree if you tried it) because the site seems more driven toward meeting and more serious in actual dating.
I think the name datehookup is somewhat misleading because it is so forum/discussion driven and that format is well and good on who wants that but it seriously lacks in dates and hook ups. In my one week at pof I have already had one date (and it was nice) and a few phone conversations, so pof seems more in the actual meeting business.
Good luck to you and good luck to all and enjoy what you like best because that's really what is the most important thing.
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| 4/20/2008 7:38:40 PM | WHY ARE THESE IDIOTS ONHERE??!!??!! I feel my time is being wasted. | |
uprooted
Fairport, NY
age: 43
| very interesting question nickster... was wondering that myself.
I should put my glasses I keep missing the point on all these topics.
If I only had a brain.... 
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| 4/20/2008 7:42:03 PM | WHY ARE THESE IDIOTS ONHERE??!!??!! I feel my time is being wasted. | |
ladyinparis
Paris, TX
age: 41
| Sometimes when you seek something that you want very badly...you come across as desperate--like you are demanding everyone play by your rules and give you want you want. That isn't how love is found. Take a deep breath, meet some of the people on this site, enjoy their company and be appreciative that so many people "strangers" will off you advice, listen to you when you are sad, listen to you when you are happy, and put you in your place when you are wrong. Hell...that sounds like a relationship to me. Maybe if you were ONLY searching for friends...the other will fall in your arms. I am not dating anyone from this site, but I have so enjoyed so many of the people, and so many have helped me through a difficult time by giving me exactly what I needed..a friend. Sometimes, you think you are ready for something (like a relationship), and when you do not get it, you think you were done wrong. Maybe you should place trust in the fact that everything happens for a reason, and maybe just because you think you want a relationship, what you really need is a friend. I know that jumping right into a relationship would be the wrong thing for me to do until I have spent some time alone to work through any animosities, confusion, or insecurities, I have from my failed marriage. I didn't know that in the beginning, but after being on here for almost 3 months, and speaking with so many people....thank GOD I found friends. That is what I really needed.
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| 4/20/2008 7:57:51 PM | WHY ARE THESE IDIOTS ONHERE??!!??!! I feel my time is being wasted. | |
nicksterdemus
Little Rock, AR
age: 51
| I'm sure I've seen @ least half a dozen of other dating sites advertised here. DH offers various groups divided by interest as well as age along w/geographical preference.
Similar to a city you navigate to where ya wish.
Granted this is a small community and it functions partially due to regulars that hang out.
Patience is a virtue. Enjoy...
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| 4/20/2008 8:07:31 PM | WHY ARE THESE IDIOTS ONHERE??!!??!! I feel my time is being wasted. | |
billericachick
Billerica, MA
age: 38
| ladyinparis......I could not have said it better myself. I got on here right before the holidays. I thought after 6 month of being divorce, I was ready.....NOT. I found people that became my friends that gave me advice, a shoulder, and shared their own stories with me...Friday nights were very hard for me, I had to drop my children off at their dads, and I can remember their being a post anyone doing anything tonight it's Friday....I responded NO, feeling down had to drop my kids off for the first time at their dad's house. And the thread took off from there....Hang in there, been there, emails came in all over the world....It was so touching to me.....So if you are lucky to find friends on here, you are blessed.....I have come along way since then, and have met someone on here, and my profile now has changed to just on here to talk to my friends, and give all others hope, because it DOES HAPPEN.......
And I'm not missing what you are saying about the jerks on here about the one night stands, FWB's (friends w/ ben.), phone sex, etc. I had to change my profile and make it clear that I was not intersted in that, because those emails came flying in when I first came on, and continued. I got fed up and tired of it. They stopped when I stated that in my profile. So just really state what you are looking for, and what you are not looking for.
Good luck in your search.....
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| 4/20/2008 8:14:16 PM | WHY ARE THESE IDIOTS ONHERE??!!??!! I feel my time is being wasted. | |
scmnmale
Saint Cloud, MN
age: 33
| maybe if you didnt look like a gothic transsexual you wouldnt have that problem
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| 4/20/2008 8:16:00 PM | WHY ARE THESE IDIOTS ONHERE??!!??!! I feel my time is being wasted. | |
kitkat1204
Crawfordsville, IN
age: 49
| OUCH!!!
HAD TO GO THERE, didn't you........shame on you
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| 4/20/2008 8:20:45 PM | WHY ARE THESE IDIOTS ONHERE??!!??!! I feel my time is being wasted. | |
ladyinparis
Paris, TX
age: 41
| Congratulations billerina-- I think that was your name, sorry. I had signed up in chemistry, yahoo, singles.net, and some fishing something or other and shortly after finding this site, I deleted my accounts in all of the others. I thought I wanted to have a relationship right away. Meet someone, fall in love, yada yada. Someone would talk to me, call me, ask me out and I would panic. I wasn't ready. I knew I had too many things to deal with in my head first. I so enjoyed the forums. I have learned so much and met so many interesting people. I enjoy the conversations. I get on this site every day. It is my "social life" of sorts. I do not go to clubs, and I have two teenage daughters that I need to be available for, so going out every weekend to meet people isn't really an option. This site has saved my sanity, and kept me from lying in bed each weekend night crying because I thought I needed someone with me to make my life complete.
I know now...I am complete! If anyone joins me now, they are an addition, not the foundation.
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| 4/20/2008 8:27:37 PM | WHY ARE THESE IDIOTS ONHERE??!!??!! I feel my time is being wasted. | |
classyguy333
West Fargo, ND
age: 57
| By golly Paris, you have figured this out. I too finally figured out I wasn't ready for some time after my late wife passed. I thought I was. I needed to move on. But, I really think I was finding reasons to run. For me this was far different than after the divorce from my first wife. I filed. Whe was a liar and a credit card jukie. No BIG loss. But, with my second wife, I lost my soul mate. A very BIG part of me died with her. It took me almost three years before really realizing I was ready. Might sound wierd, but that's it.
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