| 4/19/2008 12:41:11 PM | Hey big women do you agree? | | sweetbabeblues
Hannibal, MO
age: 53
| Karma....two thumbs up for sure......
Doesn't it seem funny that a man can put on a few pounds and he looks "buff"....
Let a woman put on a few pounds, and we are called "fat".......
 
| | 4/19/2008 12:46:36 PM | Hey big women do you agree? | | chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| Seriously, a thread that bashes weight makes the OP an undesireable mate. It just brings up RED flags. As well as the threads that ask how others feel about BBW, makes them sound like they lack confidence in themselves.
| | 4/19/2008 1:03:24 PM | Hey big women do you agree? | | 
thier_mom
Michigan City, IN
age: 33
| I would think that if a man or woman for that matter isnt into someone obese or a litlle as i prefer to call it pleasingly plump, Then they should be able to act like dults. I am on the pleasingly plump side and if a man doesnt like it thats his problem. Noone told him to look at a plump person. Everyone has thier own opinion and each is to thier own but please keep in mind the feelings that may be hurt when you are rude, inconsiderate or just a plain jerk.
| | 4/19/2008 1:21:07 PM | Hey big women do you agree? | | sweetbabeblues
Hannibal, MO
age: 53
| thor...not true at all...
Some people have a way of beeing so called "informative"....But all the while reading between the lines.. he is in fact making fun of people by the rude comments he has made here....
Defensive is one thing...speaking our minds is yet another, when in fact someone does as this man has done......
Not beeing rejected,( I have a man thank you) when I spoke...but beeing one to speak my mind in defense of what was said.....
And definatly not blind to wisdom of a jackass, know it all, who knows nothing.......
He "asumes" someone took in extra calories, all the while not knowing or not wanting to realize what the truth realy was here in this instance...
SO how is that to "enlighten us all" as you have said?
[Edited 4/19/2008 1:23:23 PM]
| | 4/19/2008 1:28:41 PM | Hey big women do you agree? | | 
karma_kisses
Milford, IN
age: 35
| And I am simply disspelling the misinformation that was posted in an opportunity to use someone's personal success to condem others for their own limitations such as the posting below:
"It is physically impossible to gain weight without consuming inert matter (water, or having a bowel obstruction) or excess calories that get turned into fat. Simple thermodynamics."
It is paramount for me to tell someone how to raise their child with a mental disorder, becuase I have successfully raised my normal children to be well behaved...
If the intent is to help, there are organizations that would love volunteers and could use such an obvious passion to "help", critisism born out of ignorance is not welcome here.
| | 4/19/2008 2:03:44 PM | Hey big women do you agree? | | 
irparis39
New York, NY
age: 49 online now!
| I'm sorry Rocket, it was not my intention to put you in a corner. Let me explain how I saw your post.
Its just that making a comparison from blonde to weight...when the media tells us that "blondes have more fun", again putting a positive spin on the blonde bimbo jokes to "having more fun" how does that hurt you. How does that kind of stigmantation even compare to "we're fat, lazy, over eat, don't exercise, unattractive, and the best I've heard from thor, "desparate to boink a guy"... to a woman/man who hears that all the time, what big people hear is that they are "not deserving of love". Who puts a positive spin on that? Nobody. And when big gals try to get others to understand their feelings from their standpoint, they supposedly come off as angry...? We given the lazy, fat attitude.
I would bet you would get really pissed off if I had said that was a typical blonde comment, not even knowing you...even if I were 100 lbs I would stick up with any woman in any situation that causes her hurt and pain...unless what you saying is that that italian guy didn't choose you because he thought blonde "bimbo" and you're sick and tired of men labeling you as sub-intelligent just because you're a blonde. Then I can stand behind that. The other thing you said was about making time for dating, again a choose you can change, and when you're ready to you will. But none of these choices hurt you, not deep inside where it counts because you can change your time management in an instance. Yes, we can choose to lose weight, but that takes more time, and it works even better/faster when you have an awesome person egging you on...encouraging you to try your best but still loving you if you go 8 steps forward and 9 steps back. That takes an awesome person, a hero.
As for oldschool/thor...yes, he's being informative, but they're also being close minded and not taking into account what others are telling him about their health and which makes them iffy partners. People who are bound to wheelchairs gain weight, partners will become sick, lose limbs, become discourage and they don't know how to lift people up. That's an unattractive negative trait. They just looking at things from their perspective and how it affects them...but its ok, because there's always a back door. I find that disappointing as a potential mate on a dating site.
But their being who they are and we should accept that and move on. You can't change people who don't want to turn the mirror a little bit and see someone's awesome potential. Heros aren't farm raised anymore. Its just sad.
Paris
| | 4/19/2008 2:18:07 PM | Hey big women do you agree? | | sweetbabeblues
Hannibal, MO
age: 53
| EXCUSE ME?????? "YOU PEOPLE"?????
Isn't that like calling everyone who is black the "N" word, or calling people with learning disabilities, the "R" word.... etc..... 
thor...shame shame.......
thor...to each his own, but you are missing the point here completly... If you go back into the first page of postings here you will see his comment to a person that she "must have eaten like a horse", and goes on to say what she evidently did in his own thoughts as to how she gained that weight...
Is he a Doctor, or a Nutricionists? Does he have any type of credentials in which to stake his claim, other than the words he writes in front of him?
Not everyone sits and feeds thier faces, or are lazey who gain weight....
I for one gained weight due to medical reasons.....
Not everyone as I have stated has the means to go to a gym, or consult a specialist in that field, or even has the means to purchase products in which will help them loose weight, or even eat the right foods.
Everyones cicumstances are different......
And I am sure the person who started this thread did not do so in order for people to come here and bash others simpy because they have a weight problem.
And your right.....old school is certainly "full of something"...but I doubt that it is knowledge as you apear to think he has.....
| | 4/19/2008 2:24:09 PM | Hey big women do you agree? | | 
dej88
Harrisburg, PA
age: 59
| You all need to realize that he is a stupid agitator who wants attention so let's quit giving it to him. Maybe he will go away. I doubt it but why stick around just to hurt people? You are sick!
| | 4/19/2008 2:26:08 PM | Hey big women do you agree? | |
dej88
Harrisburg, PA
age: 59
| BTW, This thread is addressed to big women so why are you here? Maybe that's why you don't post your picture?
| | 4/19/2008 2:28:16 PM | Hey big women do you agree? | | blueeyedsweetie
Broken Arrow, OK
age: 34
| Oh my gosh I dont know where Oldschoolcharm learned his "charm" but there is such thing as tack and common courtesy and people of all sizes deserve it until they prove they dont deserve it.
IM a BBW...and I'm not all that pleased with it but I learned the value of my self...interself and was lucky enough to find the love of my life, my one true soul mate...he was 6-4 and 275, but he used to be 475 pounds and he used to hate to show me pictures of that time of his life because he thought i would stop loving him but although i was glad he was the size he was when we were dating and engaged, i would have loved him just as big as he was as well.
He too had problems with women not wanting to find out what a true GENTLEMAN he was because of his size...but I dedicate this to him, in his memory, 4-24-06 he passed away of congestive heart failure....23 days after we got engaged.
The only two true reasons anyone should change their life style is for heatlth and self esteme not because someone doesnt like you.
Everyone is entitled to their opion because although I have dated shorter men I have found taller women make them feel unmanly and they dislike it when I wear high heels because at 5-10 its puts me at 6-1. Now if a short man can handle a taller woman and make the moves work when east coast swing dancing its all good.
so done let people make you feel bad about being big...just be proud your not so shallow
| | 4/19/2008 2:34:43 PM | Hey big women do you agree? | | sweetbabeblues
Hannibal, MO
age: 53
| blue...so sorry to hear about your friend.... My heart goes out to you.....
I know it's hard for us girls who are a bit larger in size than the "norm" and taller too.. I'm 5-9, 6-0 with heels. And I have to laugh at the guys who say they are taller than me,on thier profiles, then when I meet them, when even in flats, or no shoes at all, I still have to look down at them....
But you know..it doesn't matter the size of the person, or how tall or short they are, or even what type of disability they have.....
We are all human, and we all have neads, wants, desires, and yes... even dreams...
Others should get off thier damn high horse and realize that
"God created all men equal... Just some think they are created more equal than others"......
| | 4/19/2008 2:51:38 PM | Hey big women do you agree? | | blueeyedsweetie
Broken Arrow, OK
age: 34
| okay so its a blame of generation? I was born weighing 11 pounds i guess i had the choice to make her eat...mmm but do i blame my bbw on anyone else no...noone but my own unhappiness...I am just me thats all I can be and thats all i wanna be when I want to ill do what I want when i want
| | 4/19/2008 3:15:13 PM | Hey big women do you agree? | | 
rocket000
Murrayville, GA
age: 50
| Paris, I appreciate the time you took to explain your position. You're right, people don't typically berate someone for being blonde.
I still stand by my original thought. We should ALL be respectful of ALL people and not make them feel less by being mean spirited or belittling.
With that said as human beings we may have PREFERENCES in a romantic partner and that doesn't make somebody good or bad. Chemistry is elusive and not always definable. Again, nobody needs to be cruel.
| | 4/21/2008 10:49:32 AM | Hey big women do you agree? | | 
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 47
| I stand by this assertion: "It is physically impossible to gain weight without consuming inert matter (water, or having a bowel obstruction) or excess calories that get turned into fat. Simple thermodynamics."
www.bodybuilding.com has a wealth of peer-reviewed research material to back up the approaches to diet and exercise there. They also sell stuff. I don't buy it, and can't recommend the stuff they sell.
I hired a personal trainer from FitnessTogether San Diego to help me achieve my goals.
If one is obese and happy that way, then good for them -- statistically they are at greater risk for a variety of diseases, but that remains their choice. They may prefer to be obese and happy rather than trying to reduce body fat percentage and be miserable (and, certain conditions will make that harder).
Now, 5'0" and 1000-1200 kcal/day... Let's see, if you (I'm guessing to establish an estimate of caloric requirements) weigh 130 lbs., your BMI is 25.4: starting to get overweight. With a moderately active lifestyle, you should consume 13 times your weigh in pounds in kcal/day: so 1690 kcal/day. Completely sedentary is 11 times... 1430. If you weigh more, or are more active, your intake will be higher. Hypothyroidism will kill your metabolism, but 1000 to 1200 kcal is still very low.
These are rough estimates. Age, weight, gender, height, and body fat percentage, can be used to get better estimates of daily caloric requirements, but the "gold standard" is to have your doctor administer a BMR test: actually measure your rest metabolism. I would expect those with thyroid disease would have this done, to help them establish a diet that is consistent with their condition. It used to be used to diagnose thyroid disease, but is somewhat complex and is no longer done for that purpose.
The point is that there is no such thing as a free lunch, energy-wise. If you expend effort, you burn calories. Hypothyroidism might make you sluggish (because your metabolism won't "rev up" when it needs to), and an empty stomach will make you feel hungry, but it STILL comes down to calories in vs. calories out. If it didn't a perpetual motion machine would be a reality.
For more information about thyroid disease, and weight gain/loss, look here: http://www.thyroid.org/patients/patient_brochures/weight.html. It is said that hypothyroidism can be associated with about 5-10 lbs. of increased weight. Not a lot. Not an "excuse" for 50 to 100 lbs.
If you're BBW, and happy, fine. But, don't complain that some do not find you attractive. It is a matter of preference. (Of course, if the man in question is obese himself, it smacks of hypocracy.) Also, don't complain that you can't lose weitht. You can. It's just damn hard, requiring exercise, soreness, and diet discipline. It does not happen overnight (at least not in a healthy way). And, you have to want to do it for your health, not to "snag" someone.
| | 4/21/2008 11:38:07 AM | Hey big women do you agree? | | jan020165
Montrose, PA
age: 43
| Me thinks oldschoolcharm is NOT so charming. Does he think he's kicked it enough yet?
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