| 4/20/2008 4:48:39 PM | need opinion from men and women | |
ladyvirtue52
Redding, CA
age: 52
| I'm going to have to agree with the rest of the group on this one. If the two of you are in a relationship and sharing the "I Love You's", then that IS a relationship and his online antics need to stop. I myself would let him know how it makes me feel, and if he makes excuses and tries to laugh it off, I'd be on my way out the door..No time for game players..good luck hun..
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| 4/20/2008 5:34:15 PM | need opinion from men and women | |
theironmandan1
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 39
| tell him how you feel , make it known this will not tolerated, and then if he does not change his ways, well then you will have a hard decision to make, If he loves you it will turn out ok!
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| 4/20/2008 5:49:20 PM | need opinion from men and women | |
pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 50
| If he did it with you, he will do it to you.
How did your relationship with him start???? Has his postings changed at all since you 2 got together?????? If his behaviour has not changed at all then he will replace you as soon as he finds something he thinks is better.
If I were involved with someone and it was serious, I may come in and post in the forums but I would NOT be looking for anyone, nor would I be flirting with anyone.
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| 4/20/2008 5:52:28 PM | need opinion from men and women | |
harley9482
Fort Wayne, IN
age: 25
| ignorance and insecurity
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| 4/20/2008 6:37:38 PM | need opinion from men and women | |
peaseblossom
North Las Vegas, NV
age: 42
| I agree with many others. I think he's playing the waiting game. You're alright until something better comes along. You need to ask him what is his longterm plan. 3 months is really soon to say I love, I think. So ask him if he is ready and willing to stop the flirting, if he laughs it off he doesn't care about your feelings and you need to let him go.
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| 4/20/2008 6:49:03 PM | need opinion from men and women | |
oliverbrancher
Calgary, AB
age: 46
| based solely on the information you provide which is not enough to make an accurate assessment.
it could be that he is leaning on his charmed ways for gaining attention.
it may seem shallow. but it is not really. habitual perhaps. not well considered in light of more intimate relationship prospect perhaps. but yet...not so malicious either...if it is friendly.
something you can do to find out how serious he is about you in relationship is to ask him what is the purpose of his being with you in his opinion and clearly enumerate them.
it would also be advisable for you to share with us what is "wonderfull" about him which makes you feel/think (whatever).
there seems to be a lack of information which would give any of us a very clear picture of who either are in this relationship.
[Edited 4/20/2008 6:50:34 PM]
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| 4/20/2008 7:39:57 PM | need opinion from men and women | |
absoluted
Milton, FL
age: 29
| 3 months aren't you taking this a lil too far????? I dont let guys meet my parents hell @ all! I would say find you something to do and get a hobby of your own, if he doesnt act right nove on!
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| 4/20/2008 8:00:42 PM | need opinion from men and women | |
fryyyy
North Kingstown, RI
age: 49
| I don't think you should be laying down ultimatums, I think you shouldn't be trying to change who he is. Rather i think you should be sharing your feelings with him .. then carefully observing his behaviors. Is this something you can live with? If his flirting bothers you, you should tell him how you feel. I don't think you should demand he stop. I think you should just assess what he does once he knows how you feel. I think you should get to know who this guy really is, and then decide if you can live with who he is. Keep him informed, let him make his choices, then you make your choices. Not out of anger, revenge anything like that.. but choices that are in your best interest, choices you can live with.
questions i'd be pondering are:
If he knows something he does hurts/bothers you, why is he still doing it?
If he has you, why is he elsewhere?
considering the above what kind of relationship should this be?
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| 4/20/2008 8:23:48 PM | need opinion from men and women | |
zabava
West Hartford, CT
age: 40
| Thank you all for replies and advice. Yes, he says in his profile that he is dating me and I can read his emails. Often we post things together and really have fun and laugh a lot. Still, what possesses him to flirt? With women thousands miles away? They also send him replies that they don't understand him... May be he has multiple personality disorder?
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