| 4/20/2008 7:01:03 PM | The On-line Dating Scene for Us All | |
68highlander
Eugene, OR
age: 58
| Hi,
Just thought I would add this blurb I found while surfing around. this is in no way intended to offend or demean ANYONE...It has been true for me and many other guys I have talked to. I welcome any and all feed back. 
Thanks
"So, it’s no secret women fall for all the wrong men time after time while perfectly good men sit on the sidelines hoping to get noticed. The secret is out, and men have been asking themselves this question for many years but most of the time they are given a runaround answer. Why do woman like jerks? I have absolutely no idea. Do they fall for jerks? Yes, time after time. 
I can admit to dating some of the worse men in El Paso. From the guy who lied about his entire life and months later I find he’s still in High School, to the one who was engaged to another woman while making plans to marry me, I have met them all. I can also admit to pushing perfectly good men to the friend zone simply because they weren’t “my type” in other words, they were just too nice. Was it wrong? Absolutely, yet I was foolish enough to attempt to make things work with Mr. Wrong and give him chance after chance while Mr. Nice guy waited around for his." 
"It took me a few knockouts before I began to notice the men on the sidelines. The one I fell in love with wouldn’t necessarily be the man with the perfect career or the perfect looks or personality, but the one who accepted me for who I was and loved me unconditionally. I know a few women, (not speaking for all but include some of my dearest friends) who are constantly crying over men who are not worth the time of day, yet they fight to stay in the wounding relationship for various reasons or as I call them, excuses. Most of the time, it really isn’t worth it."
"What constitutes being too nice? Is there even such thing? If being “too nice” means being attentive, caring, loving, romantic, and respectful, then some women should be looking out for Mr. Nice Guy instead of pushing them into outer space. They cannot only be great friends; they can also make for great partners and be the perfect fit for a great relationship." 
Nice guys DO finish last!!!
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| 4/20/2008 7:12:04 PM | The On-line Dating Scene for Us All | |
weaimtoplease
Donalsonville, GA
age: 59
| Not all women push away the "nice guys"! I know I don't. Yes, some women make bad choices - I have - and it has been a true learning experience. It has lead me to know what I want but, more importantly, what I don't want!
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| 4/20/2008 7:17:26 PM | The On-line Dating Scene for Us All | |
catsmeow53
Pfafftown, NC
age: 54 online now!
| Agree with weaim too! 
I still want to know where the good guys are though.
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| 4/20/2008 7:17:52 PM | The On-line Dating Scene for Us All | |
leeann1
Summerville, SC
age: 50
| Its not that we choose the bad guys its just sometimes the nice guys don't let themselves be known to us. Some of us don't want to do the approahing but want someone to come to us.
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| 4/20/2008 7:19:12 PM | The On-line Dating Scene for Us All | |
jeannieoncemore
Warrensburg, MO
age: 56
| I can see your point only from my point of view. I certainly don't get attention from the guys. I feel like they are passing up a really good thing. I'm a good, loving, caring, fun, classy person and I sit by and watch guys go for the good looking, outspoken women. I certainly cannot speak to anyone's character because I don't know anyone that well but all I can say is that the good guys finish last. It has surly been my experience.
And, I agree, I don't think it's really worth it.
[Edited 4/20/2008 7:19:44 PM]
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| 4/20/2008 7:20:25 PM | The On-line Dating Scene for Us All | |
colleen58
Columbia, SC
age: 59
| Some men, and women, are very good liars and convince us that they are exactly what we're looking for. After we pass up some honest men, we finally find out what the liars are really like and by that time we've lost the good ones.
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| 4/20/2008 7:24:12 PM | The On-line Dating Scene for Us All | |
shalah
Marshall, MO
age: 60
| Ok let me say this. Most women our age are not used to being assertive. We were taught to wait and let the man do the approaching. Now usually the not so nice guys dont have a problem with approaching a lady so they of course get noticed first.
In my oppenion nice guys need to let the ladies know with out a doubt that they are interested if they are.
Of course we want a nice guy. 
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| 4/20/2008 7:30:34 PM | The On-line Dating Scene for Us All | |
yousmile
Abingdon, VA
age: 56
| Highlander, thanks for posting for all to see.
A woman's happiness lies within. A man is just to compliment what she has acquired through life.
I'm not saying this in a rude tone, just expressing my emotions.
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| 4/20/2008 7:37:40 PM | The On-line Dating Scene for Us All | |
68highlander
Eugene, OR
age: 58
| Excellent Ladies!!!!!!
I did not expect such good responses, and so soon!!! I guess for me it has been shyness or lack of confidence in the earlier years. Now I am willing to reach out and ask ANY woman for their time. Whether it be coffee or just a chat on the line. Lots of times i will get the "I noticed Your Picture" response, We don't seem to be a match. I am not whinning here, don't misunderstand, it just seems to a scripted response. i have notice that since I have been on the 50+ (boy that sounds weird)site that the women are much more willing to say hi.I also believe what you say that people our age have certain expectations from others. I like taking the first step, although it is nice to see the woman do the same.
I am certainly a product of the 50's and a teen in the 60's in Eugene, Oregon(Whew!!, what a place then)but this is 2008, and I miss the old fashioned approach, but a lot of us on both sides sit out the dances because we are just to nice......
Love you all!!!!
[Edited 4/20/2008 7:39:01 PM]
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| 4/20/2008 7:37:54 PM | The On-line Dating Scene for Us All | |
fasttracker
Middleburg, FL
age: 57
| Hi 68, Welcome to the 50's!
One thing I've experienced about the nice guy syndrome versus jerks is often "nice guys" tend to wither away, blend into the scenery and stay hidden on the sidelines. Women aren't necessarily able to connect with them on any level because of the man's uneasiness that's being portrayed, little lone get to know the real person.
Whereas "jerks" have fine tuned their narcissistic behaviors into charismatic verbally attentive ploys to WOW the ladies. They appear to be in control, confident and approachable.
Volumes are spoken in body language.
Just my own personal experience. 
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| 4/20/2008 7:39:37 PM | The On-line Dating Scene for Us All | |
shalah
Marshall, MO
age: 60
| tracker
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| 4/20/2008 7:42:00 PM | The On-line Dating Scene for Us All | |
68highlander
Eugene, OR
age: 58
| No rudeness taken Yousmile......I would love to be the compliment!!!
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| 4/20/2008 7:48:53 PM | The On-line Dating Scene for Us All | |
mrq423
Racine, WI
age: 55
| I have to admit, I do make bad choices. And I do like the
"bad" guy. (THAT'S WHY I MAKE BAD CHOICES ~! )
Being raised Catholic, many things were rammed down our throats.
I tend not to believe many things from childhood now.
I would like to wait and have the "nice" guy approach me.
But he will have to be honest, and tell me upfront, he is interested.
I am not a mind reader. And if that's all you want to do is talk,
no problem. If you want more of a relationship - clue me in.
(I am just trying to understand myself these days, let alone
someone else and their situation.)
You can't ever be "too nice".
And because of that, in the long run, you won't finish last...
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| 4/20/2008 7:49:49 PM | The On-line Dating Scene for Us All | |
shalah
Marshall, MO
age: 60
| There is one thing I have notice about nice guys and that is they run and they hide.  It sure makes a girl think that they really dont want a relationship.
To be honest I am not in any kind of way going to chase any man to get his attention. I feel like I am a really good woman. I am also not desperate to have a man regardless.
Yes I would love to find a mate to share the rest of my life with but I have enough dignity to hold my head up and walk on if a man acts like he isnt interested.
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| 4/20/2008 7:52:36 PM | The On-line Dating Scene for Us All | |
leeann1
Summerville, SC
age: 50
| shalah,
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