| 4/23/2008 1:10:11 AM | Are you women actually here to date? I mean go out on date | |
nevyn
Prattville, AL
age: 65
| Much of my initial racing around the net looking for single meet sites was probably prompted by panic. About the only thing I can compare it to is going out to the mall and suddenly coming to a realization that your mate has disappeared. Which of course garners panic! Unfortunately, my initial attempts to send Emails or Winks was probably toxically tainted by that panic and as such were not very appealing. However, much has changed since then with my own satisfaction with life itself. Adjustment does happen: just not as suddenly as we would like.
With that adjustment has come some clarity of why I am even looking around single meet sites. It is obvious that some of the females are searching for a long term relationship with Prince Charming. And many of the males don't have a clue as to what they want. There seems to be a game of sorts that is similar to fly fishing. This involves presentation of emails etc. that will attract a specific female. Now many of the females complain that the men are simply chumming and not at all serious about searching for Ms. Right. There is a lot of truth to that complaint. The simple fact of life is that males normally chase after females using a shotgun approach. Under normal circumstances this hunt takes place in three dimensional space (your local dance hall, church group, pub etc.). It gives both the male and female the opportunity to make judgements based on real time observations. Using the net (cyber space) puts all of this into the realm of 'fantasy' and as such creates a lot of frustration.
If a male is genuinely interested in attracting a female then he needs to slow his pace and pay attention to the suggestions on the forums. However, all this does is attract a female whose expectations are not likely to be met because it is cyber space and not three dimensional reality.
At this point I will simply wait it out. However, I will also attempt to find some three dimensional space which allows an opportunity for 'reality contact'.
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| 4/23/2008 2:34:33 AM | Are you women actually here to date? I mean go out on date | |
mosplace
Boulder City, NV
age: 47
| have to be asked out on a date first hmmmmm was to meet someone he canceled (truck broke down) that was weeks ago. said he would contact me and set up another date which has not happened hmmmmm better than being stood up  But I do like to come here and chat If someone wants to meet for brunch/lunch fine if not fine I have met many nice people here
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| 4/28/2008 10:51:38 AM | Are you women actually here to date? I mean go out on date | |
theironmandan1
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 39
| I have been on three dates in one month, One was an angel but way to young, one was person (no picture) age was not good to her, but very nice, but i know it now moved on, one is seams perfect and we will see how it goes, and thursday im seeing another one , maybe this will be the one , Im have done well for myself and im looking for mrs right, so just get out there. if you are afraid ,go during the day , not to the park ,but a crouded restarant, let other people know where you are going, call when you get there and call when you leave,but if you dont do anything , there will be no chance of a hook up.
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| 4/28/2008 12:35:32 PM | Are you women actually here to date? I mean go out on date | |
paradise16
Rockford, IL
age: 49
| ya know ironman, have you ever considered that, even though florida is a nice place to visit,(been there), it's not like i can say "hey, whatcha doing tonight, would you like to go out for dinner?"? Although, it does sound nice. So thank me for my honesty-ha!
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| 4/28/2008 12:41:43 PM | Are you women actually here to date? I mean go out on date | |
schriee
Lexington, TN
age: 31
| been on three dates!!!and sad to say the men are not looking for what they
say. still talking to one on his time. tell yall though. im not looking for a few dates. im looking for a relationship. 
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| 4/28/2008 3:40:04 PM | Are you women actually here to date? I mean go out on date | |
gmugirl
Richmond, VA
age: 43
| Okay-I am posting even though most of the addresses are FAR from me. Yup-I think dates and actually SEEING the person you speak with are great except it does seem the distance and schedules get in the way. I don't even post a photo however, unless someone asks. Probably hard to get to know a "faceless" person.
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| 4/28/2008 6:16:03 PM | Are you women actually here to date? I mean go out on date | |
hairgirlwink
Annapolis, MD
age: 37
| I am here to date. I have had 2 dates which were great but they both just wanted sex. I do love sex but I want more than that. Is there any men in maryland who want to date?
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| 4/28/2008 6:26:10 PM | Are you women actually here to date? I mean go out on date | |
stylistic
Rockville, MD
age: 46
| Huck,
I just posted a similar thread,wondering why people have such a hard time getting together
and not dating in the way that is personal.I totally agree its dificult to get people off their computers long enought to have a cup of coffee with someone. I have been asked and agreed, but then......nothing.I don't get it either,it not just the woman. N....
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| 4/28/2008 7:27:48 PM | Are you women actually here to date? I mean go out on date | |
dar3407
Glen Burnie, MD
age: 51
| I'm here to date, but just like most of the men on here want SEX ! and not the romance and then the sex. They want it all in one night Hey guys give the girls a chance!!!
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| 4/28/2008 7:35:52 PM | Are you women actually here to date? I mean go out on date | |
unexpected1420
Green Bay, WI
age: 25
| i feel the same way. it doesn't really seem like a lot of the people want to really go out on a date. And also i do not get many response's from anyone either though. I am wondering if maybe there is something wrong with my profile
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| 4/28/2008 7:37:29 PM | Are you women actually here to date? I mean go out on date | |
whosyour51
Plymouth, IN
age: 57
| not had any luck myself. Hope they are.
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| 4/28/2008 7:55:40 PM | Are you women actually here to date? I mean go out on date | |
umemkswe
San Antonio, TX
age: 57
| Gee, I was wondering the same about the men on some sites. I understand if your not in the area and won't be traveling there anytime soon. But, I've had guy less than five miles from me that want to chat or email back and forth forever. I've figured out that it usually means, they're married or they've lied big time about something, and know that if they meet face to face the lie will be revealed. I've found that if they don't give you a phone number that you can call anytime!!!!, there's something fishy in denmark. So hang in there, re-assure them that you'll meet in a public place and that your not going to be expecting more than they're willing to give. Hey if i lived nearby and was 20 years younger, I'd meet you. If that's worth anything. Have a nice evening.
P.J.
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| 4/28/2008 8:10:14 PM | Are you women actually here to date? I mean go out on date | |
hugsnlaughter
McKeesport, PA
age: 48 online now!
| I'm here to date but that only happens after I get to know the person a bit, first on here and then maybe a phone call before we meet. I don't mean waiitng for months but I don't expect to meet you after typing a few lines either. I have to admit though I am not one for long distance relationships and there are not many from my area and then soe are very confusing as they have no information on their profiles at all, no interests or anythhing and then they say they are seeking someone with same interests. Now how do we know if we have similar interests if you don't say what they are. LOL
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| 4/28/2008 8:26:18 PM | Are you women actually here to date? I mean go out on date | |
tigerbird
Chiloquin, OR
age: 32
| I agree. I live in the middle of nowhere so I have to drive at least 30 miles to find anybody. Also the few guys that are at all close say almost nothing about themselves. I want to date, but have never had a lot of luck. The last guy I dated that I met on another site, just stopped answering my calls one day. 
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| 4/28/2008 9:17:05 PM | Are you women actually here to date? I mean go out on date | |
easymoney87
Panama City, FL
age: 58
| Totally with ya all the way dude! Can't take game-playing garbage. I joke & have my fun sometimes 'cause I'm a fun-loving dude, but getting truck loads of BS tends to be a drag. Lotsa trucks out there lately!
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