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4/21/2008 7:20:42 PMWhat is your definition of "REAL"? 

serenity0515
Mesquite, TX
age: 34

My definition of "REAL" is being yourself. True to your heart. Being able to relate with others. Not changing the way you act around others. Not being flaky or fake. Now I want to know what your is. So many discussions talk about being "REAL". What do you feel "REAL" is?

4/21/2008 7:21:55 PMWhat is your definition of "REAL"? 

harley9482
Fort Wayne, IN
age: 25

daring to make mistakes even if it drops you off the "popular" list.

4/21/2008 7:24:27 PMWhat is your definition of "REAL"? 

thebrando
Rock Rapids, IA
age: 28

Exactly like you put it I think. Just being one's true self and not changing to impress people. Being proud of who you are is a big part too I think.

4/21/2008 7:32:10 PMWhat is your definition of "REAL"? 

fourbars
Alva, OK
age: 23

being yourself and not afraid of who you are...as well not hiding behind lies and deceit and trying to impress someone with something your not...

4/21/2008 8:40:28 PMWhat is your definition of "REAL"? 

geno74
Pittsburgh, PA
age: 33

" REAL" well to me real is following your heart, being loyal to yourself and those you love, respecting all who deserve it. Real can be different to many , my realness is me rather someone likes it or not , not changing ,but hopeing those can respect me enough not to change me but except me. .Thats real ,keeping it real for real.
Geno;

4/21/2008 9:21:55 PMWhat is your definition of "REAL"? 

gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45

To me this appears as easy as defining love. Which on DH is another matter entirely.

But real on an internet dating site would mean something far different to some than in "real" life.

Real here means - being sincere, honest, candid, truthful, lacking dishonesty, deceipt or antics. No head games. No falsehoods. No misrepresentations of what you know to be the truth.

Real also means real photos. Current. Accurate. Even date stamped so everyone sees you have nothing to hide.

Real also means holding to your own values, keeping your strength and self-confidence at all times in stating who you are and not backing down from it even when it causes you to be unpopular with people who don't know you or found lacking by the people who SHOULD know you.

Real can sometimes mean exposing the very most vulnerable and tender pieces of yourself in public, just so that someone can see who you really are at all times, and still having that person treat you badly.

Sometimes being real isn't all it's cracked up to be.
And then othertimes....it's all you can be.

So....Keep it real. If you dare to.
JMO



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4/21/2008 9:24:40 PMWhat is your definition of "REAL"? 

johnnyd66
Kennesaw, GA
age: 41

REAL to me is doing what is right and not what society thinks is right,following your heart not your head....I sleep well at night knowing I am real to myself and my family

4/21/2008 9:28:11 PMWhat is your definition of "REAL"? 

curious70000
Wyandotte, MI
age: 46

My definition of real is basically what you said, except for the part where you said not being flakey, of course you wouldn't be fake that fly's in the face of your key word real. Being real to me would be also the inclusion of being flakey, a big part of me is being goofy, and flakey at times, real don't mean one is serious 24/7 or if they are, then they would be very boring in my opinion. I like being goofy and flakey when in that mood, and that is very much a part of me. And is something i look for in others, if you can't show your flakey side (most people have one)to everyone, then you are not being real in my opinion.

4/21/2008 10:33:31 PMWhat is your definition of "REAL"? 

serenity0515
Mesquite, TX
age: 34

no it doesn't mean being serious all the time.... you can be a dork too!! LOL

4/21/2008 10:43:08 PMWhat is your definition of "REAL"? 

curious70000
Wyandotte, MI
age: 46

LOL,,,cool beans, cause i'm a flakey dork,,,, lol