| 4/21/2008 7:32:27 PM | who else is guilty | |
johndiehard
Fort Gibson, OK
age: 41
| I read the forums and this one says something about size this one says something about being real. The truth is that everyone has their own idea of the perfect mate and body and face are number one with about 90% of the people on this site they can put all the bs in their profile they want it all comes down to how you look. I'm guilty of it because I would love to have a fit dark haired woman, but in my profile it doesn't state that because why would i want to seem so shallow. I would love to be different to except someone with what's on the inside, but with the way things are it's almost impossible.
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| 4/21/2008 7:33:41 PM | who else is guilty | |
nashoba_miko
Oklahoma City, OK
age: 39
| Not for me.....one person on here I fell in love with his personality, by then looks didnt matter, but distance did to him.
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| 4/21/2008 7:37:46 PM | who else is guilty | |
tlc4u46
Santa Barbara, CA
age: 47
| I'm guilty gotta admit, attraction is first, if you find he's got a shitty personality he's out. There has to be an initial attraction in order to even get to the personality part. I know, I know I sound shallow. I don't need perfect, but perfect in MY eyes and no one elses. So my idea of perfect will always be different than some one elses. That's what makes us unique.
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| 4/21/2008 7:40:53 PM | who else is guilty | |
johndiehard
Fort Gibson, OK
age: 41
|  when I was younger I was always thin and fit, but as I got older I have put on the weight I try to stay in shape by going to the gym, to be honest it burns my ass hairs when I try to get with someone on here and I don't fit what they are looking for. It hard to stay positive and have a good attitude when someone doesn't want to be with you when your overweight.
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| 4/21/2008 7:41:32 PM | who else is guilty | |
tlc4u46
Santa Barbara, CA
age: 47
| try running. Great weight loss routine!
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| 4/21/2008 7:48:29 PM | who else is guilty | |
ladyvirtue52
Redding, CA
age: 52
| Yes, we all have our preferences and thats what we look for. When we state our preferences we are considered to be shallow. Ive been guilty of the same thing. However, we cannot always control who we fall in love with. I married a man that, in the beginning I was not interested in nor attracted to in the least bit. He was very thin, skinny in fact. I like a man with meat on his bones, a natural body, no body builders. In fact Ive never been attracted to thin men. But he had a good sense of humor and he was a gentleman so I fell for his personality and once in love, his skinny body never bothered me. I never thought I could be with a man that was so thin, and I was proved wrong. So even though we may have certain preferences in what we want in a mate, we can fall in love with someone who doesnt fit that mold. Just let it happen..
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| 4/21/2008 7:48:35 PM | who else is guilty | |
johndiehard
Fort Gibson, OK
age: 41
| I go to the gym 5x a week the only place now that isn't hard as a rock is my stomach and running is hard on the knees. Thanks for the advice. To be honest I like the way I look I don't look fat I look like I lift weights and besides if the ladies want those skinney guys who look like movie stars then so be it. I have had plenty of woman in my 40 years and if I am going to be without atleast I have my son and that is all I will need. Unconditional love is in the eyes of your children.
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| 4/21/2008 7:57:05 PM | who else is guilty | |
tlc4u46
Santa Barbara, CA
age: 47
| Lady I agree, I had a 12 year relationship with an Asian man and I thought I would never date him. But fell in love with his personality. But I worked with him and saw him everyday. But, initially looks come first depending on the situation. Bars, stores, on line dating.
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| 4/21/2008 8:05:28 PM | who else is guilty | |
cherry007
Marblehead, MA
age: 44
| im super picky. but latly as i get older , i find his age is a big deal to me. i want a man thats 7 or so years older, mainly because i think a younger guy would not think im pretty enough to keep. when im with someone older i feel more beautifull .and in all honesty , im looking to feel as comfortable as i can , and that makes me comfortable. plus i want a man that done fooling around and trying to prove himself on the dance floor
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| 4/21/2008 8:08:08 PM | who else is guilty | |
tlc4u46
Santa Barbara, CA
age: 47
| regardless of age, if he makes you feel beautiful, that is priceless. Love someone who makes me feel beautiful, wanted (in and out of bed) and sexy. Like I am the most important person in his life, and the world. What do they say? PRICELESS!
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| 4/21/2008 8:11:46 PM | who else is guilty | |
nightsleeper
Taylor, TX
age: 53
| i understand that everyone wants to make that one good impression,so like you say size drama and what you look like comes into play,but we still cannot come to a overall pic as to who we really want until we have talk to that person in person then let that help you form a opinion.
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| 4/21/2008 8:14:33 PM | who else is guilty | |
dare2bloved
Kaufman, TX
age: 38
| Yes but our children grow up and they find their loves and live thier own life. I felt that way, my girls will love me thats all I need. Now one is 20y.o. living her life. I have a 17 y.o. who is finding no time for me...lol And I'm alone and feeling it..lol
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| 4/21/2008 8:16:35 PM | who else is guilty | |
dare2bloved
Kaufman, TX
age: 38
| John Unconditional love goes out the window when they become teens...then you alone again...lol
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| 4/21/2008 8:23:03 PM | who else is guilty | |
nicksterdemus
Little Rock, AR
age: 50
| I'm guilty, of love in the first degree... 
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| 4/21/2008 8:26:52 PM | who else is guilty | |
thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
| I'm not guilty of anything.
I'm not guilty of wanting someone who looks attractive because there isn't anything wrong with that. She doesn't have to be a perfect dime but looks are important. It's normal. And like tlc said above, if the personality sucks, then they are out the door.
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