What have you learned?

4/22/2008 1:05:28 AM	What have you learned?
merleisme Flat Rock, MI age: 24	I was thinking about the various things that I've gathered through my experiences with dating and the like so I figured I start the topic so please share what you learned from them. This is what I've learned. I must confess I've been anxious for a long time for a woman to be in my life and sometimes it has lead me to make decisions that I would normally never make in the right state of mind. Through the process of dating and doing things the wrong way I've learned that, that type of love cannot have any empty promises and the three words "I love you" mean incredibly more then just throwing it around. I've also learned you'll never be able to change a person and you must be humble enough to accept the differences you might have. I've learned that women are fragile and they've been messed with and lied to entirely too much. I've learned that you must be patient and cultivate something that could last a lifetime because thats what we're looking for right? I've learned that you must use judgement and face reality and not paint an unbelieveable picture in the beginning like you're the perfect person because if you do that you set yourself to be exactly that. I've learned you must be who you truly are without holding anything back and be honest with yourself and your mate. I've learned first and foremost that you must have a good knowledge of what God has outlined explicitly about love and relationships and how they all mesh together perfectly. We should know our roles in gender differences so when we have a relationship there is no confusion at all. This isn't a woman totally being a subserviant house slave but there must be a mutual commitment to a relationship through humility and service one to another, supporting each other allowing nothing to get in the way.
4/22/2008 1:10:46 AM	What have you learned?
muffycakes Chanhassen, MN age: 26	I have learned through dating that desperation can force a person to make bad decisions in picking a mate...When you are lonely, any warm body will do. I have learned that this shouldn't be the case...hold out, be patient, keep your head up and you will find a keeper.
4/22/2008 5:28:45 PM	What have you learned?
oliverbrancher Calgary, AB age: 46	good question merle. good answers merle. i like your honesty and willingness to be open about it. please be accomodating for changes in perception though because there will be a relationship or relationships which will modify your learning experiences..which is what will accomodate your own learning curve. but it is good that you have a platform to relate by. a woman likes that. they like a man with a plan. especially the aries ladies and taurus...and capricorn...heck..most of em do i guess. except the aquarius or gemini if they respond to spontaneity. try cancer merle. should hit it right off if you keep talking like that. as for me. i have learned that no persons are exactly alike even if they are same types. that is why it is possible that a person can be both methodical and impulsive. and communicative and introspective. i have learned never judge a book by its cover. never. but the cover is meaningfull. lots of meaning. i have learned that women are afraid....and confident. i have learned that she is a deep pool of contradictions. i have learned that the most able women in love is mature and non-judgemental. or immature and non-judgemental. i have learned that the non-judgemental woman is a loving person. i have learned that she is happy with herself and will also keep to herself to avoid the messes of judgement which create confusion in the periphery of her experience. i have learned that she has managed to evade me because we are similar. i have learned that i don't swim well either...but i love deep pools. so ... to drown is an o.k. adventure as long as the pool i drown in spits me back up...once in a while.