| 4/22/2008 7:53:58 AM | How do you feel about long distance relationships? | |
serenity0515
Mesquite, TX
age: 34
| I was in a long distance relationship for for 2 years. My boyfriend at the time had to move for work. Anyways we broke up a couple of months ago. I wish we would of broke up alot sooner as I think back on it all. I never cheated or anything on him. We got along great but the distance tore us apart. We started to distance from each other with our relationship. He was my best friend to start and now we hardly talk. I honestly wished I would of been free to date in my area. So I learned lessons from it but Do Not wish to be in one again like that. The reason why I'm asking is because alot of people on here try to hook up being so far away. Have you really thought about what a long distance relationship is? It is far from easy. So please tell me your thoughts on "Long Distance Relationships"...... 
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| 4/22/2008 7:57:24 AM | How do you feel about long distance relationships? | |
missyroo375
Suffern, NY
age: 21
| I have mixed feelings about it...some say they can't work some say they can,and then theres all the factors in between... I give up
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| 4/22/2008 7:59:49 AM | How do you feel about long distance relationships? | |
blueyedbobbie
Poultney, VT
age: 37
| not really sure how to feel about it; but look at the people in the military. most of the time they are far away from their loved one and like every other relationship sometimes it can survive and sometimes it falls apart. guess it depends on how much you really do both care for eachother.
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| 4/22/2008 8:06:11 AM | How do you feel about long distance relationships? | |
honestinlov4u
Abington, PA
age: 60
| My brother married a lady from GA and they did have a LTR for a year or more. He did however go down there a lot, as his job allowed it and he had weekends...I personally shot down there on a Friday after work and came bac k Sunday...We (his mother-in-law and I) were back in time for dinner on Sunday!!
Back to topic:
If he did it we can do it...It takes honesty, NO cheating and a lot of love But can you do it, yes if you love each other, see each other a few times a month and really want a relationship. I am here knowing, and willing, to realize I will have to fly somewheres for my mate. I can do that, if it doesn't work, I will have to fly again...
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| 4/22/2008 8:08:10 AM | How do you feel about long distance relationships? | |
ladyinparis
Paris, TX
age: 41
| I just would not permit myself to get involved with someone who lived so far that we could not see each other on a regular basis. I would not want to invest hours upon hours online chatting and then meet them the day they move to my state either. I just think, why would you want to even put yourself through that, so just don't get yourself in that position. I have two teenage daughters who are in high school. I will pick up and move them before they graduate for sure. And too, I like my job. I have a lot of time invested in it, and as anyone knows, it takes a period of time to build your income level, and your status in a new company. So what if the man wanted to move to be near me? Well, can he make it on his own? Is he getting his own place? I wouldn't want him to come and move directly in with me...until we had gotten to be around each other long enough to know if what we had online is the same in person. I would doubt that it would be.
Unless a man was independently wealthy, or retired, I can't imagine him wanting to give up his status and move either.
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| 4/22/2008 8:32:18 AM | How do you feel about long distance relationships? | |
goodforfun51
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 53
| Personally, i think that its all a matter of having sufficient, communication, desire, and determination to get over what most care not to deal with. "The need for immediate gratification" Americans have that need and unfortunately it does LDRs a great hardship to get through.
SO, If both parties to the relationship have that Desire, the Determination, and Continual Communication, the relationship can and WILL work out. JMHO
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| 4/22/2008 8:32:47 AM | How do you feel about long distance relationships? | |
honestinlov4u
Abington, PA
age: 60
| Dear lady,
I am retired, but I have two very young children, as you prob know. Would I move - YES! If I could (courts). BUT, would I move to stay with someone...Hell NO! I agree with you - we do not know what the other person is rEALLY like til we live together or spend some time in face to face...so bottom line
1) move - yes if possible
2) possible - yes as I posted B4
3) though not asked - Would you - in a hearbeat if she were the person I felt I wanted to live with forever...Would I screw mtyself and want to live with her...NO!!!!!!
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| 4/22/2008 8:47:46 AM | How do you feel about long distance relationships? | |
ladyinparis
Paris, TX
age: 41
| goodfortun--I do not think it is a matter of instant gratification. I just don't think we need to make things any more difficult on ourselves than we have to. I mean, you can't tell me that your preference for a relationship would be to communicate via email for an extremely long period of time---and then give up everything(friends, job, etc.) to pack up and move a long distance away without even knowing if the relationship will even be the same once you are both geographically compatible.
I mean, if you knew someone was an alcoholic or a drug addict, would you say yes to a date with them in the hopes that they would give it all up for you?
Besides, if wanting to be held in the arms of the person you love is what you are calling instant gratification...well, then yes, you are correct. I want that.
And honestinlove, I understand where you are coming from too. I would just hate for anyone to put themselves in a position where they have so much stacked against them in the beginning.
You cannot look into someones eyes and sense their emotions or feelings, or read their body language via email. I am not saying it is impossible, but geesh, with all that I have been through, why even begin something that starts out with everything against you.
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| 4/22/2008 8:51:09 AM | How do you feel about long distance relationships? | |
luvwild
Brooklyn, NY
age: 42
| I don't think it is a great idea. Unfortunately, it seems almost everyone on this site is a long distance from where I am.
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| 4/22/2008 9:52:29 AM | How do you feel about long distance relationships? | |
njman
Jersey City, NJ
age: 49
| its very hard,a nd lets face it, we all need some one close,some one to socialise with, have fun with, do things with, share life with , have sex, flirt, even fight with, i had along distance relationship and its hard ,how do you know whether she is sleaping with the man next door,or not ?? tooooooooo much headache, if u can stay away.
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| 4/22/2008 10:09:40 AM | How do you feel about long distance relationships? | |
100proof
Dayton, OH
age: 36
| Life is short if you can't believe you can't achieve. Love and destiny has no restrictions. What would life be without chance pleasure and pain. 
Mark your calendar for when I touch down!
Tell me you don't usally but baby its somethin you do 2 me.  
I think your lookin for a local dating site 
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| 4/22/2008 10:19:04 AM | How do you feel about long distance relationships? | |
thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34 online now!
| although rare for long term success, there is always a chance if the two people are on the same wavelengths in making it work.
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| 4/22/2008 10:20:12 AM | How do you feel about long distance relationships? | |
evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
| I'd rather eat a glass of razor blades and 12 bran muffins than spend my time texting to some chick who lives hours away.
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| 4/22/2008 10:22:29 AM | How do you feel about long distance relationships? | |
defiantlyltr
Stroudsburg, PA
age: 56
| More difficult than another relationship possible!
Too much of the other person is based on fantasy, since you're not able to really
be with them more often and relate on day-to-day basis.
BUT I wouldn't want to eat glass or razor blades ..... a little too harsh don't you think?!? hehehehe
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| 4/22/2008 10:24:09 AM | How do you feel about long distance relationships? | |
shylywilling
Medford, OR
age: 47
| Confused! Why? I just can't put my finger on it. Chuckle.
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