| 4/22/2008 1:52:16 PM | So what is a "Perfect Date" to a woman these days? | |
dkveracity
Waipahu, HI
age: 39
| Just a typical curios question that men wonder about. See the biggest thing about going out is not if she will say yes or no to the date but making a complete "A" of himself once he is on one. So ladies, If you would be so kind, a few tips would be very helpfull.
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| 4/23/2008 10:37:23 PM | So what is a "Perfect Date" to a woman these days? | |
seraphimxx1
Honolulu, HI
age: 41
| The dating tips ~
Try to be;
1) On time
2) Considerate
3) Chivalrous
4) Humorous
5) Patient
6) Diverse
7) Non-alcoholic
8) Non-narcotic
9) Respectful
AND NOT IN THAT PARTICULAR ORDER. 
Leave your past relationship/’s behind & just have fun. (Makes it for a better conversation).
No expectations.
No limitations.
No judgmental attitude. (PPL tend do carry this unknowingly).
You both mutually agree and just go with it.
I'm no expert in dating but my suggestions are something's I'd prefer.
Good luck!
 Seraphim ~
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| 4/23/2008 11:59:16 PM | So what is a "Perfect Date" to a woman these days? | |
1mauibabe1
Lahaina, HI
age: 52
| Sara good list..
for first date...
Add to that; going somewhere fun and active...
Dancing, a short hike, somewhere open fresh air, Fun...
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| 4/27/2008 1:39:04 PM | So what is a "Perfect Date" to a woman these days? | |
dkveracity
Waipahu, HI
age: 39
| Thank you Sera and Mauibabe,
Those are some good tips and look foward to trying it out. Sera, what is "PPL?"
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| 4/27/2008 7:14:24 PM | So what is a "Perfect Date" to a woman these days? | |
seraphimxx1
Honolulu, HI
age: 41
| 
PPL = People
I apologize dkveracity ~ but it’s an on-line lingo/abbreviation.
Did you take a chance/that big step in dating this weekend? If so… I hope all went well.
Note: I did receive your Email/message.
~ You gotta stop being a shadow. Photo’s are a plus my friend.
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| 5/16/2008 12:21:00 PM | So what is a "Perfect Date" to a woman these days? | |
dkveracity
Waipahu, HI
age: 39
| Well who would have guessed it, the spooky shadowman, the shallow water Shamu, actually got to meet someone from the DH. I was totally stoked. The best part is she did not find me hideous at all but said that I had "teddy bear eyes." (aawwhh! )
Although this was just to be a meet and greet kinda thing, it turned into some great conversation and then into a memorable lunch. She was playful, witty and down right funny at times. Not trying to jinx it, but I look forward to seeing my new friend again.
To all ladies who gave me such wonderful advice in getting this rusty old Tinman's heart to tick again, Mucho Mahalos! The guys and girls here have allot of Aloha to share, the hard part is having the courage to take that chance, that first step. It is said that a stranger is probably a friend you just haven't meet yet. Take heart and take that step folks.
much, D
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| 5/16/2008 9:30:14 PM | So what is a "Perfect Date" to a woman these days? | |
1mauibabe1
Lahaina, HI
age: 52
| Great to hear it... 
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| 5/16/2008 9:35:35 PM | So what is a "Perfect Date" to a woman these days? | |
seraphimxx1
Honolulu, HI
age: 41
| Great job! Hope to see you on the DH “success stories”. A lot of support here.
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| 5/17/2008 6:39:20 AM | So what is a "Perfect Date" to a woman these days? | |
alohagoldie
Kaneohe, HI
age: 48
| Hey DK,
You have an entire cheerleading squad here on DH rooting you on! It's great for us all to hear about someone having a good experience from this.
Has anyone else here on DH had any successful meetings from here? Or, if they were a "crash and burn" why was that? (respectfully shared, of course!)
Aloha,
Goldie
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| 5/17/2008 6:38:02 PM | So what is a "Perfect Date" to a woman these days? | |
dkveracity
Waipahu, HI
age: 39
| From the bottom of my heart, Thank you guys for the support and encouragement. This DH stuff can be nerve racking, yet relaxing, a bummer crash at times and yet a good learning experience. It is what you take, or gain from it that makes us all better people. But it is also better when you give of yourself, share anything unselfishly with kindness and goodness, and it will come back to you.(ok now I'm starting to sound like a Hallmark card  )
Oh well, thats what I think or believe, and I hope it doesn't make me seem too gullible.
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| 5/17/2008 11:40:30 PM | So what is a "Perfect Date" to a woman these days? | |
1mauibabe1
Lahaina, HI
age: 52
| No you do not seem to gullible. Just honest and open that is refreshing
Crash and Burn Hmmmm well ya not on this site but a different one and he has followed me here but only 1 contact from him Thank Goodness
DK you do have a cheering section here sooo keep us informed. Hope all goes well.
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| 6/6/2008 1:26:31 PM | So what is a "Perfect Date" to a woman these days? | |
dkveracity
Waipahu, HI
age: 39
| There you see her, sitting there across the way, she don't got allot to say, but there's something about her. And you don't know why but you're dying to try, you wanna kiss the girl..."smootch"....SMACK! ...Oh, er I thought, Uh yeah ok, yes I understand, not without your permission, yea, got it. Ok then, good bye... drive safely....call me.....yea as if?! If you come on too strong, you are considered like desperate,(Perv)and if you come on too soft or casual,(aloof)they will loose interest in you. Or even a worst fate could happen. You could be put in the "just Friends" category.(Yikes)
If there is a "Hitch" like guy out there in DH world, please contact me because I desperately need your help. I have guy friends who treat girls kind of like crap, and they have no trouble getting dates. How you figgah? I always thought if you are gonna build something that'll last, You take the time to do it right. Build a foundation based on friendship, and work your way up. But in this world, for a lot of us, time is money. Put up or shut up. But if you go too fast...you just might miss or mistake something that could have been...
So sorry for this "love fools rant", but somehow I feel better getting this off my chest. I am so not perfect, not by a long shot. Nor am I smart in relationships.(or else I'd be in one) But Mr./Ms. Hitch, any tips for the average nice guy? Seriously. oh, and does anyone know first aid for "foot in mouth" and a case of "broken pride"?
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| 6/6/2008 9:30:19 PM | So what is a "Perfect Date" to a woman these days? | |
seraphimxx1
Honolulu, HI
age: 41
| Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.
"Try not to become a man of success but a man of value".
Albert Einstein
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| 6/30/2008 12:47:32 PM | So what is a "Perfect Date" to a woman these days? | |
1mauibabe1
Lahaina, HI
age: 52
| dk that desperate or aloof goes both ways..... it is really hard to say widh way to go. Some say they want to build frieds first but when a more agresssive (and younger) woman comes along they seem to really want that HOT STUFF. But being the slightly more aggressive one has bit me in the arsse too.... Hmmmmmmm. If anyone can figure it out let me know before you write the book and make a millon
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| 6/30/2008 7:46:50 PM | So what is a "Perfect Date" to a woman these days? | |
mysteryknown
Pearl City, HI
age: 46
| Hey Maui Babe!
We've all been bit, stuck our foot in mouth, and stumbled... I've found for the best start to anything - is to consider the source! Fact - if you are online here... if the profile says you're looking for more than just friends... GUESS WHAT??? That's what they're looking for! As a woman, a man had best know how to treat a lady. Yes guys, that means open doors, pull out her chair, ask her what she likes, and for goodness sake - if you are at all interested - DO compliment her sincerely on something about her! Do you like her hair? Her eyes? Her hands? Keep it PG Don't go telling her what a hot booty she has! Ask questions.... find out about her! And for God's sake - LISTEN to her answers! If she's got much to her, she'll start finding out about you. Be honest, open up, and share! Don't second guess your answers or tell her what you think she wants to hear. Be yourself. After all, if it's going to go anywhere - you want her to like you for you!
Okay there seems to be alot of questions these days from my guy friends... yes, the guy should pay for the coffee, drink, smoothie or whatever when you meet. And yes, if you go out to brunch, lunch, dinner - guys step up and take care of the tab. If things develope later on - and she's worth it - you'll be paid in all kinds of ways. (Okay - get your minds outta da gutta!) And guys, don't expect that dinner and a movie buys you a ticket to 2nd, or 3rd base or any kind of home run.
Be genuinely interested in getting to know who she is on the inside. If you do this, everything will be as it should. And if you are meant to be friends - or more - it will happen. No snap judgements. No assumptions. Ask. Listen. So much for this shadow's two cents.
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