| 4/22/2008 10:13:56 PM | Is a relationsship just a big game??? | | 
sboarder278
Ripon, CA
age: 30
| Can people have a relationship without any games, or is the relationship just one big game? Are we ever totally real with anyone... even ourselves? Are we so afraid of rejection that we ration out the crazy, and in turn never get to really become ourselves? Now I know there are a few people that have completely opened up to their partner and found out that the other person was just as messed up. And in doing so have found a happiness that most people only see in the movies. But there is a majority out there that have unlocked the cage and got hit with the tazer. But isn't part of wanting to be accepted being able to accept someone else? So why can't we? Now I'm sure some of you are thinking of this as sexual openness, thats part of it but not all. Expressing your self sexually does make you very worried about how the other person is going to react when they find out what you like. But usually things regarding sex seem to work themselves out. Most people have a more conservative outlook on their sexual limits than they really do. In the moment almost anything goes if approached right. Also more and more things that would have shocked you years ago, are now things you want to try (thank you internet).But to finish outside of the bedroom. Let your partner know you the way you want them to know you, who knows maybe they feel the same way. Talking really does work, try it. I will say it is harder to be honest with ourself than it is to be honest with someone else. Anyway what are your thoughts??????
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| 4/23/2008 11:14:09 AM | Is a relationsship just a big game??? | |
smilelaugh
Fremont, NE
age: 38
| In response to this question:
Can people have a relationship without any games, or is the relationship just one big game?
It’s definitely possible when the people you are dealing with are mature enough. Insecurity is one of the biggest reasons why people start to play head games and try to test each other and all that silliness.
If you genuinely want to get to know somebody, you need to be honest and open about who you are and what you want. That’s the only way you get what you want out of it. But people often time are afraid of finding out what they don’t want to know about the other person or they don’t feel comfortable with themselves. That’s when the head games begins.
[Edited 4/23/2008 11:18:27 AM]
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| 4/23/2008 11:32:42 AM | Is a relationsship just a big game??? | |
feedthesheep
Pocatello, ID
age: 38
| yes you can but it tacks horde work it is not ezey its please reed 1co 13 in the bible and thats my answer to that
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| 4/23/2008 3:22:45 PM | Is a relationsship just a big game??? | |
oncebitten83
Bankston, AL
age: 34
| IMO, most often times realtionships start out as a big game and why not...it's fun to play and to do things that otherwise you wouldn't normally do. Especially on the internet and online dating. You can be yourself...now, I realize that there are a lot of folks who take this to the extreme and make themselves out to be someone that they are not. It's tricky trying to figure out who's real and who's just playing. I think you have to let your "gut instinct" take over and also use your head. Read people's profiles and their posts and discussions, you can tell alot about a person by the way they respond to questions and topics. Now as far as up close and in person...the same rules apply, although it is easier to cut through the BS and see what a person's intentions are. I know that for me in the past...yeah, I feared rejection and would "Play the Game" but really how far does that get you when you're not projectig your true self? I can tell you that from my experience...alot of nothing. Just my two cents....
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| 8/21/2008 7:16:40 PM | Is a relationsship just a big game??? | |
raych
Modesto, CA
age: 31
| You sound like a philosopher, maybe just a deep thinker, but whatever the case you don't get too much of that nowadays. Kinda refreshing. I hate games too. Why can't people just be straight up. I don't mean rude and blunt, but true to themselves and to their partners from the beginning. Maybe if people were true from the beginning there wouldn't be so many wasted relationships that were built off false pretenses. The whole dating scene seems ridiculous because you really don't know somebody until you have been with them for awhile, and then by then it seems as though you have wasted your time. Meeting people through friends and family seems to work the best because at least somebody already knows that person and they can't be hiding everything right? All that I know is if I ever get married again, it will be with a person that I know is right from the beginning.
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| 8/21/2008 7:51:04 PM | Is a relationsship just a big game??? | |
pennell23101
Vine Grove, KY
age: 32
| relationships aint meant to be a game once you grow up and realize what you want. they should be fun, exciting, experimental but not games. if you are true to yourself and your partner they can become a great thing. problem is that alot of people think they have to seem better than they are to get the one they want and chances are the one they want wants them for who they really are.
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