| 4/23/2008 1:44:31 PM | why do guys discriminate against big women?? | | muffycakes
Chanhassen, MN
age: 26
| im a curvacious babe evil....and yeh lonesome i do mean bratwurst 
| | 4/23/2008 1:46:33 PM | why do guys discriminate against big women?? | | lonesomeloser
Louisville, KY
age: 50
| I bow to the prophets...Nick and Sir Mix Alot....
| | 4/23/2008 1:56:52 PM | why do guys discriminate against big women?? | | doowopden
Philadelphia, PA
age: 49
| As I said on another thread, reading some of these posts, you get a good Idea why some of these people are alone.it's very sad.
| | 4/23/2008 3:07:56 PM | why do guys discriminate against big women?? | | bethlett
Spokane, WA
age: 89
| I'm a big woman.
My mailbox is full.
If I were just a bit less discerning, my other box would be full as well.
Many of the box fillers that apply are in their 20's....
Guys do NOT discriminate against big women.
Only the guys on this FORUM discriminate against big women. The rest of the men are out banging big women!
Good lord, DEAL WITH SOME REALITY AND LOGIC HERE!!!!!
Signed,
The Reality Queen
 
| | 4/23/2008 3:22:13 PM | why do guys discriminate against big women?? | | 
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 47
| Guys do NOT discriminate against big women.
Only the guys on this FORUM discriminate against big women.
I suppose that none of the the men who don't not email you discriminate on the basis of body fat percentage, then?
That's a pretty big assumption to make.
| | 4/23/2008 3:25:59 PM | why do guys discriminate against big women?? | | bethlett
Spokane, WA
age: 89
| And I suppose that assuming that the ONLY reason a male would not email me would be due to fat would be an equally ..................ridiculous .......assumption for someone ELSE to make.
Those who have a specific affinity of hatred for fat (largely due to hating themselves for their own inadequacies) seem to be the most vocal.
| | 4/23/2008 3:30:18 PM | why do guys discriminate against big women?? | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 47
| Knowledge of statistics is weak with this one.
You assert that ONLY men here discriminate on the basis of weight. You make the assertion, so you prove it, please.
You can't, because you don't KNOW what those who don't contact you think.
| | 4/23/2008 3:48:41 PM | why do guys discriminate against big women?? | | sweetbabeblues
Hannibal, MO
age: 53
| beth...ignore the one above me...he tends to go from forum to forum debating everything women says, pretending to know everything when in fact most of it is all BS.......
Another day...another thread...graced by the old school way....
You'd think he would have learned some manners by now......
| | 4/23/2008 3:58:45 PM | why do guys discriminate against big women?? | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 47
| I answered the OP's question, honestly, and from a personal perspective. I am simply not attracted to obese women, in a manner similar to that which causes some women to be not attracted to short men, or those with worn teeth.
When I see patently incorrect logic, as is the case here, I call the poster on it.
It is correct that some men here demonstrate their dislike for obese women, quod erat demonstrandum.
It is incorrect, however to presume that in no other medium do they also do this.
Further, if it appears that a disproprtionate number of men do so by their responses in a thread that asks why they do this, it is because the question pre-selects such men to respond! A man who likes obese women certainly can not speak as to why another does not. He can only speculate.
This is simple high school logic and statistics.
[Edited 4/23/2008 4:03:40 PM]
| | 4/23/2008 4:06:52 PM | why do guys discriminate against big women?? | | 
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Alpharetta, GA
age: 34 online now!
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every week the same ole thread again.
it's preference. everyone has a preference... it's not discrimination. everyone has preference, just like some women prefer men who are only 6 feet tall or taller amongst other physical qualities. IT'S PREFERENCE...
this thread will not change the way a person views you in the future. only you can change that with increasing your self esteem and or do something physically if it bothers you that much to make a post about it. you don't know what your preference would be if you were a guy because you are not a guy
be happy with yourself and be yourself.
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| | 4/23/2008 4:17:52 PM | why do guys discriminate against big women?? | | nwiowa
Cherokee, IA
age: 53
| There was a new RN at work a couple of years ago. I immediately was attrated to her despite she was even heavier than I was. Or she appeared to be. She had a very beautiful face, and her personality was to die for. But she didn't want anything to do with me. She wasn't dating anyone. No one at all. I talked to her Mom who is also an RN where I work. I told her Mom I wanted to hang out with her daughter, but that the daughter was adamant about not socializing with any coworkers.
Her Mom didn't understand her daughter's motives. And her Mom didn't seem the least miffed by the fact that I was 52 and her daughter was 35. But the daughter was, once she found out the age difference. Most people think I'm in my late 30's, as I have kind of a baby face. And look much younger than I really am.
But to me age is just a number, at least when it comes to conscenting adults.
She had the stomach stapling surgery about a yr ago, and has lost a lot of weight, and has had some further cosmetic surgery to tighten up her flabby tummy. But I would have gladly taken her when she was at her heaviest. And I pointed that out to her, but it didn't make any difference to her.
Anyway I tried and tried to win over this girl's heart but never could. I gave up pursueing her 9 months ago. Recently she met a guy and she was walking on ice around me trying to figure out how to tell me, about him. Everyone was whispering about him, so I already knew she was dating. It didn't bother me, because I gave up on her 9 months ago. I told her I liked her, but ultimately I just wanted her to be happy. And told her it was time for her to get out there and live her life!
So bottom line is that even fat people can reject other fat people.
No one is perfect. You're attracted to who you are attracted to, and hopefully that attraction is based on something more profound than just how beautiful that person is.
Because beauty will fade with time, and then what are you left with?
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| | 4/23/2008 4:35:48 PM | why do guys discriminate against big women?? | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 47
| it's preference. everyone has a preference... it's not discrimination
Well, technically it IS discrimination: discrimination among a set of potential life partners, or dates, or what have you.
But, those being discriminated against have no right to that which they are being denied, i.e. your affection.
They certainly have a right to want to be loved, but not by any specific individual that they might fancy.
In my case, I am short, and not "big, musclular, or beefy," though relatively fit. I would not pair well with a large woman as a romantic partner, no matter how much I would like her as a friend. I don't think I am particularly shallow, or picky: 10 or 20 pounds is not going to make or break a relationship for me. 50 or 100? Probably. She'd want intimacy at some point, and it just wouldn't work for me. Now, if she limps, but is mobile, or has scarring from surgery, or is a little shorter than I'm used to, or a bit overfat but getting fit (a gym partner!), that's fine.
Shallow is rejecting someone over a minor imperfection, or deviation from a "look" that someone likes. But major departures do not make for romantic mojo.
| | 4/23/2008 4:44:57 PM | why do guys discriminate against big women?? | | 
zeanah
Clarion, PA
age: 49
| This is an over talked about thread, but one that will probably never go away.I am an over weight woman and at 48 yrs old, it doesn't bother me as it did in my 30's, after having 3 children and saw how much it changed me. As for men who prefer thin women, that is their right and that is not a problem for me. I also have preferences in men. I do not consider myself shallow for having certain physical and character preferences. I cannot force myself to be attracted to someone that simply turns me off.
Preferences comes in a variety of ways to all men and women. To short or to tall, to hairy, to many missing or bad teeth, to loud and cocky, negative attitude, to whiny, to entitled, rude, a know it all, to fat, to skinny, to poor, to lazy and the list goes on and on.Obviously we all have preferences or we would be with the first person who dated us or wanted us.
There are those that voice strong opinions, especially about fatter women. Rude remarks are different than "having an opinion".Making fun of the issue, hurting and bashing a person, is a sign of immaturity, insecurity and a cruel heart. That is why the "fat threads" continue. There will always be the superficial men and women who will never understand true attraction and the whole picture of love from the heart. I do agree, there is some men and women who care about what others may say. That is a personal issue and is probably more accurate for men than women.
It is a simple , but very true statement....beauty is in the eye of the beholder". One should not assume all people feel as you do about body fat. I have dated all sizes of men and men have dated me without hesitation, in spite of my weight. I feel that I exude confidense and self acceptance. Being sexy is a state of mind, the way you carry yourself and speak and is not truly measured about weight to most people. I don't care how handsome and buff some man may be...if he is an uncaring loud mouth jerk, he is simply ugly to me. I have dated very good looking men who I did not date again, because the SPARK was just not there. I don't know why either all the time. You just know! Some of the most beautiful hot women are dead in bed, so that certainly isn't sexy!
So...I like me most of the time and if I be myself and can handle rejection (which I have!), then eventually someone will see my worth enough to find me attractive inside and out. It is just the risk we take in finding a dating partner. I would be stupid to think every man would find me attractive, especially when I do not see every man who approaches me attractive. It goes both ways!
Happy searching, be nice, have a big heart and not a big mouth... 
| | 4/23/2008 6:12:49 PM | why do guys discriminate against big women?? | | onelife2live
Janesville, WI
age: 44
| why is everything discimination or racism?....I like a certain type of body and personality....that doesn't mean I don't like all types of people but certain types are my type...as far as the physical appearance...I work hard to stay in shape and respect that in a woman...and vise versa I'm sure...jmo
| | 4/23/2008 6:12:57 PM | why do guys discriminate against big women?? | | mitchell1221
Chattanooga, TN
age: 45
| thor, I see you have stirred up a hornets nest here.
although it is a large one, it can be tamed yet.
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