| 4/23/2008 5:32:31 AM | Dating on DH and posting a REAL photo | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| Curious this morning about the nature of intent within DH...
My photos - all very real. They are me. 100% through and through.
But....many folks have photos posted and they - aren't them. They may be photos of who they WANT to be, or how they'd like to look but everything else?
Hooey.
I was suspended from DH last week for less than 24 hours (which was no big deal) but I was suspended for flagging someone I believed was a fake.
I wrote Dustin and inquired - "How does THAT nonsense make sense?"
We have the ability to "flag" someone we suspect is a scam or a fake so that we can assist the moderators in finding these folks, right?
But when we do that we get suspended for our suspicions?
Does that make sense to any body?
Also - what about these people on DH who may be a "REAL" person behind a very fake photo? On a Dating Site - what role do those people have in the "game"?
Just curious what you all think?
Be well!
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| 4/23/2008 5:35:27 AM | Dating on DH and posting a REAL photo | |
flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
| GSB I think if we all have to do it, then so should they. At least they have the option of being a shadow. Couldn't do that at school now could you?
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| 4/23/2008 5:42:58 AM | Dating on DH and posting a REAL photo | |
ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41 online now!
| But when we do that we get suspended for our suspicions?
Well I would imagine that the site owner and any moderator do not screen or have the ability to verify that mug shots are legitimate. So they don't bother but I think they do approve pictures at some level. But I do imagine that if you do decide to flag a user as a potential scam then you should have some type of evidence other than just a suspicion.
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| 4/23/2008 5:48:56 AM | Dating on DH and posting a REAL photo | |
osoroho
Mesquite, TX
age: 57
| If one was suspended each time they call someone a fake certain people would not be here... Like the self professed Troll hunters get a life people.... Willy
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| 4/23/2008 5:52:43 AM | Dating on DH and posting a REAL photo | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 60
|  g/f!! I agree, GSB. I also dislike ghost pictures. Part of hooking up is chemistry, including physical attraction, so how can you judge if you will be attracted when there is a ghost picture? Makes no sense to me. If one is on a dating site and wants to find a date, then I think a picture should be mandatory.
There was a person posting on this forum a couple of days ago who obviously had a fake picture. Although I did not flag the profile, a couple of us commented on the thread that this person had a fake picture.
Like you, all my pictures are real. The recent ones I had to photo shop out the ex, but I am real.
Susan
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| 4/23/2008 8:08:04 AM | Dating on DH and posting a REAL photo | |
cherokeerose07
Pottsboro, TX
age: 48
| I agree babe!! i hate fake pictures and I believe that everyone should post a picture, tastfully done!! and i see nothing wrong with calling them out, if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck,, well its not a gerbil!! hahaha
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| 4/23/2008 8:44:52 AM | Dating on DH and posting a REAL photo | |
bry11ca
Buellton, CA
age: 43
| The real me
fear not . . . .
Sorry son.
Gotta love GSB 
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| 4/23/2008 1:20:28 PM | Dating on DH and posting a REAL photo | |
eightinchbend
Gadsden, AL
age: 43
| The temporary suspension of your account may be related to programming purposes. Perhaps they isolated you from the general population in order to run a diagnostic on every hit made to your account. Logistically, that is the most practical method to see if anything that touched your profile was fake, or potentially viral in any manner.
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| 4/23/2008 1:42:38 PM | Dating on DH and posting a REAL photo | |
bethlett
Spokane, WA
age: 88
| Wow bry, you are pretty good looking. Doable. And obviously fertile. I'm thinking you are a double bagger, at the very least. Fertile women need to give you a wide bearth. LOL.
As for pictures - I don't hold much credence in anyone's photos...I've had too many people use old ones. Never met anyone stupid enough to use a fake one - but...As for myself, I have a web cam, and really like to use it for a "pre meet". Cuts down on wasted meetings with people who look at your picture and see Brittany Spears.
I have MANY times found men making "female" profiles, so that they can get away with posting smack that is mysoginistic. There is one right now on POF called Emerald Tears or some such....and claims to be a 25 year old hottie. If you read the guy's history, you can clearly see he is a 40 or 50 year old very very bitter man who chose wrong and has been taken for a ride by his ex gf/wife. (Who probably can't get a date with a 25 year old hottie).
Amazing what you can get away with on a forum board based upon the age on your profile, the level of good looks in the picture...and the sex.
I think I'll make one up for POF that is a 25 year old hot guy, and go hit on the guy being the 25 year old hot chick.
(god I need a life)
ROFLMAO
 
[Edited 4/23/2008 1:43:39 PM]
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| 4/23/2008 1:51:22 PM | Dating on DH and posting a REAL photo | |
fryyyy
North Kingstown, RI
age: 49
| Picture makes someone no more or less real. someday mabye a dna test will.. or a brain scan.. but for now this is beyond our ability. Pictures can be fake.. they certainly can trigger infatuation, pictures can be old.. pictures can lie. pictures can distract you from more important qualitys someone might have.
Skip by my posts.. don't read my profile.. i don't have a picture.. and if a picture is that important to you.. your exactly who i am filtering out .. by not having one. it's a win win situation .. you never have to look beyond a lack of picture to judge me.. and i don't ever have to judge you cus you did that for me (thank you). I do appreciate not haveing to invest my time energy and thoughts on someone who would toss me or anyone else on the garbage heap cus they dont know what i look like. perfect!
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| 4/23/2008 1:51:45 PM | Dating on DH and posting a REAL photo | |
wino631
Huntington, NY
age: 53
| These people are only hurting themselves. I don't see the need or desire to post fake pictures. I do have other pictures in my profile, but they have relevence to me.
Where ever you go, you're going to run into fakes. Hopefully you'llknow them for what they are sooner, than latter.
GSB, another nice pic!
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| 4/23/2008 1:56:22 PM | Dating on DH and posting a REAL photo | |
bethlett
Spokane, WA
age: 88
| pictures can distract you from more important qualitys someone might have.
You can have all the important qualities in the world....but for most women (unless one of those qualities is a hell of a lot of money)....if you end up looking like Donald Trump with a combover, its not going to work.
And only with the BASEST of women with the SHALLOWEST of values will the "lot of money" trump the combover.
I'd still tell Donald Trump to stick it where the sun doesn't shine. (where is the "vomit" icon when you need one....)
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| 4/23/2008 2:12:16 PM | Dating on DH and posting a REAL photo | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| I've turned down MANY multi-millionaires offers to take "care" of me and my sons. The last man - said and I will quote - "Who in their right mind would turn down all this AND me?"
LOL!
It was sooooooooooooooo easy!
It isn't about looks people - it's about honesty.
Deceit of any kind shows the ability to be deceitful in another area.
JMO
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| 4/23/2008 2:42:50 PM | Dating on DH and posting a REAL photo | |
sitkarains
Sitka, AK
age: 48
| OH Gone I so agree with you on all the fakes out here. But what I love are the Men I am clarifying out here that is only Some MEN... I hear from them all the time since I keep my professional name private that I must be a fake..
But yet these same men will drool over a fake profile of some Australian Award winning actress.. Like she will be on a dating site.. Get real
Or the ones that state they make in excess of 1,000.000. Like yeah right they are going to be on a Free dating site.
I am really curious about these people that Don't Flag the profile but scream about them in the forums.. I sit back and wonder are they for real..
I mean if you have no intentions of meeting then fine be the fake you want to be But my vote is don't waste my time.
Good thread Gone. as usual
Also love the pictures...
You want to come up here and be my photographer please...
Edit...
Since I get accused sometimes of being a fake and there is only one person that I know of on this site that can actually say.. They have checked me out to the point that there is no doubt I am who I say I am...
[Edited 4/23/2008 3:00:55 PM]
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| 4/23/2008 4:49:14 PM | Dating on DH and posting a REAL photo | |
oliverbrancher
Calgary, AB
age: 46
| well here is my take folx.
you are right. given that there is real lack of public information regarding privacy and public information rights beside your own socially conditioned awareness of the nature of dangers due to the lack of legal professional public guidances regarding the issue...
anyone posting a real pic is either a.) aware and with their own sense of security (and therefore armed to the teeth with legal and/or para/military support. or b.) unaware and vulnerable to the various dangers of being as honest as they are willing/capable.
given that. the professional communities of law and related professional offices which surely secretly and/or publicly have a lot of responsibility to both remain secret but to keep us safe.
they are one mixed up group of turkeys.
it is sad. no doubt about that.
not that i am much to look at. but i am going to do my darndest to remain living as i make expression to show just how openness with some degree of honesty is ever hopefull and agreeable to others which also waste their time in here pretending or really seeking companionship or community service.
i hate being different all of the time.
when are you folx going to catch up to me..?
don't expect confidence from me in you. but you may expect confidence from me to you.
otherwise...don't expect anything at all. for i too grow weary of posers detracting/deflecting information sharing from societies unfortunate and unknowing from persons with sincere interest in service.
and on some bright day perhaps the posers will realize just how they have contributed to social malaise for to protect the images they fear to show / or not.
i just can't believe i as a good servant have the double failing of knowing and not knowing. yet...trying.
i must believe though in my practice to expression that some ice melt between the imaged and real.
in the valley and in the hills ...
i remain your good (variously applied) servant.
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