| 4/23/2008 3:13:12 PM | do women really like musicans | |
brokenheart20
Picayune, MS
age: 21
| My x really liked that I played guitar. But she didn't like that I play with it more than I did before. Now I aint one to start a fight over something that annoys me. Instead I just pick up my guitar and play. I also know that when two people spend day in and day out together, u tend to get tired of one another. She hated me playing in concerts and began to hate it even more when I played at home. Is it a love hate thing or what? What's the deal?
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| 4/23/2008 3:14:30 PM | do women really like musicans | |
worhtlesswisdom
Dade City, FL
age: 41
| I sing, play the piano, guitar, and write poetry. Hasn't gotten me any p*ssy. Wonder how Mick Jagger gets it?
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| 4/23/2008 3:25:44 PM | do women really like musicans | |
muffycakes
Chanhassen, MN
age: 26
| perhaps she felt replaced if you became overly absorbed into your playing...Everyone has a passion and they shouldn't have to give it up ever but if it begins to take over your life then yes I think that you may have relationship problems...you will need to strike some kind of a balance between your guitar playing and your partner and make clear to him/her how much you wish to play every week so there wont be issues in the future. Its okay to set some boundaries in a relationship...you just say how much personal time you need with your guitar and your significant other should respect that.
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| 4/23/2008 3:52:33 PM | do women really like musicans | |
pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 50
| My son plays the guitar 24/7 (it seems). You could be doing many worse things than playing the guitar. Maybe she should have considered that???????
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| 4/23/2008 3:53:30 PM | do women really like musicans | |
rabeye
Easley, SC
age: 54
| I've been playing my guitars since I was 14 years old. Some women it did'nt bother them, some did'nt like it at all. One told me that I love my guitar more than her,one told it was her or the guitar. Well those types of women are insecure, so it would'nt matter if I played or not, they would find something else. My advice is play your guitar and if She does'nt like it that's her problem.
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| 4/23/2008 6:46:38 PM | do women really like musicans | |
michael6967275
Columbia, MO
age: 47
| I am a drummer and singer and recently began to play Bass.
My first wife (God rest her soul- car wreak) Was happy to call me a "has been" and get me away from performing live so that I wouldn't be playing out and attracting attention of any ladies who do find themselves drawn to music men.
I think that most partners would enjoy a hobby of their other until it threatens them.
I think in your case, she was easily threatened and felt you might get tempted in the bar scene deal with women who had been drinking and liked what they saw.
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| 4/23/2008 6:49:28 PM | do women really like musicans | |
southbuster
Haughton, LA
age: 31
| I say pick tha hell outta it and screw her........I cant play a lick of anything I wished I had ANY musical talent I do have certian hobbies that I've carried my whole life and they're my passion so anybody with me would have to accept that
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| 4/23/2008 6:50:28 PM | do women really like musicans | |
southbuster
Haughton, LA
age: 31
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| 4/23/2008 6:51:08 PM | do women really like musicans | |
snowbird1961
Los Lunas, NM
age: 47
| Nothing wrong with playing guitar or any instrument. I play guitar, but there is a time to play and a time to talk. maybe she felt left out?
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| 4/23/2008 7:01:09 PM | do women really like musicans | |
magtag
East York, ON
age: 41 online now!
| When your music becomes more important than your s/o, your children and everything in your world...your partner will no longer be part of you. The choice remains your own.
Music is an absolutely wonderful thing, but when it is MORE important to you than ANYTHING else in your world...expect that your love will come from your music...not your woman or your children. That is reality. Been there, lived it, would never go back.
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| 4/23/2008 7:43:22 PM | do women really like musicans | |
luvwild
Brooklyn, NY
age: 42
| I've been playing for a long time. But I do know it is different when you play in concert or even at a club.
I know if I chose to be with a musician, I have to understand at the very beginning that music is his passion. I would be supportive and show up whenever and wherever my partner would be playing.
It can be difficult to not get jealous of the music. But if you can't understand your partners passion for music, then don't ever get involved with a musician.
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| 4/23/2008 7:59:31 PM | do women really like musicans | |
magtag
East York, ON
age: 41 online now!
| luvwild...let me share some reality with you....
musicians are NEVER at home, they do not contribute to the spouse, the child, the finances, the housework, the yardwork, the family, the friends, the ANYTHING!!! Music is it...PERIOD!
My ex did not show up for his parent's birthdays, his sister's or his OWN SON's! He had gigs on Christmas, my birthday, our son's birthday, HELL OUR SON's BIRTH DATE!!! The day I came home from the hospital...he left for a gig.
I was sick with stomach flu and strep throat with an 8 month old at home....he left me there, no car, no support, with a wee babe, couldn't move, couldn't stop vomiting, almost dead...but the gig must go on.
Understanding that music is important is a crock! I understood, I am a singer and played bass myself, but I CHOSE MY PRIORITIES...my child and my husband...most musicians...choose themselves. Sugar coating is all pretty and such...reality is FAR different. As I said, been there, done that, NEVER again!
Having said that, a man who enjoys playing as a hobby...GREAT!!! Music is wonderful, but as a living...not with a TWENTY FOOT POLE!!
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| 4/23/2008 8:02:03 PM | do women really like musicans | |
flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
| My ex and I had several arguments over his "music". He used to spend more and more time with it and didn't spend as much time with the kids. Yes it caused alot of arguments and for that reason I would rather date someone that isn't so obssesed with it.
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| 4/23/2008 8:03:10 PM | do women really like musicans | |
southbuster
Haughton, LA
age: 31
| So what if all the "greats" felt that way about music? Would we HAVE music? If Music is somethin you wanna DO...just like professional sports....you have to LIVE it. Or you can choose not to live it.......just dont plan on makin a livin doin it
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| 4/23/2008 8:08:32 PM | do women really like musicans | |
wandaful
Petty Harbour, NL
age: 43
| Yep... I like musicians... well, mostly... sometimes... ( I keep one in my basement )
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