| 4/23/2008 5:56:16 PM | Am I obligated to care? | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| I have posted on my profile my own "preferences" about men and their age and their ethnicity.
I have also said "no winks".
Lately (Sunday and today) I have received nasty emails from men who find my preferences to NOT be interested in them, offensive personally, and they apparently felt they had the right to come into my "life" via email and make their opinions of me and my choices known.
Is this done to somehow convince me that they would make me the ideal suitor?
Is it done in some effort to let me really "know" my place?
What is it with these individuals who think they have the right to come into my place and tell me where to get stuffed
simply because I don't find them appealling and don't wish to be "friends" with them?
Am I obligated somehow to participate in some farce of a relationship with them? Whether I wish to or not?
Love to hear everyone's opinions on this topic.....
[Edited 4/23/2008 7:19:09 PM]
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| 4/23/2008 6:00:01 PM | Am I obligated to care? | |
hotpockets
Maple Shade, NJ
age: 53
| umm.. I wouldn't date them.
Hatemail isn't that what it is called? these people feel they are better than that for some reason...NEXT --->>>>    
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| 4/23/2008 6:00:11 PM | Am I obligated to care? | |
peaseblossom
North Las Vegas, NV
age: 42
| No, just send them an email and recommend more fiber in their diet.
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| 4/23/2008 6:00:37 PM | Am I obligated to care? | |
flsweetie
Dunedin, FL
age: 43
| I think you are doing it right Gone. You are stating what you prefer and if they don't like it they should just keep going and not send hate!
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| 4/23/2008 6:08:56 PM | Am I obligated to care? | |
trustme086again
Radcliff, KY
age: 37
| Hey Gone....Take it with a grsin of salt. When you wake up tomorrow, those annoying little people will not affect any day of your life unless you let them. Some feel they have the right to personally contact others and tell them they are wrong.
All you have to ask them is this, "Out of 15 billion sperm your were the fastest and the best? Damn, I would hate to see how the other 14,999,999 would have turned out."
Sorry but hate stupid.....and those who complained to you....fall in that catagory.
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| 4/23/2008 6:09:28 PM | Am I obligated to care? | |
iwantyoutoo
Lubbock, TX
age: 41
| I personally believe, you reap what you sew!
So my question to you is,
"What kind of seeds
have you been planting?"
I dont place anything negative
in my profile or in the forums, hence
I personally recieve nothing but positive responce...
JMO
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| 4/23/2008 6:28:49 PM | Am I obligated to care? | |
oliverbrancher
Calgary, AB
age: 46
| i don't know...am i obligated to care...?
and besides...obviously you are going to attract some out of curiosity to have filled in the questions which cause them to respond at all.
think of it this way. if someone responds...you are loved.
what you do with that is your business...
i care...it is not obligatory.
have a nice day.
oh one more thing.
it is all fantasy darling. all of it. aspersions ... creations for the purpose to show an expression from some shadowed existence you have some courage and fear providing.
whew....some peoples kids.
[Edited 4/23/2008 6:32:56 PM]
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| 4/23/2008 6:33:12 PM | Am I obligated to care? | |
southbuster
Haughton, LA
age: 31
| If you state that your into Australian Men that are 6'4 between 210-225 with white teeth and a full head of hair thats your personal business and not anyone elses.........but remember what if my profile were to say "no fat chicks" thats just how people are.......you have a right to your privacy and space but people will always buffalo thier way in like they belong there!!
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| 4/23/2008 6:37:38 PM | Am I obligated to care? | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| Thanks all - I mean to me I equate it to, sitting here in my living room, and I have my tv on to what I want to watch, and somebody walking past on the sidewalk stops to tell me what their opinion is of me, and what I'm choosing....
huh?
How is that right?
Blows my mind!
Some people really have huge nerve and ego's apparently?
And additionally, I don't post anything negative on the threads nor do I invite people to communicate with me that I have no interest in.
What sort of bogus intelligence create within someone the idea that they have the freedom to choose for ME what I want or what I don't want based on HIS ideas?
Wow - who moved the "doh" icon?
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| 4/23/2008 6:43:31 PM | Am I obligated to care? | |
justlooking630
West New York, NJ
age: 48
| JMO what is wrong with stating what you want nothing! I've had emails sent to me about how they don't like my dog in my pictures too bad , or that I refuse to date smokers...It's your life I wouldn't give even this much time to them...
GBS do what makes you feel comfortable and post you preferences too dam bad they don't like it ... I'm so tired of other people not letting other people live  and good luck and the hell with the rest of them ....again JMO!
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| 4/23/2008 6:44:14 PM | Am I obligated to care? | |
tedric
Anchor Point, AK
age: 67
| Gone ~
Some guys just can't handle Class and they know it. When they come across someone like you, they realize there's no chance in hell that you might notice them; so they go into "attack" mode (trying to convince themselves that you're not worthy of them), which they think is the only way you'll notice them at all.
Remember Third Grade..?
[Edited 4/23/2008 8:36:57 PM]
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| 4/23/2008 6:48:27 PM | Am I obligated to care? | |
bella2020
Lebanon, OH
age: 47
| Gonesailing Its your profile,You can write and say what you please,Like your pic
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| 4/23/2008 6:49:35 PM | Am I obligated to care? | |
oliverbrancher
Calgary, AB
age: 46
| that is not a fair equation gonesailingbabe.
if you reread your profile you sound to be much more loving and inviting than what you come out as here.
moody cancer huh...?
don't bite me...i never poked you with a stick.
love out
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| 4/23/2008 6:56:15 PM | Am I obligated to care? | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| Ahhhhhh well now there IS a good point! Thanks for making it, and I can easily accept that criticism as valid.
I am welcoming and caring and very loving - TO MY FRIENDS - but don't I have the right to choose who my friends are?
I don't think it says - I'll be loving to any Tom, D*ck or Harry does it?
This thread refers to men I have never spoken to before
who come into my "home" (i.e. e-mail) and bash or kick me - with their words
SIMPLY because they aren't someone I choose...through preferences or through saying "no thank you" to their expression of interest in me.
So no offense taken and My daddy says "never poke a snake"
You didn't poke me. I can take pokes ok. Outright throat slashings or knives into my back I find offensive.
Perhaps I'll alter my profile to be less me and more hostile b*tch?
Hmmmmmmmmm.....where's the fine line between being real and being unfriendly?
Again - is this an etiquette question?
A matter of public opinion to be commented upon?
And no, it's not concerning me - I"m just tossing a topic for debate out and seeing waht other's think.
I'm still not going to DATE these men and if they keep being creepy - I'll block them. NO skin off my behind.
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| 4/23/2008 7:04:46 PM | Am I obligated to care? | |
knittinkitten
Lady Lake, FL
age: 72
| Gonesailing, you sound like you're very upset about this....At MY age, I've learned that it's not worth getting upset about. Take a deep breath, relax, and think of it as making the chore of picking and choosing much easier, because, instead of YOU having to take the time to weed them out...THEY weed themselves out.
Put whatever you wish in your profile, post whatever you feel on these threads....yup, you'll take a little flack now and then...but...remember, all that flack is assisting you with choosing whom you wish to have nothing to do with. (And, if ya don't answer them back, they go away sooner....when will people ever learn that?
And, if it'll make ya feel any better, it's the same on all of the sites....it will never change, because some people never change. But, as time goes by, without actually "accepting" it, you'll learn to live with whatever ya can't change. And, don't you dare let anyone run you off of here because of it...just turn the other cheek.
Fondly,
Knittin Kitten
The Old Lady
(And, ya know what...when ya get older, ya DO get WISER!)
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