| 4/23/2008 8:31:02 PM | He's too good to be true | | flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
| There are lots of good men on here..........examples are: dutch, onelife, redneck (full of integrity), noredneck (full of humour), and the list goes on. They are all different and will not suit everyone but you did ask and I'm answering the question. Not all of them are jerks.
| | 4/23/2008 8:31:28 PM | He's too good to be true | | 
littlebumblebee
Hamilton, OH
age: 48
| Yep i know what ya mean. They wont be stand up guys and say what they feel or want the just ditch ya dont get it?I have had it happen to me before its lousy. Guys you can do better.
| | 4/23/2008 8:36:47 PM | He's too good to be true | | 
curious70000
Wyandotte, MI
age: 46
| Lady in Paris,,, the OP specified these men " ON LINE" that's why, just staying on topic
| | 4/23/2008 8:54:44 PM | He's too good to be true | | 
brownibeauty32
Collegeville, PA
age: 32
| Thanks ladies and gentleman for your input. I'm sure there r nice guys in here, but for some reason I always go for the ones that r no good. What am I doing wrong. Am I just guilable. 
| | 4/23/2008 9:13:04 PM | He's too good to be true | | flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
| "I always go for the ones that are no good". Well then I think you've answered your own question. Good luck.
| | 4/23/2008 10:07:51 PM | He's too good to be true | | 
freesodaanchips
Freehold, NJ
age: 31
| Can we get a break?
It's not every mans fault in the world that some dont know how to treat a woman
there are some good ones out there who are genuine in there feelings even though it sounds(too good to be true) the fact is sometimes it is true.
| | 4/24/2008 2:07:35 AM | He's too good to be true | | 1goodmann
Minneapolis, MN
age: 43
| Let me say this first...you are a beauty queen!! You are what you think. There are good men out there women just don't know how to look. What ever happened to flirting? Women today don't know how to flirt to save their lives. A gentle smile, or a look as you pass by, if you do these things you will find more good men. Oh yeah..don't forget to keep it up while uou are in the relationship. People usually change once they get into a relationship. Don't let that happen to you.
| | 4/24/2008 9:12:09 AM | He's too good to be true | | sillyme1961
Portage, MI
age: 47
| I recently read this and thought it to be TRUE OH, SO TRUE!
What happened to all the nice guys?
The answer is simple: you did.
See, if you think back really hard, you might vaguely remember a platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He'd tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn't feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the other guy that you were screwing treated you.
At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you denied having any romantic feelings for him, and told everyone that you were "just friends." Besides, he absolutely was not your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.
Eventually, your platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you weren't dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"
Well, once again, you did.
You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive platonic friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open, or make dinners just because, or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset, or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an a**hole than he ever wanted to be.
The fact is, now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, and only if they are lucky.
So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:
1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass.
3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab a hold of it.
I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.
If you were five years younger.
So please, either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've really screwed up. You're getting older, after all. It's time to excise the bull**** and deal with reality. You didn't want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't want you, at least not now.
| | 4/24/2008 10:36:04 AM | He's too good to be true | |
brownibeauty32
Collegeville, PA
age: 32
| Sillyme - your profile name really fits u. U must be speaking from experience, u must of been that platonic friend that so desperately wanted to get with the girl and she wouldn't give u the time or the day. u sound very bitter and hateful. Don't lase out at me b/c u were scorned. I am a very loving and caring person and I give everybody a chance, and b/c of that I always get bite in the ass.
| | 4/24/2008 4:58:00 PM | He's too good to be true | | sillyme1961
Portage, MI
age: 47
| Quote:
"u must of been that platonic friend that so desperately wanted to get with the girl and she wouldn't give u the time or the day. u sound very bitter and hateful. Don't lase out at me b/c u were scorned"
Well exactly the opposite I married that one (24 years)....But as the years flew by we grew apart! Now, that I have made my way back into the dating pool I see it all to often......
Speak as to what you know....NOT what you think!
OUT!
| | 4/24/2008 5:04:20 PM | He's too good to be true | | 
tink0482
West Palm Beach, FL
age: 26
| i know what u r saying i had the same situation told me everything i wanted to hear pretty much used me 4 everything i had then i found out i was just his rebound girl and he got back with his g/f a**hole it's hurtful i think about just turning gay to but i could never do that i like guys too much lol well good luck im beginning to dislike these dating sites
| | 4/24/2008 7:22:13 PM | He's too good to be true | |
brownibeauty32
Collegeville, PA
age: 32
| Exactly sillyme your scorned, bitter and hateful.
OUT that!
| | 4/24/2008 7:41:38 PM | He's too good to be true | | uh_huh
West Palm Beach, FL
age: 35
| Devils advocate here..
Maybe he was/is that good, and maybe it had nothing to do with looks at all....
Two sides to every story....
| | 4/24/2008 7:46:12 PM | He's too good to be true | | baydreamin
Lancaster, PA
age: 48
| sillyme, I actually liked that post. And, unfortunately, it is all too true sometimes. I had that platonic friend once upon a time too. (In fact, a couple of them.) I don't think I was a total jerk to him, but I did take his affection and attention for granted and I've often wished I could have returned his affection instead of rejecting it. He truly did care for me. We just never seemed to be on the same page at the same time.
| | 4/24/2008 7:46:45 PM | He's too good to be true | | mowry
Ashland, PA
age: 39
| hang in there brown us good guys are out there if you are honest you will find what you are looking for
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