| 4/23/2008 9:37:03 PM | Guys when your done dating us give us a reason why please | |
daddyduck
Splendora, TX
age: 54 online now!
| I honestly can't tell you, I've never had the occassion to do it, sometimes we go out as friends and not as prospects for anything more, but I had no knowing where I stand good bad or indefferent. When you find out let me know
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| 4/24/2008 6:40:46 AM | Guys when your done dating us give us a reason why please | |
osoroho
Mesquite, TX
age: 58
| Those days are not gone you just have to find the rite man and i do mean man.. Ladies do you remember the female lib movement this is to blame for a lot of our behavior most women wanted things equal but when that happened they had no idea what would be the lasting effect of it.... Willy
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| 4/24/2008 6:41:09 AM | Guys when your done dating us give us a reason why please | |
evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35 online now!
| Careful what you wish for ladies.
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| 4/24/2008 6:49:03 AM | Guys when your done dating us give us a reason why please | |
tnharleygirl
Whitwell, TN
age: 37
| Ok.. They always scream honesty so I'll toss it out there!!!! Guys arent the only ones that just go away.. Chicks do too.. When its weird.. uncomfortable.. odd.. or it just pisses me off in general.. I sometimes disappear too... Im not a coward.. I just seriously dislike conflict!!!! Ill assume... Guys do too???? Besides what do you say?? Ummm i dont want to see you again.. you give me the creeps?? Sometimes? There just isnt a reason... Ladies.. when we quit comparing the opposite gender to us.. and realize we dont always get it right either? Things will be better!
Anyone that says they always answer every phone call.. return ones they missed.. even to people they dont want to talk to? Is certainly someone I dont understand LOL
Dont get mad... Its just my perspective... There are probably as many ladies here as men.. We obviously didnt do everything exactly right.. or we wouldnt be here!
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| 4/24/2008 6:50:45 AM | Guys when your done dating us give us a reason why please | |
lonesomeloser
Louisville, KY
age: 49
| I am here just to pester and be a menace....no ladies on here that peaks my interest...
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| 4/24/2008 6:52:59 AM | Guys when your done dating us give us a reason why please | |
tnharleygirl
Whitwell, TN
age: 37
| Your interests must be complex!! Dont try eharmony try chemistry.com LOL
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| 4/24/2008 6:53:46 AM | Guys when your done dating us give us a reason why please | |
evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35 online now!
| try loweredexpectations.com
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| 4/24/2008 6:54:39 AM | Guys when your done dating us give us a reason why please | |
tnharleygirl
Whitwell, TN
age: 37
| LOL Evileddy i was being as nice a i knew how! ^5
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| 4/24/2008 6:55:26 AM | Guys when your done dating us give us a reason why please | |
nicksterdemus
Little Rock, AR
age: 50
| You'll need to put up a non-transferable deposit @ the beginning of the courtship/relationship if ya want answers after the boat has sailed...
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| 4/24/2008 7:03:04 AM | Guys when your done dating us give us a reason why please | |
flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
| If you're talking about on here then what do you really expect. I mean they know that if you're not who they fancy they can come back on here and keep looking.
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| 4/24/2008 7:15:42 AM | Guys when your done dating us give us a reason why please | |
ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 42 online now!
| In my experience, if I break all communications with you, you either pissed me off, revealed something about you that is a deal breaker, shown a very ugly side and I feel ashamed to have even entertained the thought of dating you. Basically a very egregious act of hatred towards another person or a mental problem where I'm not qualified to deal with or something similar in degree would set this off in me.
In these instances I feel it would be better to just ride off into the sunset rather than to tear that person a new a**hole. Otherwise I am honest and compassionate and will communicate my feelings why I choose not to date you anymore.
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| 4/24/2008 7:34:51 AM | Guys when your done dating us give us a reason why please | |
irresistiblered
Aurora, CO
age: 43
| There is another thing we, both genders, are guilty of, which causes this dillema that you have.(By the way, I have heard that complain from guys, too)
I heard this peoblem named as:"Instant Relationships".
Seriously...
Here is how it goes:
- You meet someone(anywhere)
- Numbers are exchanged.
- He calls, she calls.
- First date: dinner...conversations (for hours, everything seems clicking)
- The Date: Her house or His house...Make out and Sex.(It doesn't matter if its 4th, 5th, 10th date)
Above is the summary of the dating history of most of us. Now here is what happens in our minds, and eventhough one gender might be at a certain age more guilty of one behavior and another gender be more guilty of another behavior in the other parts of their lives.
S/HE : I kinda like him/her I want to see if this has potentials.
S/HE : Wow...Perfect. I wonder where we should have our wedding.
This two thought process happens always at the same time that the other one thinks the other way.
Women are not the only one who have instant relationships. Men do too.
Then somewhere in there, between the first meeting and the moving on, the reasoning tells that the personalities are not a match, or they feel or hear that all the wedding plans, and living plans have been made without them even having decided whether they would like another date, and they run. (sometimes even the undecided mate can play "what if" game. That it still doesn't mean they agree with it, or have decided.)
Here are the exceptions:
-There is some mutual decision making and emotional investments. In that case, the relationship gets picked off the ground.
or
- There was some mutual decisions and emotional investments, but something happens(a fight for example) and they break apart. At that time, you will always know what went wrong.
I am generalzing, ofcourse. Without knowing every detail and everything that has happened, who knows...these are just my observations to a generic, but very popular situation.
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| 4/24/2008 7:44:28 AM | Guys when your done dating us give us a reason why please | |
sweetbabeblues
Hannibal, MO
age: 53
| It'd be nice to know if the other person at least called or wrote you an note letting you know why.
I had a guy that I met on line last year, came to see me, then didn't hear from him again for some time... Didn't answer my emails, or anything....
Ok..maybe he didn't like me....
Then a few months later he contacts me again, wanted to see, me, we went out,( I gave him a second chance, after he said he seen what he missed), and then again, no contact again.....
So do it once..shame on you...do it twice shame on me... Needless to say he didn't get a third chance when he contacted me around Christmas........
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| 4/24/2008 8:35:33 AM | Guys when your done dating us give us a reason why please | |
highwaynomad
Post Falls, ID
age: 55
| Hi...
I was always told that if you dated someone once or twice and then decided to end it,
you should at least call or e-mail them...However, if it has been +4 dates or more then it should be a face to face meeting...I do realize that there are alot of guys and gals out there that just disappear and never are heard of again, but then there are some that do the right thing...
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| 4/24/2008 8:53:01 AM | Guys when your done dating us give us a reason why please | |
southernbo62
Edmonton, AB
age: 46
| its funny to me ya see i was brought up meaning taught to repect your partenar
tha was on of my first lessons in manors ie dateing if you wish to move on just explane it in a nice calm voice 
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