| 4/24/2008 9:07:42 AM | i need some input. no verbal bashing please | |
xjustloveme21x
Clinton Township, MI
age: 21
| okay i need some input on something.
last year i began talking to this guy named carl on a different website. we started dating like the end of october/beginning of november. at that point we had been talking for a while and alot of feelings have developed. before we even met he paid for my cellphone that month!! i argued and argued with him about it, literately, and finally gave it because i was tired of arguing. a few days later we met up, and as corny as it may sound it was love at first sight. it was instant.
a bit of time later, mid december, he was forced to leave for an internship for school. if he didnt go then he would not get the credits he needed to graduate. so without telling anyone, he left. didnt tell me, or his friends or family. NO ONE. a few days later he sent a letter home saying where he was and why he left. after hearing about the letter from his stepfather i realized why he left. his mom, myself, and his two best friends, would have had a lot to say about it (others would too but i dont think as much as us). after talking to his stepfather and my now ex, i had realized that i couldnt be so selfish and that he had to do this for the sake of his own future.
hes home now, we are good friends, still close but not dating. he is now dating someone else, one of his female friends (obviously). a part of me wants to be with him. i love him, always will. yet, i know i gotta move on. does anyone have any input or any suggestions as to how i can move on?? 
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| 4/24/2008 9:12:29 AM | i need some input. no verbal bashing please | |
mitchell1221
Chattanooga, TN
age: 45
| check out this thread, same applies.
http://www.datehookup.com/Thread-87354.htm
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| 4/24/2008 9:53:12 AM | i need some input. no verbal bashing please | |
fryyyy
North Kingstown, RI
age: 49
| stay away from him.
I go with the kill em off in your heart theory, so you can mourn them and after a time.. move on with your life. They probably aren't the person you think they are. In fact they are probably just doggy doo.. in the path of life.. and what you need to do is wipe the crap off your shoes and move on.
This person you talk about.. who left you once.. would be dead to me. They would not exist in my life.
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| 4/24/2008 9:57:21 AM | i need some input. no verbal bashing please | |
evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
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| 4/24/2008 10:21:46 AM | i need some input. no verbal bashing please | |
xjustloveme21x
Clinton Township, MI
age: 21
| i know what kind of person he is. i couldnt hate him because that would only make me selfish. selfish because he had to do what he did for his future. he wasnt going to be back this soon. he was actually supposed to be there for two years. but he finished early so he came back. they offered him a job there but he didnt take it. yeah hes with someone now but thats his choice. ive accepted that. im not a bitter person and i dont hold grudges.
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| 4/24/2008 10:23:01 AM | i need some input. no verbal bashing please | |
evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
| Date someone else then.
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| 4/24/2008 10:30:14 AM | i need some input. no verbal bashing please | |
heyppl
Saint Louis, MO
age: 27
| Well I think you should move on. But that certain love is hard to replace. Nothing feels as good unless you are with that person. My ex went to Iraq the beginning of this month, I still love him and I am trying to move on but nothing feels as good as he made me feel. Just keep an open mind and if you; were meant to be together it will happen. Good Luck.
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| 4/24/2008 10:30:47 AM | i need some input. no verbal bashing please | |
jessie7856
Jupiter, FL
age: 35
| Good point move on and let him go plenty more fish in the sea
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| 4/24/2008 10:32:20 AM | i need some input. no verbal bashing please | |
nariah
Monessen, PA
age: 38
| You know its love when it hurts and you cant move on. Sometimes it takes a long time but eventually you get over it. If he lives close to you maybe you could try avoiding places you know you may see him at. Try dating again even if your heart tells you not too, you never know if it will help unless you try. You can also involve yourself in a worthy cause sometimes making a difference in someone else's life make you feel better.. Goodluck!
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| 4/24/2008 10:44:29 AM | i need some input. no verbal bashing please | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 46 online now!
| Try to stay busy. Find an activity that you like. You might meet someone!
But, don't actively look for someone else to date until you are over this fellow.
Who knows. He might break up with his current girlfriend, and after a while seek you out again. But, don't count on it.
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| 4/24/2008 4:19:27 PM | i need some input. no verbal bashing please | |
blushingiegiddy
Charlotte, NC
age: 42
| yes , as hard as it sounds move on. Honesty and communication is the key to a healthy realationship, no you should of not held him back from his schooling but he still should be able to communicate with you, where there is not communication there is no relationship
and look it in a positive way better you find out now than later, and more positive maybe he was not the right one for you look up maybe God has someone else better for you,
if you ever need to talk add me to your friends, Id be happy to share
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| 4/24/2008 10:09:25 PM | i need some input. no verbal bashing please | |
kgearly1021
Valdosta, GA
age: 48
| Will you listen to yourself here-
a bit of time later, mid december, he was forced to leave for an internship for school. if he didnt go then he would not get the credits he needed to graduate. so without telling anyone, he left. didnt tell me, or his friends or family. NO ONE. a few days later he sent a letter home saying where he was and why he left. after hearing about the letter from his stepfather i realized why he left. his mom, myself, and his two best friends, would have had a lot to say about it (others would too but i dont think as much as us). after talking to his stepfather and my now ex, i had realized that i couldnt be so selfish and that he had to do this for the sake of his own future.
THIS PERSON LEFT TOWN WITHOUT TELLING YOU. Then when he did decide to make his whereabouts known, he didn't even tell you, he wrote a letter home to his Mother, and you had to hear about it? If you are in a relationship with someone these are the types of things you discuss with each other. This relationship was over the minute he decided to leave.
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| 4/24/2008 10:26:44 PM | i need some input. no verbal bashing please | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| I agree with kgearly1021. The dude didn't even explain anything to anyone. Basically it was a one way street. Don't hang on to a past that has no future. Here's some advice that I read once:
Absence makes the heart grow fonder ... of somebody else 
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| 4/26/2008 8:09:52 PM | i need some input. no verbal bashing please | |
dezy24
Converse, TX
age: 24
| They also say if u love someone let them go and if true love it will come back to you stronger then before.
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| 4/26/2008 8:14:50 PM | i need some input. no verbal bashing please | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| They also say if u love someone let them go and if true love it will come back to you stronger then before.
I've heard this also ... altho they've never come back. That there should tell you something 
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