| 4/25/2008 12:29:45 AM | hmmmm trying to word it right | |
mosplace
Boulder City, NV
age: 46
| Okay when in a relationship is going to far to make someone run?
to kiss or not kiss If I kiss on first date will you run? same with sex? If I kiss on lips first date is it to soon? should it be second or third? kiss on cheek? If I sleep with you on first date do you think Im a wh*re? (stud for men) why cant we be honest and discuss these thingh beforehand?
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| 4/25/2008 3:15:01 AM | hmmmm trying to word it right | |
cece123
Madison Heights, MI
age: 48 online now!
| Yes the first date kiss..... well.. during my last date.... We were together for I don't know three, four hours and lot of talk... a few jokes... and I just kind of like leaned over and kissed him... He said... "I don't do that in public..." I said... "Well maybe you should." Kissed him again and said... "Someone gotta get the ball rolling."
Yeah... it's always nice for the guy to kiss you first... but some people are just to shy..." I say... do it and take it from there... It's only a kiss... it could be like kissing your dad, mother or brother... Or it could be that thunder kiss the best you ever hand in your life.... the one that could lead to other things.., if ya know what I mean.
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| 4/25/2008 3:43:04 AM | hmmmm trying to word it right | |
justjojo
Brattleboro, VT
age: 41
| Are you *trying* to make 'em run? *GRIN* J/k... Although now that I think about it, hmmm...
I can't recommend discussing beforehand the expectation of a kiss or sex after your first date, unless you are totally against it, because it might put too much pressure on the date, and if you say let's do it, he might be expecting dinner to end in bed, when you've changed your mind during the date.
Do what feels right during the date. If it feels right to kiss him, do it. If it doesn't feel right, comfortable, true to you, then don't. Same with sex. I'd say go ahead with the date and see what it brings you, but talk about "how shall we end the night," during the evening.
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| 4/25/2008 4:44:08 AM | hmmmm trying to word it right | |
classicsfan
Charlottetown, PE
age: 51
| There was a sci-fi movie from the 1980s "Cherry 2000" - not a great flick by any stretch. Anyway, in a throwaway scene, Laurence Fishburne, in an early role was a lawyer in a bar assisting a couple in negotiations over what was and was not going to happen after they left. Kiss - no kiss. Tongue - no tongue. invitation inside or not. Sex or not. Oral sex or not. The scene lasted no more than 2 minutes, but was the best part of the movie.
It would sure take the uncertainty out of that first contact.
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| 4/25/2008 5:22:33 AM | hmmmm trying to word it right | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| Just do it!
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| 4/25/2008 5:59:56 AM | hmmmm trying to word it right | |
cece123
Madison Heights, MI
age: 48 online now!
| Gonesailing.... great music video..... I've been caught up in the elevator.... frequently... with about 3 handsome men in the last two months. We exchange Hi's... a little chit chat... and have a nice day... much like the guy on this sight... I don't think of kissing them.... as much as... being asked out for coffee and a little bit of conversation. Yet like the end of the video... {the room was empty}... TIME is so fleeting... one may never have the chance again...
Been there... to afraid to make a move.... and in passage... they just seemed too fade away as quickly as they came... Yet..., if a person could just pause for a moment... get to know ya... and go on their way.. at least you would have a good memory... bad memory... something... even if it ends with a kiss.... or it just may be a new beginning...
Is that a stupid notion? The phrase... "stop and smell the roses... comes to mind...
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| 4/25/2008 7:20:08 AM | hmmmm trying to word it right | |
blueyedbobbie
Poultney, VT
age: 36
| Honestly i think if your going to discuss having a kiss or sex before the first date; kinda takes the fun out of being a first date. You are just starting out with that person. If a kiss or sex happens out of that date; more power to you.
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| 4/25/2008 7:26:28 AM | hmmmm trying to word it right | |
bethlett
Spokane, WA
age: 88
| I've read a lot of forums on this subject, and half the men say they like a forward female, half the men say they don't. Half the men will say that they won't hold it against you if you bang on the first date...half the men say you'll be fine for a POA, but they won't consider you for relationship material. I don't think there is any hard and fast rule, so all you can do is be yourself and just wait to find the person that your little peg fits into their hole.
Or your little hole fits their peg.
Or whatever.
I never attack the guy the first time. I also don't kiss or bang on first dates. I don't care how DYING I am for sex, I just can't do it. (Maybe if I were drunk, but I don't drink enough to get drunk either, so that gets rid of that scenerio, lol)...I have to know and like someone, and know that they know and like me enough back that after I have sex with them there will be a lot more times....someone has to be potential relationship material before I can feel comfortable sleeping with them.
AFTER the deed has been done, however....I attack on a regular basis thereafter. Poor guys.
"No, Beth, NO! PLEASE NO...not AGAIN NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO BACK BACK I SAY!"
Edit: Picture the red haired crazy chick in "Wedding Crashers"
[Edited 4/25/2008 7:30:28 AM]
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| 4/25/2008 7:35:03 AM | hmmmm trying to word it right | |
cece123
Madison Heights, MI
age: 48 online now!
| Yeah we are in the 21st century.... Bethlet.... your funny...
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| 4/25/2008 7:38:13 AM | hmmmm trying to word it right | |
curious70000
Wyandotte, MI
age: 46
| Let him take the lead if you're not sure, follow your instincts, if something another thing makes another run oh well,,he/she isn't your type anyway, why try to follow rules that you don't feel (fake) to have someone stay, that seems to me something starting under false pretenses? Be yourself
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