| 4/25/2008 8:07:48 AM | Is it infatuation or could it be Love at the first stage in meeting? | |
raregold59
Charlotte, NC
age: 49
| Does anyone believe it is possible to fall in love with someone on the first date?
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| 4/25/2008 8:12:04 AM | Is it infatuation or could it be Love at the first stage in meeting? | |
epiphany4me
Bullhead City, AZ
age: 47
| I believe that it is possible to fall in
love with the idea of being in love, really
quickly.
But real love does take some time to grow.
Infatuation I think can happen rather quickly.
JMO
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| 4/25/2008 8:45:01 AM | Is it infatuation or could it be Love at the first stage in meeting? | |
blueyedbobbie
Poultney, VT
age: 36
| I do believe that it could be love; as you know it is a very different feeling from infatuation. Not to say it always happens like that.
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| 4/25/2008 8:48:33 AM | Is it infatuation or could it be Love at the first stage in meeting? | |
flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
| I had a 21 year old on here recently who told me he adored me. We only emailed 5 times - he doesn't even know me.
Have had men tell me they love me on this site and yet I have never met them. Infatuation with a photo I would say.
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| 4/25/2008 8:48:55 AM | Is it infatuation or could it be Love at the first stage in meeting? | |
ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41 online now!
| To me, infatuation is a half-step to love. If you could skip a step and fall in love then more power to you. That stairway is headed in the same direction 
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| 4/25/2008 9:22:50 AM | Is it infatuation or could it be Love at the first stage in meeting? | |
classicsfan
Charlottetown, PE
age: 51
| I suppose it depends upon your definition of infatuation and love. personally, I think love needs time to grow.
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| 4/25/2008 10:29:10 AM | Is it infatuation or could it be Love at the first stage in meeting? | |
schriee
Seguin, TX
age: 30
| just go fishing!!!
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| 4/25/2008 10:38:25 AM | Is it infatuation or could it be Love at the first stage in meeting? | |
tedric
Anchor Point, AK
age: 67
| Okay, Schriee, that's twice in two different threads... You bring the bait.
Oh, never mind ~ you are the bait!
EDIT: Forgot to stay on topic ~ the answer is yes, if the date lasts a lifetime.
[Edited 4/25/2008 10:42:16 AM]
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| 4/25/2008 8:34:22 PM | Is it infatuation or could it be Love at the first stage in meeting? | |
raregold59
Charlotte, NC
age: 49
| In case anyone cares to know, here is some information I discovered:
Three Stages of Love
Lust or romantic love is the first stage of love. It's driven by testosterone and estrogen. Mating is the evolutionary purpose of this stage of love; it creates strong physical attraction and sets the stage for emotional attachment. In this stage of relationship, endorphins soak your brain and you're immersed in intense pleasurable sensations. Your lover is perfect, ideal, made for you. In this stage of love you feel exhilarated and even "high" (similar to the feeling you get after you eat really good chocolate or have a great workout). You feel infatuated in this stage of relationship.
Physical attraction and power struggles make up the second stage of love (the lovesick phase). You may lose your appetite, need less sleep, and daydream about your lover on the bus, during meetings, in the shower. In this stage of love, dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin are racing through your body and brain. You're also trying to shape your lover into your ideal partner – which is where the power struggles come in. In this stage of relationship, you're becoming more realistic, and you two may fight about things like whether or not to buy organic food or listen to country music. The infatuation is wearing off, a strong emotional attachment begins to set in, and feelings of infatuation fade.
Emotional attachment or unconditional acceptance is the third stage of love. It involves commitment, partnership, and even children (a fear of intimacy prevents many from reaching this stage of love). In this stage of relationship, you're aware of both positive and negative traits in your partner, and you've decided you want to build a life together. Confrontation is most likely to occur in this stage of love (though if you're authentic and honest, it'll also happen in the second stage of love). You and your partner will either work towards a healthy, loving relationship or decide to call it quits.
Staying in Love
Your partnership isn't just a vehicle that brings happiness and contentment to your life (or bitterness and pain). It's a living, dynamic creature that changes, grows, and needs attention -- and you must nurture it. In all three stages of love, your love reveals who you really are, in all your glory and weakness.
All stages of love can help you accept your strengths and weaknesses. All stages of relationships also reveal your partner's strengths and weaknesses.
7 tips for a strong healthy love life during all stages of love:
Focus on the things you can control: your attitude, your behavior, your words, and your energy. If you want something to change in any stage of relationship, make it your own traits or actions – not your partner's.
Learn healthy ways to express your disappointment, anger, or frustration. Be honest and authentic, and kind and loving in all stages of relationships.
Remember the first stage of love! Recall your feelings of lust, attraction, and desire for your partner. Think about the traits that you were attracted to, and let those old feelings come to life again.
Appreciate your partner's good qualities; be grateful for the life you share. Gratitude can enhance all stages of relationships.
Focus on emotional intimacy in all three stages of love. Be vulnerable to have a healthy love life.
Own your feelings. Your partner can't "make" you feel stupid or worthless. If you feel unfulfilled or sad about your life, look at your own dreams and goals. Are you pursuing the life you were meant to live? Are you following your heart? Develop your personality, mind, and spirit. Figure out what will make you happy in this stage of love, and start creating the life you were meant to live.
Consider counseling in any stage of love. If you've lost that loving feeling, it could be an individual thing that you need to deal with or a couples' issue that you should tackle together. An objective point of view, from a therapist, pastor, or friend you trust, is incredibly helpful in all stages of relationships.
For more INFO:
http://psychology.suite101.com/article.cfm/love_love_me_do
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| 4/25/2008 8:37:03 PM | Is it infatuation or could it be Love at the first stage in meeting? | |
carolinaguy71
Boca Raton, FL
age: 36
| There is no such thing as love at first sight. There is attraction and chemistry but there are so many diffrent things someone that you think you love could do that you would not want to be with them. I think for true lasting love you have to really get to know someone, and instead of you both having seperate lives you have one that you share. You bring that person's world together with yours to make each other happy. JMO?
Ron
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| 4/25/2008 8:40:00 PM | Is it infatuation or could it be Love at the first stage in meeting? | |
nicksterdemus
Little Rock, AR
age: 50
| The Three Stooges of Love.
I like this gal...
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| 4/25/2008 8:40:55 PM | Is it infatuation or could it be Love at the first stage in meeting? | |
raregold59
Charlotte, NC
age: 49
| ge0ge0
I agree !!!
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| 4/25/2008 8:55:11 PM | Is it infatuation or could it be Love at the first stage in meeting? | |
fryyyy
North Kingstown, RI
age: 49
| I think it's possible.
I used to think it wasn't.
I think if you BELIEVE it is love.. i think if you have made up your mind.. it's a conviction.. that it's love.. then it can be love. If you never change your mind.. then it must have been love. take for example your newborn child.. YOU LOVE THAT CHILD BAM! .. that fast.. and it's real love.. its true love.. it has no conditions or expectations.
I think it only takes a split second.. to place you in that state of being.. who's to say if that split second will take 10 seconds or 20 years to occur?
If you falter.. if you waiver.. if you change your mind.. mabye it wasnt love after all.
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| 4/25/2008 9:22:18 PM | Is it infatuation or could it be Love at the first stage in meeting? | |
cheven1
Willoughby, OH
age: 39
| I believe it, and I've been in it ....I met my dream girl on [blocked site], we hit it off right out of the gate ..and we fell for each other. We lasted a year, but she was too independent for too long and panicked. There was some minor things as well, but worst part is after she broke up with me, she realized she made a mistake and wanted me back. I'm so in love with her, but just can't go back.
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| 4/25/2008 9:25:35 PM | Is it infatuation or could it be Love at the first stage in meeting? | |
ladyinparis
Paris, TX
age: 41
| What do you mean you just can't go back? Go back!
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