| 4/26/2008 11:27:16 PM | i need some help on a relationship | | 
blondehairbluee
Los Molinos, CA
age: 38
| i met a guy in January he got arrest for a restraining order and has been in jail for 3monthes, since then i met another guy and we have been dating.me and the guy in jail have gotten close by phone and letters he's coming home in May. so i need to know if i should tell the other guy that i dont want to see him anymore?
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| 4/26/2008 11:32:38 PM | i need some help on a relationship | |
craftygirl002
Tacoma, WA
age: 40
| um...is this a rhetorical question?
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| 4/26/2008 11:33:50 PM | i need some help on a relationship | |
daddyduck
Splendora, TX
age: 55
| One thing for sure, somebody is gonna feel like they got played
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| 4/26/2008 11:34:12 PM | i need some help on a relationship | |
forever2
Victoria
Australia
age: 47
| you maybe shouldnt of started a relationship with the new guy in the first place if you have stuck to the guy in jaol visiting him etc then that proves that you care for the guy in jaol finish the relationship now with the new guy you liked the man before he went to jaol so what has changed good luck
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| 4/27/2008 1:11:36 AM | i need some help on a relationship | |
venice427
Los Angeles, CA
age: 40
| what was the , "restraining" order for ..??
stalking ..?? violent crime ..??
domestic abuse ..?? ...??????
don't be surprised, if the guy in jail doesn't want to see you
anymore, when he gets out
meanwhile, hes asking you to put money on his ,"books"
he'll be really nice ....
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| 4/27/2008 3:51:52 AM | i need some help on a relationship | |
whosyour51
Plymouth, IN
age: 57
| Well wich guy you wanna be with more? Think your the one with the answer to that. Guess its getting closer to the time you'll have to figure it out. Good luck
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| 4/27/2008 5:00:14 AM | i need some help on a relationship | |
fryyyy
North Kingstown, RI
age: 49
| some good points made here i think.
Anyone in jail for violation of a restraining order.. might not be free of their last relationship.. they sound pretty "broken" to me. You "sure" you wanna be next in that guys life? Are you just his parachute out of his last relationship? This is one of those times i wonder if i would back off.. wait for them to get on their feet.. see if they still want you when they can stand on their own. Or if they are wanting you just cus they need you.
I take it this other guy you have been dating.. you don't care for much... cus it doesn't seem to be a consideration to drop the jail guy. The jail guy has 20 hours a day to think and probably spends a lot of that time thinking about you. This other guy your dating has a real life.. and still takes time out of it to see you.. I mean.. giving the jail guy credit for paying you some attention.. when he has nothing else to do 24 hours of the day.. is a bit unfair.
I guess what i would do if i were u.. is decide which of these guys you like more. The jail guy is like a porcupine to me tho.. with all the spines being warning signs lol I think you need to do something right away too.. having 2 lovers in your life is rough. It's not fair to anyone at all. Time to give one of them the pink slip. (with explanation)
good luck
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| 4/27/2008 5:15:31 AM | i need some help on a relationship | |
soulcrazy
San Clemente, CA
age: 39
| Are you kidding????? The guy violated a restraining order! Get rid of him and quickly before he gets out of jail so he has time to get over his anger!
Good luck.
~Cajun~
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| 4/27/2008 5:16:19 AM | i need some help on a relationship | |
dixiethelovebug
Auburn, GA
age: 44
| If he is in violation of a restraining order then that must tell you what kind of life you would lead. He dosnt abide by laws so what makes you think that he would be faithful or not spend his life in and out of jail? I understand people make mistakes and that is why he had a restraining order but you dont get arrested for the restraining order you get arrested for violating it!
You are just a stepping stone to him and once he gets out and uses you till he is on his feet again, well you will be history too.
If I were you, I think I would break if off with both until I could figure out why I dont think I am worth having a decent loving "law abiding" man that dosnt have a need for restraining orders because they know how to restrain themselves.
If you do decide to stay with him, I wish you the best of luck because you are going to need it with the road you are choosing to go down.
I have been there and done it so I do know where you are coming from. After which I did not date for a couple of years so I could learn to like who I am and not choose those types of men again.
Good luck to you whichever way you choose to go.
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| 4/27/2008 10:42:39 AM | i need some help on a relationship | |
pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 50
| I'm not sure I understand the question since your grammar is pretty bad.
YOu WANT to go back to the guy who is in jail?????????????????? duh!!! That in my opinion would be a big mistake.
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| 4/27/2008 10:53:15 AM | i need some help on a relationship | |
tfortexas
Big Sandy, TX
age: 56
| Strike one...strike two...another... PLAYER... strikes out at bat.
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| 4/27/2008 10:55:29 AM | i need some help on a relationship | |
silkpanties53
Baytown, TX
age: 53
|  your quote "arrest for a restraining order and has been in jail for 3monthes"
duhhhhhh 
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| 4/27/2008 11:01:28 AM | i need some help on a relationship | |
wino631
Huntington, NY
age: 53
| Soulcrazy says it all. Are you nuts?
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| 4/27/2008 11:04:45 AM | i need some help on a relationship | |
shylywilling
Medford, OR
age: 47
| I would imagine that if you were truely honest with either or both of them to begin with you would not be in this confusion. It's never too late to be honest for your sake but it probably is for either of these two relationships. If I am right and you have withheld the truth from either of them then you better end it with them before your dishonesty blows up in your face and you hurt someone worse then you might already have. It could get a lot worse on you too.
If by chance you have been honest with both of them then you just may not have any worries except for the next thanksgiving dinner arrangements.
Good luck, life often presents us with the lessons we need most even when we are not aware.
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| 4/27/2008 11:07:54 AM | i need some help on a relationship | |
bethlett
Spokane, WA
age: 89
| Oh hell yeah. I'd choose a guy that his been in jail and has a restraining order out against him ANY day.
You even had to ASK?
*eyeroll* 
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