gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| There's a scene in the new film "Deception" in which Ewan McGregor's character, Jonathan—a naive, buttoned-up accountant whose sex life hasn't seen the light of day (or night) for years—asks an older woman he just met in an expensive New York hotel lobby, with whom he is about to have sex,
"Why do you do it?"
"It," in this case, is something called The List, a vague and secretive association of sex-hungry urban professionals who know nothing of their partners aside from their cell phone numbers—and want to keep it that way. Lounging seductively like a Mrs. Robinson figure in the hotel room, the older woman coolly responds;
"The same reason men do it. The economics of the arrangement: intimacy without intricacy."
In the film, members of The List initiate their anonymous hook-ups with curt, coded telephone calls. "Are you free tonight?" is doublespeak for "Wanna get it on?"
Working his way down The List, Jonathan quickly moves from prude to promiscuous within a prolific two-week span, until trouble strikes (you knew it was coming): he becomes emotionally attached to one of his partners, a pretty blonde
Intimacy without intricacy. It's the gold standard of sexual consummation for many people today.
That sex drives men and women to all sorts of untenable escapades is nothing new. Our species has survived for millennia for a reason: rampant propagation, frequently with the wrong partner. It's not difficult to imagine two cavemen bashing each other over the head because caveman No. 1 found out caveman No. 2 treated No. 1's wife to a breakfast of poached pterodactyl eggs and, oh, fornication.
Certainly human relationships and social behaviors have evolved since then, in ways that allow for meaningful and responsible application of sexual desire. And yet statistics show that prostitution and promiscuity are on the rise all over the world.
1. Could it be that we as a species are getting so busy that we're unable to—or don't want to—relate in more substantive ways?
2. Do a few hours of anonymous pleasure, free of the pressures and commitments of family life, have a deeper appeal for us now?
[article written and published by Ralph Quarry]
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wino631
Huntington, NY
age: 53
| I would say ,yes to both 1 and 2. It may be a sad state of affairs, but we desire so much more these days,and are able to get it without much sacrifice. It becomes common place. With the work loads of every day life and the difficulty of relating to the opposite sex, these sort of behaviors, are an easy way to deal with the stress.
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dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 45
| I don't roll that way. I need a true relationship to get satisfaction from it. Sex alone is always obtainable, yet my desires for a meaningful relationship seem to over rule my desires for sex alone. I need the companionship that comes through a relationship.
I have no desire to be sexually active with someone I have no connection with.
You can all call BS on this, but it truly is the way I feel about it at this point in my life. True, while I was younger I'd hit it just to get my rocks off. But as I have aged or matured, the desire for more has overtaken those feelings of instant gratification.
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cajunmister
Kinder, LA
age: 57
| You mentioned that our species survived for thousands of years because of mentioned traits. You then state that were more evolved in those same traits. Maybe IMO that our ego has interfered with what we are ment to be and is causing the problems you noted. We are basicly the same IMO as when we were created( God don't make junk) and evoling in the time we've been around is a self imposed illusion.
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