Normal thinking from the Normal side..... 31

4/28/2008 2:20:44 PM	Normal thinking from the Normal side.....
me4aminute_1 Rutland, IA age: 35	Luvin..........we aren't perfect and hell.....who wants to be. That is just way to much pressure. I am happy to just be me.........the good, the bad, and the down right ugly at times, but like I said. I won't pretend to be better all the whle make snide comments in threads like........."I wouldn't be caught dead in this thread and then pop out. Lets face it. That was not to give a nice comment.......yet........this person claims to be one of the guys. I don't see the guys making catty comments and then giving an. I guess this person doesn't always stay in the garage with the guys patiently waiting for my verbal backlash oh I forgot. Someone will get an email about it.
4/29/2008 7:43:32 AM	Normal thinking from the Normal side.....
kenb5b01 Northport, WA age: 44	Everyone is judgemental, no one is excluded. A few judge by hear say without knowing the other side. They are misguided. They allow others to control their thinking by the threat of losing a friendship. Not everyone is judgmental. There are those who are excluded. Those who insist on the high road and look around for the white hat when friends go to battle. Because if one allows oneself to be drawn into situations of conflict in which there are three sides of, one will almost always be required to chose a side and I despise ultimatums. As in any conflict or disagreement there are 3 positions to address: Your needs/side, their needs/side and one in which the needs of the previous 2 sides can be met without conflict. Obviously neither party has considered the needs of the opposite, let alone attempted to identify a non aggressive/ non confrontational means of resolving whatever issues exist. There's the old saying Remember the past or you're condemned to repeat it in the future A few people want to forget the past so they keep repeating the same thing over and over again. Like a broken record. Now that records are obsolete there are DVDs and those can be ruined as well. Nothing is permanent except the past. Well said. I agree and disagree however. Since the past is indeed already gone, the only permanent aspect of the past is infact that it is permanently gone. Those who choose to focus on the past are likely to overlook the beauty of the present and miss opportunities the future offers. The past is a distant country - remember ? - we did things differently over there... m at a loss here people. Any advice at all would be appreciated. I refuse to drop to that level and bad mouth through private emails, drop names, or to tell tales that are twisted and bent until they bear no resemblance to the truth… What to do?!??! Thanks OP you know I am your friend and I adore and respect you, but you asked. I am surprised that you would lower yourself to what this thread represents. If another person chooses to engage in childish behavior and make a public spectacle of themselves is it not wise to remain on the high road and maintain ones own self respect and dignity? I suggest that you put away your baseball bat and brass knuckles, remove your armor and begin with identifying what needs you hoped to fulfill with this thread, what did you hope to accomplish. Next, try and discover what the needs or goals of the opposite might be and lastly defuse conflict and look for a means of resolution rather than escalating the hostilities. I still adore you anyway. But you are above this dear.
4/29/2008 7:44:29 AM	Normal thinking from the Normal side.....
kegleaves Mount Juliet, TN age: 30	Question??? Who the hell wants to be normal?
4/29/2008 8:21:06 AM	Normal thinking from the Normal side.....
abeenorml New Underwood, SD age: 43	Ken! Quit making sense! LOL
4/29/2008 8:44:06 AM	Normal thinking from the Normal side.....
luvinlifetou Biddeford, ME age: 42	LOL, Darn it, you KNOW I agree with every word you posted, but KenB...when you are pushed, and pushed, and pushed... and you try and remain quiet, but keep hearing more and more nastiness, I dont know..but chinese water torture will break the strongest person. You yourself can only be pushed so far before YOU will respond, honey, and YOUR backlash is something to be avoided at all costs...(Thanks for being a sweetie and going easy on me) Luv ya too.... My intention with this thread is to have a chance to respond to all this without being a snide, nasty person, through an email campaign (my other option). I wanted my side heard. I have had ENOUGH. Blocked, taunted, snapped at and then called numerous names because I was tired of the snide thinly veiled comments, so I started snapping back....This for me is a way to put it behind me again and walk the other way. Because despite the accusations, I AM BETTER THAN THIS. And I like my friends and the fun found here much better than I do all the bull. You might notice that the people who dared post here are mostly people who are not afraid of posting their side, even knowing there will be backlash. I wonder how many people would like to post but dont dare? For fear of backlash in a battle of the titans? LMAO....Im just a person. I have limits to how much I can stand, also. I have NOT addressed or talked about that woman in months, literally, until the last couple weeks, when the drip drip drip on the forehead of her henpecking comments finally pushed me to fight back.....and when newbies who I care about are told vile and nasty things...and I hear it. We ALL have a right to our opinions. But spewing hatred and twisted truths is not the same thing. I would call for a truce, if I believed for one second that the white flag wouldnt be used to tie and gag me and throw me into a deep well.... As a matter of fact...I do ASK FOR A TRUCE. Enough, this could go on forever..and who does it benefit? Our friends? Like it or not, we have mutual friends who respect us both. This is ridiculous. I dont want to fight. Especially about things that are over, done with, and funny thing, the main participant and I have mended fences. So, why cant We? No more armor, steel fists in velvet gloves...Im throwing down my weapons, Im done with the bickering. Can you do the same? I guess time will tell, since you will not let me email you, have blocked me from participating in any of your threads.......I will unblock you too...which, btw, you have been unblocked all along, I chose to block you three days ago when I became the tick on a dogs face, a terrier chewing a rag, ect.ect......But its done. Im done. I wont respond to any more nastiness... KenB, if I have to run to you with more torture for private counseling...I will. Other than that......Im finished with this battle. Its a no-win situation for us all. Im waving the white flag.[b/] Thank You to all my friends who support me, believe in me, and know that I am a good person. Love you all. Luvin
4/29/2008 8:45:20 AM	Normal thinking from the Normal side.....
missyroo375 Suffern, NY age: 21	what we talkin about in here
4/29/2008 9:00:42 AM	Normal thinking from the Normal side.....
tamirae Woodland, CA age: 32	its not for us missy we aint part of the normal crowd
4/29/2008 9:07:35 AM	Normal thinking from the Normal side.....
kenb5b01 Northport, WA age: 44	~ Lunin ~ I am glad you didn't misunderstand what I was getting at. its not for us missy we aint part of the normal crowd Yer almost normal though. Except yer both cute and kinda funny. Otherwise...
4/29/2008 9:09:47 AM	Normal thinking from the Normal side.....
abeenorml New Underwood, SD age: 43	Hi Luvin....well said. Missy and Tami.....you are welcome in any crowd I am in, normal or not, he he
4/29/2008 9:10:50 AM	Normal thinking from the Normal side.....
missyroo375 Suffern, NY age: 21	Like keg said...what is normal
4/29/2008 9:56:05 AM	Normal thinking from the Normal side.....
abeenorml New Underwood, SD age: 43	not IT! lol
4/29/2008 6:09:45 PM	Normal thinking from the Normal side.....
luvinlifetou Biddeford, ME age: 42	tamirae...you are welcome in our 'crowd'...we dont even have one...we are all the weirdos and loners...and the ones not afraid to say our piece... and MissyRoo is one of my favorite people on this site... and I havent had time to fill her in...but I will... No cliques...no games...just us... back to having fun and no more fighting... Sound good? Luv to all... Luvin
4/29/2008 6:38:07 PM	Normal thinking from the Normal side.....
hotpockets Maple Shade, NJ age: 53	I have a student..she has issues...she has in the past cut herself. Now for me this is a first how do i deal with this as a mentor. hmmmm, I can only hope that I say the right things...friends will come and go, they may agree or disagree that is their choice and as a free country we have that option. At her young age she has her whole life ahead of her as well as her future. Soooo, as with High school games,... she likes...she said that...she did this..blahh...blahh...blahh does it really matter in the sceme of life? Why?...Just like these forums...just an opinion and then let it go...for what...and then why does it really matter? JMO...
4/29/2008 6:39:50 PM	Normal thinking from the Normal side.....
abeenorml New Underwood, SD age: 43	I like it! Done!
4/29/2008 6:49:24 PM	Normal thinking from the Normal side.....
susie_seashore Daytona Beach, FL age: 51	I don't think I know what is supposed to be normal thinking and what the normal side is. IMO though, a woman is a woman is a woman. And, a man is a man is a man. There's no ands, if's, or buts. That's what I think, anyway. I like ALL of YOU!