| 4/27/2008 4:19:01 PM | Normal thinking from the Normal side..... | |
luvinlifetou
Biddeford, ME
age: 41
| I was talking to a couple of my girl friends and the topic of how women define themselves came up. Its amazing how some women like to define themselves as “not the typical woman”. Yet...their actions..speak louder..and they snipe..and snap...like terriers with a rag toy....
I find myself baffled at times by the reactions of some women (SOME..not all) on the site…
Especially those who sit back and act so holier than thou…""perfection incarnate""
Calling others evil. Hah. Looking back through posts of SOME DH oldtimers, you can see another side to these ‘personas’.
Complain and moan about other women making “snide remarks” and putting out jabs…but don’t mind starting a whole thread doing the exact same thing??? Why cant they Just STFU?
Possibly, I think, well..the word hypocrite comes to mind…..
So what to do when women like this are raving and making nasty comments to friends…How do you deal with someone who slaps a coat of shellack on their way of thinking…and doesn’t hesitate to share those opinions with the public in general?
How do you deal with someone who is badmouthing friends and yourself without dropping to their level? HOW DO you deal with the HYPOCRISY of someone who has no hesitation in stating that you are unstable…but their words and actions show the very same thing for themselves? How attractive is that to the opposite sex? Sexy like that dogs ass with ticks on it...mmm. Lovely.
Im at a loss here people. Any advice at all would be appreciated. I refuse to drop to that level and bad mouth through private emails, drop names, or to tell tales that are twisted and bent until they bear no resemblance to the truth…
What to do?!??!
Thanks
Luvin
[Edited 4/27/2008 4:19:31 PM]
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| 4/27/2008 4:23:14 PM | Normal thinking from the Normal side..... | |
tallhobbit
Euless, TX
age: 37
| Ah, the question of what to do in the face of hypocrisy. Well, in this environment, it's seems the logical answer is to ignore it, ignore the person, and no longer be involved with that person. Then just keep on treating other people like you want to be treated. You'll be able to move on enjoying others who are cool and considerate and you won't be wasting time and emotion on those who are not worthy. 
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| 4/27/2008 4:27:35 PM | Normal thinking from the Normal side..... | |
mitchell1221
Chattanooga, TN
age: 45
| Luvin, what is normal, and what is normal thinking? 
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| 4/27/2008 4:27:59 PM | Normal thinking from the Normal side..... | |
sapraim
Minneapolis, MN
age: 33
| People are People and you are always going to have a couple of Donkeys in the group, but what can you do but ignore them.
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| 4/27/2008 4:38:41 PM | Normal thinking from the Normal side..... | |
me4aminute_1
Rutland, IA
age: 35
| Luvin..........I understand your situation. It is terrible that this happens. I am not innocent of making a few nasty comments when I shouldn't. I guess we all make bad judgments from time to time. I don't understand why it is right for someone to make snide comments about others bad judgements all the while they are claiming to hate the snide comments from others. Does it give them some sick pleasure? For some I think it does.
If anyone feels safe from being lied about or gossiped about on this site or any other, they are very naive in their thinking.......just because you aren't attacked in the forums doesn't mean your name isn't flying in private emails.
I have seen some serious little digs from some all the while they are b*tching about others doing it. Calling people losers and no class. I guess they think that it is okay for them to do, but far be it if they aren't getting the attention that they crave. We are posting on a public forum. We are all seeking attention or why else would we be here? It would be pretty stupid to be on a dating site and not talk to anyone.........window shopping at a dating site is pretty stupid.
I'm sure people have been warned to stay away from me and so on and so forth....well, that might be a wise statement because sometimes being my friend puts a big target on your back, but if you are my friend I won't turn my back on you.
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| 4/27/2008 4:39:06 PM | Normal thinking from the Normal side..... | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| I guess I'd phone for a tow truck
call another continent to pass the message via smoke rings, 
indecipherable tom-tom thumpings, (bang the Drum slowly, Squanto~!) 
or maybe I'd relocate thru the generous financial contributions of a DH lover I spurned so I could move closer to the next lover I would spurn 
And in order to continue jumping from state to state and man to man looking for someone to underwrite me financially I'd be openly flirtatious and winsome to all men, asking them to want me for what image I portrayed at that moment so I could use them and lose them...
and when that didn't work?
Well, no doubt I'd attack another female because that is after all so elegant and classy isn't it? 
I do think that if you lump all your DH lovers into one state at a time...say a couple in Michigan or a couple in Maine, or a couple three or four in New Mexico it does become more fiscally responsible and shows enormous potential for personal growth and development!
DH as an educational tool?
Sweet!
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| 4/27/2008 4:39:42 PM | Normal thinking from the Normal side..... | |
abeenorml
New Underwood, SD
age: 43
| (breys loudly) who me? Hugs, Luvin! LOL
Seriously though, It is a popularity contest at times in here. I dislike ppl who whine about being treated badly by people they have treated badly. I get really tired of this place sometimes....then I get my emails and I get straight and feel ok again.
I am your friend Me4.
[Edited 4/27/2008 4:44:02 PM]
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| 4/27/2008 4:45:45 PM | Normal thinking from the Normal side..... | |
italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53 online now!
| I guess luvin, you just have to do what you think is best for YOU...i won't bash a friend, and i've been contacted to sway me to do so, but you know what? I will do what's best for me and if someone else doesn't like it, then so be it.JMO
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| 4/27/2008 4:45:51 PM | Normal thinking from the Normal side..... | |
mom1st
York, SC
age: 31
| I think it is better not to invest anything, they aren't anybody, and I would just let it roll off my back. They aren't gonna make or break me, and have no influence on my life what so ever. I definately wouldn't stoop to their level either. Unfortunately they know they are getting to you, and I hope you can find a way to let it all go. Just remember that you know who you are and what type of person you are, and if ppl choose to play in their game and believe them, then those ppl aren't the kind of ppl that you want for friends anyways. Best of luck.
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| 4/27/2008 4:47:36 PM | Normal thinking from the Normal side..... | |
me4aminute_1
Rutland, IA
age: 35
| Abee..........I know ya are........but SHHHHHHHHHH or you will feel the wind of knives being tossed at your back........lmao, but don't worry. I will pull them out quickly.
Hell, I might be a b*tch, but at least I don't try to hide behind snide comments all the time.
Man, I feel the scope light on me as I speak.
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| 4/27/2008 4:47:36 PM | Normal thinking from the Normal side..... | |
mitchell1221
Chattanooga, TN
age: 45
| I don`t get into all the little dramas,
I'm only here to improve my typing skills.
besides, I'm an equal opportunity offender.
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| 4/27/2008 4:48:08 PM | Normal thinking from the Normal side..... | |
me4aminute_1
Rutland, IA
age: 35
| LMFAO@Mitchell
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| 4/27/2008 6:06:42 PM | Normal thinking from the Normal side..... | |
luvinlifetou
Biddeford, ME
age: 41
| Ooooh mitch...I will be back shorty to chime in...
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| 4/27/2008 6:26:17 PM | Normal thinking from the Normal side..... | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| I'm an equal opportunity offender
Where do I sign up
I was at my son's ballgame not too long ago and the boys on his team (that he goes to school with - remember small town) were teasing him about someone I thought they said Maxine. I asked him about it in private and he said it was a boy named Max. I asked him if the other boys liked this boy named Max and he said no. I asked why and he said that they just didn't like him. I explained to him that when someone doesn't like a person then they tease the person that they are with so that they will also hate them. Not because they did anything wrong but merely because they exist. Society of 10 year olds starting the mold of who is to be a friend and who isn't. Such pressure under a young age. I cannot be with him 24/7 so I am hoping that he will be friends with the boy Max and friends with the other boys as well. I'm sure the other boys will make him make a choice. 
Everyone is judgemental, no one is excluded. A few judge by hear say without knowing the other side. They are misguided. They allow others to control their thinking by the threat of losing a friendship.
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| 4/27/2008 6:32:33 PM | Normal thinking from the Normal side..... | |
mitchell1221
Chattanooga, TN
age: 45
| Where do I sign up
on the dotted line, don't worry about the fine print, just sign it.
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