| 5/9/2008 10:25:16 PM | Is it worthless for me to try to date with my schedule | | 
ccubedccc
Denver, CO
age: 54
| I went through a period when I was about your age where money and career were all driving and became a workaholic. Had a doctor tell me to slow down or it would be heart attack city by 35. My work definately interfered with my relationship at the time.
I know money is necessary to live, but my priorities changed. I don't have all the money I want, but at least now I am working to live, rather than living to work. It's all in the balance of life. It used to be that I felt I had to work more hours to prove myself to others. It took a toll. I had a good friend tell me that if I was working more than 48 hours per week, then I had better look at how I was working and why. I took that to heart (a few years later, of course).
About the dating thing, go for it. You might find that special someone who will spur you to better things, with balance in your life.
Good luck!!
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| 5/9/2008 10:58:23 PM | Is it worthless for me to try to date with my schedule | |
butlergurl81
Butler, IN
age: 27
| Not a bad thing to be apart for so many hours....stick with it if that is what you want for your life.... You should never let bad experiences run your life.... You are in charge. And you will find a good woman who wants to be with you.....Even if that means only an hour here and there.
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| 5/9/2008 11:18:30 PM | Is it worthless for me to try to date with my schedule | |
dream_spider
Grande Prairie, AB
age: 35
| Well I know its a had choice, and no one said life was easy or that the easy way was the right way. Sounds to me like she thinks too much of her self and the present moments instead of looking at the whole picture.
I worked 5 days a week very much like you, always putting in over time, and sometimes even more time that was just reg. hours. But I left that job almost 10 years ago, and I went back to check it out last year. Sure enough most of the people I knew were still there, barley making more then they use too. Where as I had evolved been threw different mile stones only because I knew I didn'[t want to be a lifer there. I began saving for college when I started, and sure enough one day I took that path, because I had priorities, which weren't of having a relationship for the moment but to be able to eventually have the relationship I had always dreamed of.
I did a 2 year coarse in 1 year. I had a job before I was even out of college since I was an honour student. My wage doubled from my old job, seemed like that ment there was less need for a second income. Wasn't even a year and the business closed down.
Seemed like everything was over, and that dreams would be nothing but that just dreams. And that I had waisted all my time. But thanks to the internet a few months later, after loosing everything I owned basically vehicles house extra. I scored a job from the other side of the country to work on this side of the country. Again a few months went by and I got permoted and again my wage doubled from my last job, so I was now making 4 times what your making. I became a System Engineer, that was my permotion.
It wasn't long and I realized that really what I was doing was running a business for someone else, so I went back into business. Again doubling my wage now not only the one who did the work but the one who got paid to organize it all too. So I was collecting 2times what I made working for someone else.
Now the choices really our yours to make its your life even if an other doesn't make the right choices to be in your life, but you choose your destiny. I know one thing, people tell me now they wish things had been different, and in a way so do I, but not really I'm very proud to have been patient, and look for someone else who was also.
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| 5/10/2008 1:03:54 AM | Is it worthless for me to try to date with my schedule | |
venice427
Los Angeles, CA
age: 40
| its only worthless, if you're dead
but, obviously you're not....
take longer lunches, and "hit it"....
surprise her with a .."nooner" ... 
i work mon-sat 7:30am to 6:00pm ....
but, i make time ,......
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| 5/10/2008 3:00:29 AM | Is it worthless for me to try to date with my schedule | |
shoppers4
Manchester, NH
age: 27
| I think you have to look at it from their point of view a little bit..we are making them out to be oh they have to just accept it..well how do you get to know someone really well if you dont see them?..
if you are working, how do you even know you want to be w/ them? I think you might be asking them a lot to accept..no, you dont need to spend every second together, thats unhealthy..space can be a wonderful thing, but if you dont see them? eventually you know your job schedule will get in the way..think about it...she has all this time on her hands and sees couples together..eventually she'll leave..you cant have a relationship grow if you dont see other
maybe you can find someone w/ a similiar lifestyle..maybe a nurse or something who also deals w/ scheduling and work..
I dont think its pointless for you to date, I think you should find someone who has your schedule, and if its not possible, then weigh your options and see how happy you are with how things are going
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| 5/10/2008 4:22:09 AM | Is it worthless for me to try to date with my schedule | |
ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 42 online now!
| I work Monday through Sat 6 pm to 6 am . And i sleep during the day for 8 hrs or more . Witch leaves me no life .My last 2 girlfriends told me to come get my stuff becouse she dont see me enough .only once maby twice a week. Should i leave my 600 $ a week job for love .  
Eh, I feel you'd be shooting yourself in the foot if you quit your job for a chick. With the job market the way it is the odds of finding a gal who appreciates a guy with a job is is way better than finding a job.
I was raised in NE Ohio and worked in the steel industry as a CAD/CAM Mechanical Engineer and I put in some hellatious hours (70+) per week. But I got paid way more than $600.00/week. You didn't say exactly what type of manufacturing you were into. That's a broad field especially in NE Ohio.
It's a priority thing;
1) Education comes first and is always on priority ONE (If you're not improving your situation then you're stagnating. Chicks don't dig that)
2) Job/Career Rule of thumb; find a job that pays the most for the least amount of work and time (Chicks like guys who can balance work and play)
3) Material things; Own your own house, car etc... (Stuff attracts chicks and not for all the right reasons but shows you have stability)
4) Relationship; (what chicks want from you)
If you don't have these priorities under control #4 is going to be like pissing into the wind and pointless. So I'd keep your job and lay off the relationships.
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