| 4/27/2008 10:41:02 PM | Why do women say one thing but want another?? | |
scorpion1975
Leitchfield, KY
age: 32
| This topic has been brought up before and on different forums but I am bringing it up again based upon my own experiences recently. Women say they want a man that will respect them, take care of them, be there for them, want more than sex from them, and all the other "good" things but when they get that they run from it? Can anyone tell me why? I mean this lady and I have known each other since 5th grade, liked each other throughout school, got married to other people, divorced, found each other and went out on a few dates. I was nothing but a gentleman and she was happy then "BAM"...let's just be friends. Then she calls me complaining because nobody will treat her like I did and all she wants is a guy that will be nice to her and want more than sex from her. She still watches movies with me but stresses the fact that we are just friends, I don't understand...can anyone explain?
Same note here...women say they want a nice guy, good natured and they don't care about appearance. Well I am a good guy and show respect ( I like to have fun and goof around on here some but I do respect women) but once they see my photo or hear my weight I never hear back from them..hmmmm....just a note to you ladies : Some of us larger guys are the most cuddly and can keep up just as well or better than our smaller counterparts.
any input I can get on this would be appreciated...thank you
 
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| 4/27/2008 10:59:57 PM | Why do women say one thing but want another?? | |
lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 51
| wish i could come up with something but at the moment it eludes me... I have a friend who wants to meet a nice man but everytime theres a chance she has something else on or is busy etc...Believe me its frustrating workinig her out at times....Maybe they are afraid..I really dont know...
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| 4/27/2008 11:13:28 PM | Why do women say one thing but want another?? | |
goodforfun51
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 53
| Scorpion, i am sure you wanted responses from women, however, over the few years that I have been on the internet, I have come to know several ladies and deeply respect them each. Some have been fantastic and some less so. However, they (and I don't want women to see this as exclusive to them, for it is NOT) have a tendancy to have a meatmarket and I can find greener pastures mentality. Yeah, they want something and seem to find it. Then their vision expands (cuter guy or whatever reason) and they see the need to explore that avenue. They then get burned and want to know why they can't seem to find what they are looking for.
Well, folks, It works like this... When it's there and available you better grab it up and keep it forever after. For when you wish to see if the pasture is greener and it was just due to one rain and then goes back to tumbleweed. Don't think that there hasn't been a fence erected between those two pastures and the path to the old is forever lost.
It works very much the same whether on the internet or in everyones day to day "real world" lives.
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| 4/27/2008 11:18:48 PM | Why do women say one thing but want another?? | |
lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 51
| goodforfun yes you have some pointers there....And yes its true both men and women are always tending to think the grass is greener on the other side until they get there....People need to start accepting others more just as they are we none of us are perfect....On the whole it seems to me we are a dissatisfied lot and then we wonder why we are lonely....Then on the other hand people say they want one thing but they actualy want something different...Its a complicated one for sure....
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| 4/27/2008 11:21:13 PM | Why do women say one thing but want another?? | |
edrew
Tacoma, WA
age: 39
| Yes i agree with Goodfortune he nailed it dead center.
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| 4/27/2008 11:42:05 PM | Why do women say one thing but want another?? | |
lostinwyoming
Evanston, WY
age: 50
| ask her.
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| 4/28/2008 12:46:49 AM | Why do women say one thing but want another?? | |
scorpion1975
Leitchfield, KY
age: 32
| goodforfun51...any input from male or female is appreciated and you make a very good point.
lillibet...women and men both tend to want something then decide it is not truly what they wanted until they don't have it any more.
lostinwyoming....she won't tell me more than "just friends", that's why I am asking on here.
I am by no means perfect nor any where near it, I am chubby (not fat) and I have flaws but I am working on them. All I want is for a woman to be happy and that is what I try for, is that wrong?
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| 4/28/2008 1:04:19 AM | Why do women say one thing but want another?? | |
ru2timid
Rockford, IL
age: 46
| Quite an unusual box of rocks here
You've read how many other posts with the same thing? Maybe I should have inserted a mirror for you to reflect into. Relationships are hard enough to come by... dating is the first steps... are you still in the crawling stage? Please take some of the responsibilty on you own shoulders and figure it out... we all weren't meant for just any body. And it takes 2 willing people, not just 1 that is to willing!
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| 4/28/2008 3:18:12 AM | Why do women say one thing but want another?? | |
ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41 online now!
| Women say they want a man that will respect them, take care of them, be there for them, want more than sex from them, and all the other "good" things but when they get that they run from it? Can anyone tell me why? I mean this lady and I have known each other since 5th grade, liked each other throughout school, got married to other people, divorced, found each other and went out on a few dates. I was nothing but a gentleman and she was happy then "BAM"...let's just be friends. Then she calls me complaining because nobody will treat her like I did and all she wants is a guy that will be nice to her and want more than sex from her. She still watches movies with me but stresses the fact that we are just friends, I don't understand...can anyone explain?
Same note here...women say they want a nice guy, good natured and they don't care about appearance. Well I am a good guy and show respect ( I like to have fun and goof around on here some but I do respect women) but once they see my photo or hear my weight I never hear back from them..hmmmm....just a note to you ladies : Some of us larger guys are the most cuddly and can keep up just as well or better than our smaller counterparts.
any input I can get on this would be appreciated...thank you
www.laddertheory.com
There is that 10% Things Women Say They Care About But Dont.
The last 10% was my effort to give women the benefit of the doubt. A common question men ask of women is "Tell me what you want in a man?", which is like asking how many guys she's slept with, an invitation to be lied to. Because she'll almost invariably answer with some combination of
• sense of humor
• intelligence
• sensitivity
• emotional stability
As far as I can tell this is mostly rubbish. But in an effort to be fair I have included this, since there seem to be a few rare cases of this.
You, my friend, are on her "friends" ladder and not on her "to do" ladder. It's a sad place to be. You're not going to get anywhere with her and you're going to end up in the Abyss. I consider the "just friends" ordeal to be the Kiss of Death for any romantic inclinations with the woman who views you this way.
Read up 
[Edited 4/28/2008 3:21:29 AM]
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| 4/29/2008 7:41:49 PM | Why do women say one thing but want another?? | |
tiki44
Lancaster, PA
age: 44
| Mr. Scorpion,
I feel your pain...I too am blessed with some extra pounds and unfortunately the extra pounds body type is viewed by some as unpleasing. My advice is to keep looking, she is out there. I personally like a "fuller figure" guy. As far as the "just friends" I have to side with the others...yes even the guys...she is taking advantage of your kind heart. She knows you will always open the door to her, meanwhile she plays the field. Close the door, she may come to her senses, then you have a decision to make and if she doesn't she is not the one for you.
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| 4/29/2008 7:46:03 PM | Why do women say one thing but want another?? | |
tlc4u46
Santa Barbara, CA
age: 47
| goodforfun, my mom always told me that about greener pastures. Except described it like being a kite and floating over both sides of the fence. Looking at the greener grass on one side but once the string was cut and the kite fell to the side it wanted, it realized the grass was just as brown as it was on the other side.
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| 4/29/2008 7:52:26 PM | Why do women say one thing but want another?? | |
dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 45
| www.laddertheory.com Read it...Learn it...Then you will have your answer.
Read the cuddle biatch part twice.
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| 4/29/2008 8:15:46 PM | Why do women say one thing but want another?? | |
theironmandan1
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 38
| did you know pretty people pay as much as 25% less in life than fat or ugly people, yes its true , im sure you have that friend that him or her seem to have it easy. well you are 32 and want more out of life, join a gym ,and really go, eat healthy, it sucks sometimes, but what do you want out of life, a woman wants a trophy husband too. its just how life is.
When you are at the mall everybody opens the door for the hot chic, hell they jump to do it. but the fat chic with ten bags is left to fend for herself.
And when a handsome man in shape walks up to the hot chic, have you noticed how everybody seems to back up like they are some how ment to be together.
with a little work you can be this person to.
if you wont lower your standards about her, why, lower your standards about you.
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| 4/29/2008 8:34:43 PM | Why do women say one thing but want another?? | |
fwarlock
Melbourne, FL
age: 40
| Sometimes it just a case of "nice guys finish last". Last relationship I had been in was a great one to a very wonderful woman, things were great, I mean wonderful, then BAM!! Out of the blue, "I need some time to think". Never getting a real reason why, now all of a sudden after how ever long its been she feels that she wants to be freinds. So the relationship was the interview for me to be her freind . Sorry about the rammble, , but in short "NICE GUYS FINISH LAST" !
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| 4/30/2008 8:09:28 PM | Why do women say one thing but want another?? | |
paf1031
Defiance, PA
age: 27
| Who really knows why. I don't think the world will ever know.
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