| 4/28/2008 11:46:36 AM | How Selfish Are You? | |
ladydi55
Henderson, KY
age: 52
| Today I am sitting here looking through the adds to see if I can find my prince charming,or maybe he will see me online and talk to me. But, then this morning my youngest daughter of 28 years old,comes home to tell me they found one of her best friends had commetted susiside. She has done nothing but cry her eyes out.
He left behind a little girl who will not have a daddy anymore and the knowledge of what he did. Did he think about her? I'm sure he did. Probably crying the whole time he was complmenting what he was about to do to himslef. He thought about his parents,his life friends, family, God and probably mad at and blaming Him for letting things get this bad.
But, what he didn't think about was how sad and hurt he made everyone for his selfish act he commited. He was sorry about it I am sure, but not sorry enough to stop before he did the final deed. What a waste. He was a good person who thought life would be so much better without him.
How the devil lies to our ears and if we are not careful and look to God,( and this is not meant to be a sermon) which this is not His fault, he will tell us how worhtless we are and how much better off we and everyone else would be if we just ended it all.
I have lost a son,a grandson,and a nephew all in the site of 2 yers. No,my son did not die in war,but to cancer. My nephew drowned when he was 18 mths old and they brought him back to life only ot live on a ventilator till he was 16 years old. And my grandson died to SIDS at the young age of 6 wks old. Now don't tell me I didn't have reason to even consider ending it all. Plus, in the midst of that I caught my ex-husband cheating on me and doing it on dating sites w/ porn envloved.
My point is this. Today I still have problems and I am sure many of you to do. But is it worth ending it all just cause it is painful? NO! I want to be around to see the end. The sweet victory in my life,friends and family.
So while everyone on here and me too is worring about who will be for me, or when will I have sex again or any of the others items too numberous to mention, how many of us have stopped to give thanks to God today just for being here today? Shala(stop and pause and think and yes it is spelled wrong). I just did and I hope you do to.
Diana
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| 4/28/2008 3:00:03 PM | How Selfish Are You? | |
magtag
East York, ON
age: 41 online now!
| No matter how hard a day, a week, a month or a year may be, I give thanks at LEAST once every day. There are so many things to be thankful for in the midst of the worst crisis and I have lived through many of those. There is always someone in this world going through something much worse than I and I always try to remember this when times are tough and be thankful I am not suffering as they are. 
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| 4/28/2008 3:03:38 PM | How Selfish Are You? | |
holdinpanama
Panama City, FL
age: 44
| amen sista when you feel sorry for yourself look around and you will see kids homeless families without a roof over there head.i feel so asshamed of myself when i think i don't have it so good then i go by the homeless shelter and see how many people are there for food shelter clothing.stuuf that we can go buy at the store with money and go to our apartment and lay our heads down in a bed.
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| 4/28/2008 3:37:45 PM | How Selfish Are You? | |
katrina_sq
Mena, AR
age: 39
| In spite of the adversity I have faced in my life, I thank God every day for the blessings in my life and for giving me the strength and wisdom to persevere. I also ask Him to keep the strength and wisdom coming, lol.
There isn't a person here who hasn't had hardship here, but you can choose to be negative and wallow in self pity or you can choose to be positive and move forward. Everyone has a choice. Personally, I wasted enough of my life waiting for my ex to come to his senses. Now, I'm moving forward.
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| 4/28/2008 3:51:54 PM | How Selfish Are You? | |
justlooking630
West New York, NJ
age: 48
| Diana,
Sorry for your losses but I try to be grateful for everything in life and some days might be a challenge but I know matter how bad it gets I have my family who love me and I'm totally blessed with great friends to support me... I think people forget that they are NOT ALONE all you have to do reach out and asked for help...
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| 4/28/2008 4:05:04 PM | How Selfish Are You? | |
metu
Mansfield, TX
age: 46 online now!
| Just got word yesterday via POF, that a friend of mine from here committed suicide. He was definitely a troubled man & a lot of people here made fun of him...just goes to show that not all threats are idle. Oh well, I'm sure they'll find someone else to make fun of, the vipers & wolves always do.
I understand your loss..........
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| 4/28/2008 4:26:11 PM | How Selfish Are You? | |
luvwild
Brooklyn, NY
age: 41
| This is very heavy stuff.
But don't call anyone selfish until you walk a mile in their shoes.
Different people have different tolerance for pain.
I saw my brother killing himself over years - and he had an IQ off the charts and he was a musician. But he just couldn't live his life.
If I told you some of the things I've seen and been through, you probably wouldn't even believe me. But I am here and I am alive and living my life now.
That doesn't mean that I'm gonna get down on my knees and thank god. I do, however, believe in karma and that there is a reason for everything - even if I don't know that reason now.
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| 4/28/2008 4:41:26 PM | How Selfish Are You? | |
fryyyy
North Kingstown, RI
age: 49
| I wonder if depression is linked to intelligence.
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| 4/28/2008 4:47:20 PM | How Selfish Are You? | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
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| 4/28/2008 5:18:49 PM | How Selfish Are You? | |
gr8stwoman
Napa, CA
age: 41
| ladydi: I wish you the best! We can never know what another person was or wasn't thinking when they committed suicide. My 4th friend to take his life did so in December of last year. I always think about the first friend who took his life while in high school. Everything he wanted happened within 2 weeks of him taking his life... He would have been accepted by the girl he wanted, accepted into the college he chose, etc. I always think about the fact that he wasn't around to see the good changes that would have made his life wonderful.
I'm always grateful, regardless of what I have faced in my life. I'm still strong enough to be here.
metu: I'm SO sorry to read about your friend.  I really dislike it when people are unkind to each other. I think it is better to ignore whenever possible. I wish you only the best in dealing with this!
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| 4/28/2008 11:06:38 PM | How Selfish Are You? | |
ladydi55
Henderson, KY
age: 52
| I highly doubt it.Di
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| 4/28/2008 11:16:53 PM | How Selfish Are You? | |
honeyheart95
Elkins, WV
age: 35
| LADYDI.. I have been there.. my husband comitted suicide.. He left behind a daughter from a previous marriage and our son..It's very selfish and weak..I still have alot of anger inside about that.. and it's been almost 2yrs..NOTHING is ever bad enough to take your own life.. You may not feel pain anymore but think about those you left behind who carry blame and wonder if THEY were why you did it..Children shouldn't have to carry that guilt.. 
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| 4/28/2008 11:34:17 PM | How Selfish Are You? | |
italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53 online now!
| I really don't think that someone who commits suicide is even thinking of those they are leaving behind. Sometimes ppl are in such despair over things that we may be able to shrug off and not worry about. I think it's about them needing to end that pain that they are feeling, for whatever reason.
I'm sorry you and others have had to loose friends, spouses, family..to suicide.
If we could only see what is in the minds of others, we could intervene..but we can't and must not ever feel guilty that we could have prevented it.
It's sad and tragic...and I feel for them and those who grieve them...
hugs,
Italian
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| 4/28/2008 11:51:53 PM | How Selfish Are You? | |
notso
Ogden, UT
age: 35
| LadyDi, Thanks for posting that. I'm amazed and could not even fathem how horrible it must be for an individual to take their own life. For an individual to take someone elses life either. I had a couple of friends I had known for many, many moons both of whom took their lives. But the worst pain and anger from a suicide came when my very favorite cousin hung herself. She was beautiful! She was funny! She was talented! Had the most amazing voice, ever! She would sing Ava Maria in a huge catholic church, and if you didn't have tears in your eyes, then you'd get goose bumps places you didn't know you could get them!
She will be missed forever, by many. By me, so much.
When there are children who will be left behind, it makes this selfish deed even worse. For 1 thing, the family members who are going to have to find the words for these little ones. OMG! Death is hard enough to explain to tinys, let alone explaining to the that their parent decided to depart early because he/she was too spineless, and weak to stick it out. And try to convince the little ones that the early departure of this adult whom they adored & thought the world of had absolutely nothing to do with them!! Are you kidding me!? What kind of human being puts another in this situation!?
Good luck to your daughter. I hope she dosen't have to experience this again in her lifetime. And for this young mans little one, I will pray. And since you guys were close to him, stay close to his child. Can you even imagine, the short term & long term damage it will do. Be supportive!
God bless you all!
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| 4/29/2008 10:54:35 AM | How Selfish Are You? | |
romntclibra106
Biddeford, ME
age: 57 online now!
| When you think things are bad for you, consider there are others in a lot worse shape than you are. Be grateful for what you have.
I'm not selfish at all, but most people are unfortunately.
Try to look on the bright side and if things are bad for you now, realize that it will get better. Just give it time.
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