Why is it so difficult to get together? 31

4/28/2008 7:13:44 PM	Why is it so difficult to get together?
dar3407 Glen Burnie, MD age: 51	Lars, I met someone on here a month and a half ago and he was calling and emailing me almost everyday and we were suppose to meet this Sunday, but I haven't heard from him since Friday!! You know why he must be married!!!
4/28/2008 7:14:05 PM	Why is it so difficult to get together?
stylistic Rockville, MD age: 46	I have 2 on this sight,and a few from another, but just because you meet doesn't mean ,a match has been made.You do have to meet, its very important.
4/28/2008 7:23:05 PM	Why is it so difficult to get together?
lars38 Silvis, IL age: 39	Dar,that may or may not be the case ,but it sems like if someone gets busy we always assume the worst.When I first talked to someone after my divorce I kinda done the samething to someone I guess I was still a little scared to get involved with anyone so I just avoided her .I know wrong way to handle it.
4/28/2008 7:24:26 PM	Why is it so difficult to get together?
easymoney87 Panama City, FL age: 58	Lotsa different opinions responding to "WHY?". Distance seems to be the most common and I will have to agree that time & distance do make it tuff! Tried a LD relationship with I girl I've known for a few years! I was in Hilton Head Island, she, in Panama City, FL - that phone stuff got WAY too old, so I packed & moved back to FL! 10 hrs straight thru, & I know her - but to meet someone new? Quite a long shot by car! {NO PHOTO OF ME YET - GETTING PRINTER THIS WEEKEND] You'r not missing anything!!
4/28/2008 7:32:57 PM	Why is it so difficult to get together?
stylistic Rockville, MD age: 46	Do you all think it would be easier for people to meet in a group,instead of one to one?
4/28/2008 7:33:03 PM	Why is it so difficult to get together?
nevyn Prattville, AL age: 65	As promised I said I might have some additional information and now I have. Like many other males, when I first started with the dating sites I simply cast a search for 'females'. And of course it produced a lot of profiles. I simply did not pay much attention to location. After some frustrating failures of attempting to make contact I sat back and tried to understand not the search system, but myself. What the hell was I looking for? That was not an easy question to answer and it took awhile to untangle the synaptic connections. It came down to looking at what kind of future I wanted. Alone or with someone? I really don't like alone...so now find 'someone'. That meant looking in an area that would actually produce a result. As an example, if I was looking for my car keys I would not go across town to someplace I had never been to search for my keys. I would start at the home level and branch out. What I did was narrow my search to within 25 miles of my location. And began a communication process with females who lived in that area. Yes it was that simple but sometimes males can be really dumb. And what happened a few minutes ago? I called 'her' and we now have a 'meet for coffee' date on Thursday morning at 9am. So for the guys: narrow the search band, and make contact. And stop looking for air brushed pictures of beauties: over time looks fade. What then? A trade in because the air brush picture no longer matches reality? And for the gals: there is a lot of strange talk about not responding to winks, or those who have not recalled what is in her profile, or a zillion other insignificant things that have nothing to do with meeting people. A response can be 'thanks but no thanks', or tell me more'. But do respond...it validates people. Does this mean you should respond to the crude and lewd? OF COURSE NOT! Ignore those, but do respond to anyone who is simply trying to meet people.
4/28/2008 7:40:43 PM	Why is it so difficult to get together?
stylistic Rockville, MD age: 46	Nevyn, Thank you for the insight,I think you put the" how to keep it in your back yard" prospective.
4/28/2008 7:45:45 PM	Why is it so difficult to get together?
luvzhugz12 Richardson, TX age: 42	For me I know that it never fails, the date I'm supposed to have usually ends up postponed due to work. By the time I finally do get the time, they've got tired of trying to figure out my schedule. Boy if they only knew, it's as confusing to me Oh well, I love my job and the person who ends up loving me will understand that. Good thread.
4/28/2008 8:12:15 PM	Why is it so difficult to get together?
stylistic Rockville, MD age: 46	dar, Don't you feel you wasted your time? If he's not making a meet in a couple of emails and maybe a phone call,well you could have met him several times in the time you spent online and the phone. This is the point how lone do you spend on line when you could be out meeting people in person....I go out at least 3X a week with friends or by myself....!!! [Edited 4/28/2008 8:13:19 PM]
4/28/2008 8:33:14 PM	Why is it so difficult to get together?
mulemann Jefferson City, MO age: 48	I am willing to meet anyone within 50 miles of me, even if they are not really my "type" you can never get too many friends. There is also the posibility that they're type never appealed to you because you never knew one of those type. I never say "never" till I have met them
4/28/2008 9:16:40 PM	Why is it so difficult to get together?
katrina_sq Mena, AR age: 39	One other reason is that they may be a scammer trying to reel you in so they can ask for money. If they are really in Nigeria rather than wherever they say they are from, they realy can't do coffee, can they?
4/28/2008 9:36:23 PM	Why is it so difficult to get together?
bytar Spokane, WA age: 49	When I first joined I checked out all the local profiles, and if I fit their requirements, I emailed them with an invite for coffe or lunch they pick the place, my treat. My resoning was I like personnel contact, and how do you get to know somebody if you don't meet them. Most ladies I know have a real good sense within the first few minutes if they find the guy attactable are not. I did not get a single response. Since then I have tried a couple of times, but it has not worked out. So now I spend my time on posts that I find interesting and just enjoy all the wonderful personnalities out there. And like most of you have pointed out distance seems to be a hard to overcome.
4/28/2008 9:45:24 PM	Why is it so difficult to get together?
carolinaguy71 Boca Raton, FL age: 37	I am sorry but after reading these posts it makes me sad to think that people would not take that chance and risk a little thing like money come in between them and maybe their one true love. I mean I would travel to the ends of the earth if the connection is that strong, if its strong enough to make me spend the money then its worth the effort. If not then why bother?
4/28/2008 11:16:30 PM	Why is it so difficult to get together?
sdlove23 San Diego, CA age: 27	so you would spend all the money in the world to travel a long distance to meet someone you met in a dating site, is it so hard to find some single women and or men in your area?? You can meet decent women or men in a library, or at a local coffee shop even maybe in a shopping center. Has it become that people are scared to ask someone out you meet at the bus stop that you would feel it easier to talk to someone 100miles away from you?
4/28/2008 11:27:58 PM	Why is it so difficult to get together?
muffycakes Chanhassen, MN age: 26	One big reason why its difficult to meet up with someone is because of personal schedules. For the most part, I have to wait until the weekend to go out because I have school and work everyday during the week. Quite some time ago, I dated someone who only had time during the week. Obviously it didn't work for us at all otherwise, I wouldn't be here now.