| 4/28/2008 6:39:02 PM | **Ladies Advice please** guys to | |
teewood4u
Pahrump, NV
age: 42
| I met a lady from here we hit it off strong !! Inside of 3 weeks I was everything to her a great man and a crrying man and such .She is a doll we took each others heart ....
Then that phone call came one night I could here it in her voice the next few words where "can we be freinds " we both had tears so I let go.It tore me up inside,....Well a few weeks had past then we talked and she said she was just out of her relationship after only 4 months..
She stated its not fair to me that she can not give me her all yet so she said she wanted 4 months or so with no dates...I asked if when she was ready ,would she contact me and let me know she said yes.
I stated said I would call her every 3 weeks or so now I am not sure if I should do the following calls or let her just have space.
I know some times we need to give space divorces and break ups are tough!
I could never call her and always wonder.. Then hop a horse and let that pony run !
I know one thing I am blessed I always have a clear thoughts in my brain I know what I want and usally earn/get it...This is a person not a material item or buisness deal.
so advice plaese
Thank you,teewood4u
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| 4/28/2008 6:45:57 PM | **Ladies Advice please** guys to | |
snowbird1961
Los Lunas, NM
age: 47
| Let her have her space, but let her know you are there if she wants to talk.
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| 4/28/2008 6:50:51 PM | **Ladies Advice please** guys to | |
flowers68
Las Vegas, NV
age: 68
| I give her credit that she called and told you she was being honest and thats far and few that are and she told you now so that you would not get hurt later on. you sound like a very nice guy and there are a few of you left. I give you alot of respect that you are raising your kids and doing what is nessasary. Good luck in finding what you are looking for. Thank you for the hello. Listen to your heart and if you feel it is right to call her do if not don't when the time is right you will know.
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| 4/28/2008 6:52:43 PM | **Ladies Advice please** guys to | |
teewood4u
Pahrump, NV
age: 42
| Flowers and snow bird Thank you its nice to know that being a nice guy may still count! lol
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| 4/28/2008 6:54:08 PM | **Ladies Advice please** guys to | |
metu
Mansfield, TX
age: 46 online now!
| I'm so over the wishy-washies! You either want to date or you don't. Don't freakin' waste my time because you're feeling insecure or unsure. I don't mind being just friends...that's so cool...but don't take my heart for a ride.
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| 4/28/2008 7:05:08 PM | **Ladies Advice please** guys to | |
magtag
East York, ON
age: 41
| To a large degree I agree with Metu. Having said that, nothing wrong with a call to say "hello, how are you?" every few weeks if she agreed to this. BUT...don't sit around and wait for her to be "ready". Neither you nor she can determine when that will be and the perfect woman for you may come along and subsequently move along while you're waiting for someone to be "ready"!!
Go ahead and be her friend if you like for the time being, but do not put all your eggs in that basket, you may end up losing out on the best thing that ever happened to you! I have little tolerance for rollercoaster rides on the relationship plane and would not be willing to give more than pure friendship if in your shoes. JMO. Good luck to you!
edit: spelling
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| 4/28/2008 7:12:38 PM | **Ladies Advice please** guys to | |
maresleg
Ashford, WA
age: 59
| dont put your life on hold while she decides what she wants [COULD BE AN OMEN} you might be meeting another woman ----LUCAS
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| 4/28/2008 7:16:01 PM | **Ladies Advice please** guys to | |
midnight08
Clarksburg, WV
age: 37
| give her credit for being honest, but move on, she wants to play the field and have you waiting on her when she is done
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| 4/28/2008 7:20:47 PM | **Ladies Advice please** guys to | |
misssmatch
Cleveland, TN
age: 51
| i feel sorry for people going thru hard times after a breakup...we've all been there...its lonely and depressing at times...HOWEVER, breaking someone else's heart because you 'weren't ready' annoys me...
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| 4/28/2008 7:22:17 PM | **Ladies Advice please** guys to | |
whosyour51
Plymouth, IN
age: 57
| I think give the space but I wouldn't wait around might still be wanting what she had or going there. If she wants to play around alittle let it go . Good luck
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| 4/28/2008 7:23:27 PM | **Ladies Advice please** guys to | |
nejnay
Draper, UT
age: 23
| Stay friends but I think you should move on.
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| 4/28/2008 7:42:00 PM | **Ladies Advice please** guys to | |
hugsnlaughter
McKeesport, PA
age: 48
| It's great that she was honest with you but how can she know she will be "ready" after four monthes and then how does she know "you will be the one". I would keep in touch but definitely not sit and wait for her as that is not really fair to you.
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| 4/28/2008 7:47:13 PM | **Ladies Advice please** guys to | |
thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
| exactly metu. either u in it or you not. dude move on. she knows what she wants and really wants to do. move on dude.
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| 4/28/2008 7:49:49 PM | **Ladies Advice please** guys to | |
nursedanielle
Slidell, LA
age: 29
| the same thing happened to me. we were looking at houses to buy together and having our families meet. one night he slept over, the next morning we both had to work. he called from work and said that he thinks that he is not ready, he needs space. he never called again...
i just dont get it. i wish that i had something to tell you. i am in the same boat as you. i just wonder how can someone say that they love you, if they can walk away so easily. the hurt will still be there if they ever come back, and all the good that was there before would be damaged by that...
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| 4/28/2008 10:52:18 PM | **Ladies Advice please** guys to | |
prissychrissy
Flemingsburg, KY
age: 29
| Give her space but still let her know that your thinkin of her and that your here for her. Shes been hurt and she needs to know that your here for her.
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