A signal, or my imagination? 16

4/30/2008 12:42:46 PM	A signal, or my imagination?
ge0ge0 Tallahassee, FL age: 42 online now!	We need to the Virgo anal-itic in you
4/30/2008 12:48:38 PM	A signal, or my imagination?
gonesailingbabe Des Moines, IA age: 45	I agree that she is approaching you now because she is comfortable with you. She warmed up with you because the two of you shared an exchange which to her, made the space with you "safe". If you make the standard move at this point - then in her mind - you become "one of them". If you're at all interested in her - make no sudden moves and allow her to continue to feel comfortable gravitating toward you. Allow yourself to listen to what she communicates with you, so that you do learn and know her better during this....dating dance foreplay. If you're not interested in dating her - then pat her on the a** and say "I'll bet you say that to all the boys" and laugh. Done deal.
4/30/2008 12:49:33 PM	A signal, or my imagination?
oldeschoolcharm Monroe, WA age: 47	We need to the Virgo anal-itic in you Perhaps, but I could not say something so grammatically incorrect if I tried.
4/30/2008 12:53:58 PM	A signal, or my imagination?
gonesailingbabe Des Moines, IA age: 45	I thought it sounded like a cream or medicated ointment of some sort - olde???? Ge0 - you shouldn't give medical advice on a Dating site, without an associate's degree to practice medicine!!! As to the OP's original topic...had you been drinking when this occurred? Were there pink elephants present? May have been your imagination...but sounds more like female singals to me....! [Edited 4/30/2008 12:54:50 PM]
4/30/2008 1:04:02 PM	A signal, or my imagination?
bethlet Spokane, WA age: 50	Maybe she read your DH profile and saw that you make between 125K and 275K and decided she better start getting more drinks out of you. So didja miss me? Had a few technical difficulties. Honey, I'm Hoommmmmmme. And no, my name is NOT F'ing Elizabeth A. If someone wants to cam for verification, bring it on. [Edited 4/30/2008 1:07:32 PM]
4/30/2008 1:05:07 PM	A signal, or my imagination?
oldeschoolcharm Monroe, WA age: 47	Neither of us had been drinking to excess. She generally drinks diet soda, with the occasional "Washington Apple", perhaps one or two a night. Those of us who play pool generally drink very little. Also, I try to stay fit, and alcohol is calorie-dense. As for "one of them", well, if I have a chance to avoid the "friend zone", I'd like to, so I have to walk a fine line between "friendly" and "politely interested". But, I am not a lecherous pig -- I do seek long-term relationships, and I don't "use" people. It would be extremely out of character for me to "pat her on the ass" except if we already had an established dating relationship, she liked it, and she liked it publicly. I never made the choice between "sowing wild oats" and "settling down". I always preferred the idea of a long-term relationship. This accounts for how few, but meaningful, partners I've had.
4/30/2008 1:09:04 PM	A signal, or my imagination?
oldeschoolcharm Monroe, WA age: 47	Maybe she read your DH profile and saw that you make between 125K and 275K and decided she better start getting more drinks out of you. Well, then she's reading this and having a good laugh. I am generous with my friends and acquaintences, but generally don't buy drinks for my female friends unless I am buying "a round" for a bunch of us. Sometimes, when a couple of provocatively dressed 20-somethings come in, I'll buy them drinks, and walk away, just to mess with their heads. She'll accept a drink if a man insists, but she does not troll for free drinks, nor drink excessively. She'd probably reject an offer of a drink from a friend.
4/30/2008 1:22:14 PM	A signal, or my imagination?
bethlet Spokane, WA age: 50	To hell with drinks. I'd hit ya up for food and a trip to Cabo.
4/30/2008 1:46:10 PM	A signal, or my imagination?
oldeschoolcharm Monroe, WA age: 47	To hell with drinks. I'd hit ya up for food and a trip to Cabo. Ain't gonna happen. But, we knew you would think of that. And, don't forget: I have worn teeth. [Edited 4/30/2008 1:51:42 PM]
4/30/2008 2:07:47 PM	A signal, or my imagination?
mindyb Park Rapids, MN age: 44	omg...you guys....lol...just lean and snag a kiss and that will say it all...and its a hell of alot better than draggin out some dramam of what if its this what if its that...if she is interested in you ...you'll know..."is it in hios kiss"...like the song says. She is not testing you, she is either an affectionate person who uses the old fashioned term sweet heat loosly or she is interested in you and uses an old fashioned temr in the way she shows affection....most people I know use sweetheart when being a smartass but that does not appear to be the case here...quit over analyzing and jump on it tonto!!
4/30/2008 2:17:51 PM	A signal, or my imagination?
gonesailingbabe Des Moines, IA age: 45	Who confused Bethlet with Elli A??? They'd have to be a moron for damn certain! Elli A had zero class - beth, don't know how any body could have confused the two of you? Whacked. Olde- I still say over analyze. This gal isn't an easy one. And oh dear Lord do not follow mindy's advise and kiss her. Yike! (uhm, yeah I knew you were not the pat her on the a** kind of guy - which is why I suggested you do it. Would shock the shit out of you and her. Might be what you both need?)
4/30/2008 2:19:17 PM	A signal, or my imagination?
oldeschoolcharm Monroe, WA age: 47	She is not testing you, she is either an affectionate person who uses the old fashioned term sweet heat loosly or she is interested in you and uses an old fashioned temr in the way she shows affection Well, yes, but which is it? I like her enough as a person to not want to be overbearing if she is not interested -- that would be awkward. And, frankly, I don't generally kiss on the first date, so to kiss to "test interest", while effective, is WAY out of character for me. It's not that I fear rejection, or want to find that "perfect" approach. It's that if she's not interested, I don't want her to get uncomfortable over it. So, a bold move seems out of the question. I think I will take the approach GSB suggested with a little of ge0ge0's snarkiness.
4/30/2008 2:19:35 PM	A signal, or my imagination?
orioles2007 Joplin, MO age: 55	I don't know; this seems a bit odd. Genuine people,...usuaully don't throw mixed signals all that often. I think if there was a legitimate interest,..she could find a way of showing it better than her track record indicates. The ball is in her court. Her return wasn't exactly a 95 mph backhand; more like a lob. I wouldn't put TOO MUCH into all this.
4/30/2008 2:22:04 PM	A signal, or my imagination?
bethlet Spokane, WA age: 50	Hell, old school. Your old damn worn teeth would not bother me if I really wanted ya. I make bank. (EDIT: Yes, I LIE on my profile about what I make!) I'd haul your a** to the dentist and take care of that little issue once and for ALL. But then you'd have to write me a contract first, stating that you'd never leave me for at least some prescribed amount of indentured servitude time, and that you'd give me all the sex I wanted any time I wanted it, and you'd never say "Noooo, I'm TIRED". AND you'd have to give up your computer. [Edited 4/30/2008 2:24:59 PM]
4/30/2008 2:39:21 PM	A signal, or my imagination?
oldeschoolcharm Monroe, WA age: 47	you'd have to give up your computer. Noooooooooooooo!