| 4/30/2008 2:45:02 PM | A signal, or my imagination? | |
honestinlov4u
Abington, PA
age: 60
| Charm your comment:
If it wasn't my usual hangout, and she wasn't friends with some of my friends,
If that is true how did you know she was a regular...something seems amiss...
If you don't know if it was a hit, you seem able to be smooth enough to ask her if she would like to...fill in the blank...
I think if you know she is a regular, than you must know some of her friends and be able to talk to them...
Good luck.
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| 4/30/2008 2:45:17 PM | A signal, or my imagination? | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 47
| I think if there was a legitimate interest,..she could find a way of showing it better than her track record indicates.
No, duh! Hence the wondering on my part. If I didn't enjoy the prospect of getting to know her better, I wouldn't care one bit.
I think I'll just joke it off: "Only women who date me get to call me sweetheart."
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| 4/30/2008 2:47:48 PM | A signal, or my imagination? | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 47
| If that is true how did you know she was a regular...something seems amiss...
First time I saw her was Valentine's day. She is a friend of a regular and has been coming in since. We play pool often. She usually kicks my butt.
I guess some stealthy research and playful snarky flirting is in order.
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| 4/30/2008 2:49:27 PM | A signal, or my imagination? | |
imgenuine
Belle Vernon, PA
age: 60
| Hello All & oldschoolcharm:
You seem to be smittened and I suggest thast you keep it general without rushing things. I personally do not like the sweetheart etc. verbals, closeness, or flirty ways right away. She might be a player or she might not. Just try to keep it casual until you test the waters a bit more.
RC
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| 4/30/2008 2:52:54 PM | A signal, or my imagination? | |
jeremy_26
Great Falls, MT
age: 26
| You said she is a regular there.Do you know any of the people she does? If so what about asking them if she uses that term of endearment with them. If she dosen't then I think there maybe some thing a little more there.Just another thought. Keep it 
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| 4/30/2008 2:54:56 PM | A signal, or my imagination? | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 47
| Smitten? Yeah, a bit. Our interaction just seemed to change once I mentioned that I broke up with Eyes.
I don't do the whole "huggy/kissy/terms of endearment" thing casually either.
I will note that Eyes and I have been in there a couple of times when we were dating, and it was probably the only time anyone there has seen me physically affectionate with anyone -- I am usually quite reserved, and most would think me too stiff and stoic to even kiss someone.
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| 4/30/2008 2:58:12 PM | A signal, or my imagination? | |
bethlet
Spokane, WA
age: 50
| Stiff is not always a bad thing.
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| 4/30/2008 3:02:37 PM | A signal, or my imagination? | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 47
| Stiff is not always a bad thing.
[Edited 4/30/2008 3:03:23 PM]
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| 4/30/2008 3:09:01 PM | A signal, or my imagination? | |
bethlet
Spokane, WA
age: 50
| Stiff is usually a very reliable signal.  
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| 4/30/2008 3:09:58 PM | A signal, or my imagination? | |
nicksterdemus
Little Rock, AR
age: 51
| My money is own she was flirtin' w/youse coz ya broke up w/da udder broad.
Worse that can happen is ya get shot down n ya can blame it on bein' on the rebound so ya pride is still intact.
He who hesitates is lost...
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| 4/30/2008 3:21:25 PM | A signal, or my imagination? | |
misssmatch
Cleveland, TN
age: 52
| good grief...this is like middle school...!!!!!!! 
just be bold and find out what she wants...if someone likes me, i'd rather they just come out and do something about it...what have you got to lose? if she turns you down, you can get back to playing pool and life will return to normal...problem solved!! mm
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| 4/30/2008 3:25:09 PM | A signal, or my imagination? | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 47
| what have you got to lose?
Nothing, of course, except making someone I see on a regular basis uncomfortable, always wondering, "is he still hooked on me?"
I'd be a heck of a lot bolder if I was not seing her on a regular basis in that place.
I just HATE ambiguous signals!
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| 4/30/2008 3:27:36 PM | A signal, or my imagination? | |
nameofnick
North York, ON
age: 55
| If I were you, my emotions would say "SHE WANTS ME! Olle!" but my mind would say "hey... she knows she has to massage me harder for that blasted drink. She uncovered some of her camouflage... she knows I'd be a tougher customer of my drink for her nothing. So she plays me harder."
The best is to buy her a drink. That way it will go either way, you'll find out for sure. You won't be having to agonize over this. Advice: The customary touch that guys do to her... this time do it on a rather interesting spot, instead of a boring upper-arm or back. You should get something for your money. Be smarter than her. Touch smarter, not harder.
That will be a Vodka Martini, please, shaken, not stirred.
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| 4/30/2008 3:39:28 PM | A signal, or my imagination? | |
jangel53
Brampton, ON
age: 55
| yes, old charm, it's true there is a light at the end of the loneliness tunnel....
& it's a freight train with your name on it coming toward you. What part of, in the bar, showing disrespect, lying & leading other men around by the nose is attractive about this person? (sorry can't say lady, I'll choke.) I don't know you, you are wet behind the ears boy, you can do better. JMO
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| 4/30/2008 3:47:46 PM | A signal, or my imagination? | |
oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 47
| No nick... she doesn't "troll" for drinks. I've seen the kind. She'll be on the way to the bar to get a diet soft drink and get intercepted by "Mr. Hopeful & Horny". Of course, she'll get a drink out of the fool!
What part of, in the bar, showing disrespect, lying & leading other men around by the nose is attractive about this person?
What's wrong with playing pool in a bar?
How is she disrespectful?
How is she lying?
How is she leading anyone around by the nose?
Oh, wait, you're from Ontario. Never mind. In Canada, the norm is to not accept any offer unless one is willing to reciprocate in the customary matter. To do so is "impolite" and deceitful.
Heck, down here, if you're foolish enough to offer a drink, unsolicited, and get nothing out of it, it's your own stupidity! "I have a boyfriend" is the classic way to get rid of unwanted male attention. A lie? Perhaps, but appropriate to turn off someone about to try to cop a feel 'cause he bought you a drink.
[Edited 4/30/2008 4:01:24 PM]
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